Gay forums, becoming a thing of the past?

  • LDRunner

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    Sep 05, 2016 2:43 AM GMT
    I remember the days of 2001 through like 2009 there were many gay forum sites and they were active and fun.

    Nowadays, what gay forums are still left and are actually active? This is one of few in the US...if not the only one and I've noticed traffic and activity has substantially slown down from the past. What's the future look like for "gay forums?" Do u think this site will eventually go defunct? And if it does, what are the implications for all of us?
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    Sep 05, 2016 9:39 AM GMT
    Agreed. Gay online discussion is almost dead.
    What comes next? I have no ideas.
  • leanandclean

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    Sep 05, 2016 12:24 PM GMT
    I think more people use apps for their social interactions than web sites.

    In the case of realjock, activity on the forums seems to have gone down a lot since the redesign.
  • daveindenver

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    Sep 05, 2016 2:17 PM GMT
    The redesign DEFINITELY inspired me me to come to this site less often

    Maybe im not the only one.

    Hey moderator (if you exist...)
    You've heard this before: how about letting people choose which site format they use?

    Couldn't hurt, at this point.
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    Sep 05, 2016 2:22 PM GMT
    As one user noted, the apps have taken popularity. I use this site on my mobile browser and it takes a bit of patience to move through.
  • Import

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    Sep 05, 2016 2:31 PM GMT
    Agreed. Forums are a relic from the earlier days of the internet.
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    Sep 05, 2016 4:40 PM GMT
    LDRunner saidI remember the days of 2001 through like 2009 there were many gay forum sites and they were active and fun.

    Nowadays, what gay forums are still left and are actually active? This is one of few in the US...if not the only one and I've noticed traffic and activity has substantially slown down from the past. What's the future look like for "gay forums?" Do u think this site will eventually go defunct? And if it does, what are the implications for all of us?


    Forum, a place, meeting, or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged.

    Just last week, a relative told me people do not want to spend time together. To the extent that's true, forums are less active.

    People are busy managing survival.
    If they are working jobs with little or no vacation, they are too busy.
    They may be going to school. With some schools costing $50,000+ per year, one must get every minute worth of it, which means not participating in forums.
    They may not have enough time to workout, so they're busy trying to stay in shape.
    Chores pile up which takes them from forums.
    People have more distractions.
    People have less control over their society so why even have discussions in forums? "What will talking do about it?"
    There aren't enough local people in the forums.

    I like the forums.
    Forums help people learn more than what the media tells us.

    Will this site go defunct?
    RealJock does not seem to do PR work. Has it appeared in the Advocate, Instinct, the Village Voice (NYC), GQ, LA Times?
    What celebrities have been launched from this community?

    It shouldn't go defunct. If there are no bars and no forums, where is culture. I went down to the gay strip in Dallas, in the daytime to walk the one block strip on the other side of the gay nightclub S4--it is not Christopher Street NYC. The one shop I was looking for was taken over by Andrew Christian--the shop lost its local flair to be mostly a front-of-the-store Andrew Christian underwear boutique.

    No bars, no forums, no strips, no churches; but, I do think in NYC, people still go to the Center on 13th Street. In Dallas, a big upgrade is being done to the Center here.

    Real Jock is more humanizing than Manhunt.net, Adam4Adam, and Craigslist.
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    Sep 05, 2016 5:04 PM GMT
    I think we all have experienced this homogenization of the gay community. Gay bars, clubs, neighborhood are disappearing as straight folks integrate with us. It is a sign of progress that we are being accepted but at the same time given that there are only 3% of us in the general population, we will be diluted making it harder to find lovers, friends.

    realjock.com is probably experiencing similar phenomenon except straight jocks are not joining this site but instead gay jocks are probably joining straight jock sites, like bodybuilding.com.

    I am not sure the redesign of realjock.com improves the gay user experience. IT is not mobile friendly, very slow, and requires greater amount of gestures to get at the contents.

