Eleven saidThis is the kind of attitude older gentlemen have that I find to be a real turn off..
When are you gonna realise that those men in the locker room are not sexual objects for you to gawk at??
Have some respect, you are a stranger to them, they owe you nothing. Maybe if you were at the gym to work out rather then to get your rocks off you wouldnt have a problem.
What a wanker
An observation and a comment about our changing US social norms does not automatically equate to "gawking". Don't make assumptions.
During my 25 years in the US military I realized that looking at other naked guys made you suspected of being a "homo". At a time when I honestly believed I wasn't one. Although I might in fact have wanted to look, I couldn't look, and didn't.
So I learned to put on mental blinders, and saw nothing. It was more the straight guys who were "gawking" to check each other out for size. I could go into a locker room, an open gang shower, a naked men's sauna or hot tub, and couldn't tell you how big any guys were, if they were circumcised or not, nothing.
But I couldn't help but see some guys in recent years struggling to dress under a towel. Or wearing a swimsuit into a gang shower, when all the other guys were naked. That behavior kinda stands out.
Genuine "old pervs" are surprisingly rare in locker rooms. Consider whether there's a bit of projection and imagination happening on your part. When I DID feel the urge for a little looking & playing when I was single & out I'd go to an upscale gay bathhouse. And Indulge myself. Not just allowed, it was expected. Then next time back at the straight Y locker room I'd return to blinders mode.
Don't assume anything about older guys. Not about the OP, not about me, and not about other seniors. If you can't appreciate the sophistication (for want of a better word, or complexity perhaps) that comes with age & experience then I can't help you. We are not defined nor confined by the false expectations & faulty knowledge of relatively inexperienced younger men who haven't yet gotten as many years under their belts.