Elementary School Teacher, Gay Spouse Found Dead of Murder-Suicide After Allegations of Child Sex Abuse

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    Sep 04, 2016 10:24 PM GMT
    I wasn't sure if I should post this story or not. This happened during this intense astrological alignment. Very sad. Gay men need to watch themselves in the teaching world, this is not normal even for our community icon_confused.gif

    We are coming out earlier and earlier, we still must be aware of age limitations



    A primary school teacher and his husband have been found dead on a beach following claims they sexually abused teenage boys.

    Aric Babbitt, 40, and 36-year-old Matthew Deyo died in a “murder-suicide” after being put under investigation over allegations of sexual contact with several boys.

    Police attempted to speak to the couple at their home in South St Paul, Minnesota, USA, after a 16-year-old boy claimed he was involved in a sexual relationship with them.

    However, neither man provided a statement – and it is reported they instead borrowed Deyo’s brother’s gun and left the city.

    Nine days later, after the couple failed to contact family for over a week, a kayaker discovered their bodies on a beach on Lopez Island, Washington – almost 2,000 miles away – with both having suffered gunshot wounds to the head.

    The Twin Cities Pioneer Press reports that coroner Randall Gaylord has since ruled Deyo shot his husband, before turning the gun on himself on August 24.

    A suicide note was reportedly found alongside the bodies – and Babbitt’s sister, Sara, later revealed the family had received a letter from the pair.

    In a text message sent to loved ones, she reportedly alluded to the sexual abuse investigation – saying the pair “felt like they didn’t have an out and ending their lives was best for them”.

    She said: “We received a letter from them in the mail yesterday.

    “We are all devastated and in a lot of pain.”

    Babbitt and Deyo had not been charged with any crime, but were being investigated after their alleged victim went to police on August 14.

    The teenager, who cannot be named, claimed the couple bought him gifts and had sex with him – while Babbitt, who taught children as young as six, had agreed to mentor him when he came out as gay to his family.

    Documents seen by the Star Tribune also revealed the boy said the pair gave him underwear and took him to a jazz concert and handed over pictures of himself naked with Babbitt, telling police he didn’t want ‘to do this, but felt unsure about how to say no’.

    At least two other victims also reportedly came forward – and Babbitt was suspended from his teaching role.

    During a subsequent search of the couple’s home, officials also found a hidden camera in the bathroom and a computer folder named ‘Kiddies’.

    The coroner recorded a verdict of murder in Babbitt’s death, while Deyo was ruled to have died by suicide.

    The investigation into the alleged sexual abuse is ongoing.
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    Sep 06, 2016 2:31 PM GMT
    ELNathB said... Gay men need to watch themselves in the teaching world, this is not normal even for our community
    We are coming out earlier and earlier, we still must be aware of age limitations...
    just to be totally clear gay or straight the age of consent is a real number. It may address whatever primal need in some people but at some point age difference makes it not a date. Over all humans dont make good pets.
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    Sep 06, 2016 3:34 PM GMT
    I've got mixed emotions about this and also about some of the comments. Any adult who has sex with someone under the age of consent is a fool and asking for trouble. Especially a teacher. But the kid was 16 and not a student under the teacher (who taught elementary), just some kid. My guess is the kid was exploring his sexuality and picked them up. And later panicked when caught, most likely by his parents. Who are probably homophobic assholes. Doesn't excuse the two adults but any 16 year old guy knows exactly what he's doing. I did at that age and younger. "In Europe, countries who have the age of consent set at 16 include Cyprus, Finland, Georgia, Latvia, Lithuania, Luxembourg, the Netherlands, Norway, and Switzerland. For Austria, Germany, Portugal and Italy it is 14, and in France, the Czech Republic, Denmark, and Greece it is 15." America is fucked up about sex and isn't telling kids to grow up and take individual responsibility for their lives. Or education or anything else. Leads to lazy adults. And lazy thinking. And also empowers crazy-ass religious parents (Republicans) who like to force their crazy on others (so much for limited government). I'm tired of people who run to cops, psychiatrists, lawyers, politicians instead of controlling their own lives.
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    Sep 06, 2016 7:16 PM GMT
    there is a legal concept of professionals in a "Position of Trust" that they absolutely must follow the letter of the law and held to a higher standard. For example; lawyers cant get DUI's and cops cant rob banks.
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    Sep 07, 2016 9:36 PM GMT
    Good to see neither the article nor anyone here yet screaming pedophilia, because this, at least as so far described, is not that. This reads more like ephebophilia...

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ephebophilia...adult sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19...

    Generally, the preference is not regarded by psychologists as a pathology when it does not interfere with other major areas of one's life, and is not listed by name as a mental disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition (DSM-5), the ICD-10, or as a paraphilia.

    ..which is not, as was screamed by a poster above, a perversion in its own rights--well, at least not until the murder/suicide. It was, however, stupid and wrong. What I find particularly odd is that this was with a same-aged couple, because the one guy I knew who was ephebophilia-oriented was incapable or unwilling of having same-aged intimacies. This teacher case would almost look like nothing more than a curiosity hadn't others also come forward (assuming the accusers truthful).

    If this was ephebophilia, then the elementary school children would have still been safe in the teacher's care because if that and nothing else then he'd not see the younger children as sexual. But the perception given public sexual awareness would be real hard if not impossible to overcome. And certainly the legalities are non-negotiable, particularly when tasked with the care of the children of others.

    Tough to imagine teachers being this stupid.

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    Sep 07, 2016 10:39 PM GMT
    ^Thanks for bringing that up

    Hes very cute, has come out at 16 years old and talks about how young they are now when they do come out. This young man will probably be a very good looking 20 something gay man. Regardless how young they are coming out, according to LAW, there still is statutory limitations for sexually active people under the age of 18 straight or gay, I would gladly 'hook up' with this young man when he is at least 21 years of age (that is my own personal limit).

    Meantime, if this young man is out and wants to experience gay sex, he himself should stick with guys his same age or slightly younger. Once he himself passes the 18 year old age threshold though, he can no longer have sex with those younger guys now coming out. Its really tragic what happened to this teacher and his husband. With 'coming out You Tube videos' everywhere, our community is in new territory

    He wants a beard, I am sure he would look good with one. Just from this, we can assume he will be in the "bear & otter" class icon_razz.gif

    Hes only 16 and he talks like a 30 year old icon_eek.gif