    I still like realjock.com though. I think over time the phenomenon may be cyclical as gay jocks will flood back to their own community.

  • honestsweat

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    Sep 05, 2016 7:06 PM GMT
    The forum concept is very dated. Most people seem to interact (loose definition there) on apps that are highly visual and require 10-15 of concentration. Insta seems to be where most traffic is headed.

    Also, Realjock did not do itself any favors by allowing certain members to continually post to the forums -- day in and day out -- without accompanying their posts with a comment or thought. Again and again.

    If the function of the forums is to engage so that a sense of community is established, and page views are longer, which helps attract advertisers, merely posting a headline, or a link to a news website, without so much as a "Did you see this?" or "What do you guys think?" or "This is awesome!" was counterproductive.

    It resulted in large numbers of RJ visitors anticipating that each and every forum post would be exactly like that, merely a link to a news site. So, they stopped reading the forum posts. And, since the forum posts were there to promote a sense of community, and the forum posts were no longer serving that function, large numbers of RJ members stopped visiting the site.

    RJ members did not join RJ because they wanted the site to be a news aggregator. If that was what they were looking for they would have visited Google News or one of the dozens of other sites dedicated to that function.
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    Sep 05, 2016 7:10 PM GMT
    Sad but true.
    Image result for bret easton ellis people are afraid to merge gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 05, 2016 7:13 PM GMT
    Very sad to see what has happened to this RealJock site. What was once a vibrant, beautiful, fun site to visit is like a vast wasteland shell of what it once was.
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    Sep 05, 2016 7:47 PM GMT
    honestsweat saidAlso, Realjock did not do itself any favors by allowing certain members to continually post to the forums -- day in and day out -- without accompanying their posts with a comment or thought. Again and again.

    It resulted in large numbers of RJ visitors anticipating that each and every forum post would be exactly like that, merely a link to a news site. So, they stopped reading the forum posts. And, since the forum posts were there to promote a sense of community, and the forum posts were no longer serving that function, large numbers of RJ members stopped visiting the site.

    RJ members did not join RJ because they wanted the site to be a news aggregator. If that was what they were looking for they would have visited Google News or one of the dozens of other sites dedicated to that function.


    Interesting observation but am not sure this is entirely accurate.

    Some of the threads that garnered the most views, the most comments among RJ members, have been threads started by the thought provoking thesis of a newspaper article. For example, the RJ thread on atheism that I started was based on a newspaper article but it sparked over 10,000 views and over 1000 comments containing passionate, insightful and painful philosophical arguments among RJ members. Some of whom even revealed personal history of being gay, how their families used religions to reject who they are, and resting in atheism to abandon beliefs that were antagonistic to what they were born into and not what they choose to do.

  • nick773

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    Sep 05, 2016 8:02 PM GMT
    I agree more people are using apps.
  • LDRunner

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    Sep 05, 2016 8:11 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidI think we all have experienced this homogenization of the gay community. Gay bars, clubs, neighborhood are disappearing as straight folks integrate with us. It is a sign of progress that we are being accepted but at the same time given that there are only 3% of us in the general population, we will be diluted making it harder to find lovers, friends.

    realjock.com is probably experiencing similar phenomenon except straight jocks are not joining this site but instead gay jocks are probably joining straight jock sites, like bodybuilding.com.

    I am not sure the redesign of realjock.com improves the gay user experience. IT is not mobile friendly, very slow, and requires greater amount of gestures to get at the contents.

    I still like realjock.com though. I think over time the phenomenon may be cyclical as gay jocks will flood back to their own community.


    But has the redesign really done anything to vastly change the experience for users here? For me it's a resounding No.
    Yes, it looks a little different, but it's still the "same ol" site.

    I really don't see any future for forums in general, especially gay forums like this. It's unfortunate becasue I still continue to enjoy to post and discuss gay-related things, but when I come on here I notice it's not a very robust community anymore. A few people post things, maybe a few responses related to the topic than somehow, inevitably it trails off into a bitch fest or off topic or whatever.

    Just like intenet chatrooms, geocity websites, and "punch the monkey ads" this too shall see it's demise.
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    Sep 05, 2016 9:32 PM GMT
    Unexpectedly, a few RJ members are restoring my faith in forums.
    Especially in the travel forums, you guys are great.
  • honestsweat

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    Sep 06, 2016 1:08 AM GMT
    So the big question here is did you post only the headline and a link to the article? Or did you also include a comment of your own?

    woodsmen said
    honestsweat saidAlso, Realjock did not do itself any favors by allowing certain members to continually post to the forums -- day in and day out -- without accompanying their posts with a comment or thought. Again and again.

    It resulted in large numbers of RJ visitors anticipating that each and every forum post would be exactly like that, merely a link to a news site. So, they stopped reading the forum posts. And, since the forum posts were there to promote a sense of community, and the forum posts were no longer serving that function, large numbers of RJ members stopped visiting the site.

    RJ members did not join RJ because they wanted the site to be a news aggregator. If that was what they were looking for they would have visited Google News or one of the dozens of other sites dedicated to that function.


    Interesting observation but am not sure this is entirely accurate.

    Some of the threads that garnered the most views, the most comments among RJ members, have been threads started by the thought provoking thesis of a newspaper article. For example, the RJ thread on atheism that I started was based on a newspaper article but it sparked over 10,000 views and over 1000 comments containing passionate, insightful and painful philosophical arguments among RJ members. Some of whom even revealed personal history of being gay, how their families used religions to reject who they are, and resting in atheism to abandon beliefs that were antagonistic to what they were born into and not what they choose to do.

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    Sep 06, 2016 2:16 AM GMT
    honestsweat saidSo the big question here is did you post only the headline and a link to the article? Or did you also include a comment of your own?

    woodsmen said
    honestsweat saidAlso, Realjock did not do itself any favors by allowing certain members to continually post to the forums -- day in and day out -- without accompanying their posts with a comment or thought. Again and again.

    It resulted in large numbers of RJ visitors anticipating that each and every forum post would be exactly like that, merely a link to a news site. So, they stopped reading the forum posts. And, since the forum posts were there to promote a sense of community, and the forum posts were no longer serving that function, large numbers of RJ members stopped visiting the site.

    RJ members did not join RJ because they wanted the site to be a news aggregator. If that was what they were looking for they would have visited Google News or one of the dozens of other sites dedicated to that function.


    Interesting observation but am not sure this is entirely accurate.

    Some of the threads that garnered the most views, the most comments among RJ members, have been threads started by the thought provoking thesis of a newspaper article. For example, the RJ thread on atheism that I started was based on a newspaper article but it sparked over 10,000 views and over 1000 comments containing passionate, insightful and painful philosophical arguments among RJ members. Some of whom even revealed personal history of being gay, how their families used religions to reject who they are, and resting in atheism to abandon beliefs that were antagonistic to what they were born into and not what they choose to do.



    The thread title is my own to provoke the discussion. I did extract a small portion of the article for RJ member to read to get started. And I provided a link to provide the proper attribution of the source.
  • honestsweat

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    Sep 06, 2016 2:31 AM GMT
    Thanks. In case I did not make myself clear with this comment:
    << saidAlso, Realjock did not do itself any favors by allowing certain members to continually post to the forums -- day in and day out -- without accompanying their posts with a comment or thought. Again and again. >>

    I am not referring to the type of post you made. You posted the headline and took the time and made the effort to include a section of the article in order to encourage a discussion.

    I am referring to the posts made by some members that are simply a copy/paste job of the headline. It requires No thought. No effort. No caring. No commitment.

    Instead, they just copy/paste the headline and Boom, they think they have done a wonderful job and deserve a star.

    THOSE are the kinds of posts that have driven RJers away.



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    Sep 06, 2016 3:22 AM GMT
    LDRunner saidI remember the days of 2001 through like 2009 there were many gay forum sites and they were active and fun.
    Do u think this site will eventually go defunct?


    The forums are pretty much dead. But the site continues to be active. There are usually around 600 guys online at any one time. But the vast majority of those 600 never post to forums - they are looking at pics, and/or sending emails to each other.
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    Sep 06, 2016 3:43 AM GMT
    honestsweat saidThe forum concept is very dated. Most people seem to interact (loose definition there) on apps that are highly visual and require 10-15 of concentration. Insta seems to be where most traffic is headed.


    I do not like highly visual websites/apps.
    Second, some people prefer visual information, some people prefer wordy information.
    I do not have an Instagram account and do not want one. After trying Pinterest, I definitely do not want Instagram.
    If Facebook friends have photography as a hobby or more, I like looking at the images of friends, not strangers.
    If I want images, I might go to National Geographic photographs.
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    Sep 06, 2016 3:45 AM GMT
    nick773 saidI agree more people are using apps.


    I do not like smartphone apps. I prefer a laptop with a side 22"/23" monitor and a regular size keyboard. (That's why forums may be declining because there is NO WAY I would be pointing at letters to write a forum post.)
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    Sep 06, 2016 3:58 AM GMT
    Smart phones really do not replace computers (or wordprocessors).
    Smart phones are not wordprocessors, therefore, smart phones are not all that smart, and more importantly a smart phone is not a forum tool.

    Maybe voice recognition dictation could help forums.

    Even if I got a Samsung S7 Active and a phone watch, I'm not getting on a forum to be active.

    No, the conclusions drawn above are in error. I see people leaving responses on articles everywhere (think, HuffingtonPost, youtube, newspaper letters to the editors, amazon.com reviews and comments). Also think the micro-forums of tweets at Twitter.

    And if you need further proof that forums are alive and doing well, go to www.astro.com and see their forums. People appreciate forums.
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    Sep 06, 2016 4:00 AM GMT
    LDRunner saidI remember the days of 2001 through like 2009 there were many gay forum sites and they were active and fun.

    Nowadays, what gay forums are still left and are actually active? This is one of few in the US...if not the only one and I've noticed traffic and activity has substantially slown down from the past. What's the future look like for "gay forums?" Do u think this site will eventually go defunct? And if it does, what are the implications for all of us?


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    LDRunner said
    woodsmen saidI think we all have experienced this homogenization of the gay community. Gay bars, clubs, neighborhood are disappearing as straight folks integrate with us. It is a sign of progress that we are being accepted but at the same time given that there are only 3% of us in the general population, we will be diluted making it harder to find lovers, friends.

    realjock.com is probably experiencing similar phenomenon except straight jocks are not joining this site but instead gay jocks are probably joining straight jock sites, like bodybuilding.com.

    I am not sure the redesign of realjock.com improves the gay user experience. IT is not mobile friendly, very slow, and requires greater amount of gestures to get at the contents.

    I still like realjock.com though. I think over time the phenomenon may be cyclical as gay jocks will flood back to their own community.


    But has the redesign really done anything to vastly change the experience for users here? For me it's a resounding No.
    Yes, it looks a little different, but it's still the "same ol" site.

    I really don't see any future for forums in general, especially gay forums like this. It's unfortunate becasue I still continue to enjoy to post and discuss gay-related things, but when I come on here I notice it's not a very robust community anymore. A few people post things, maybe a few responses related to the topic than somehow, inevitably it trails off into a bitch fest or off topic or whatever.

    Just like intenet chatrooms, geocity websites, and "punch the monkey ads" this too shall see it's demise.


    Your integrity is about as solid as your active-since-yesterday profile is complete and verified.
  • Apparition

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    Sep 06, 2016 4:15 AM GMT
    pretty much every forum died in 2008. people are just too desperate for money now.