People to talk to

  • Musicman91

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    Sep 12, 2016 4:13 AM GMT
    Have you ever felt like you need someone to talk to? I've been feeling like that a lot lately. I don't really have anyone I can talk to. I'm not particularly close with my family. I don't have a lot of friends since most stopped talking to me when I came out and I am too busy with work to really make new ones. I am on apps like Scruff and Grindr but I'm not an Adonis so I obviously get ignored by everyone. I just feel lonely a lot of the time and would like someone to talk to. I think it might be the area I am in. Maybe I need to move but I have no idea where.

    Sorry for the whining but I needed to vent somewhere ha.
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    Sep 12, 2016 4:24 AM GMT
    Musicman91 saidHave you ever felt like you need someone to talk to? I've been feeling like that a lot lately. I don't really have anyone I can talk to. I'm not particularly close with my family. I don't have a lot of friends since most stopped talking to me when I came out and I am too busy with work to really make new ones. I am on apps like Scruff and Grindr but I'm not an Adonis so I obviously get ignored by everyone. I just feel lonely a lot of the time and would like someone to talk to. I think it might be the area I am in. Maybe I need to move but I have no idea where.

    Sorry for the whining but I needed to vent somewhere ha.


    The impulse to talk to someone is a good one, healthy and sane. Are you interested in "talk to" as in phoning, or "talk to" as in emailing back and forth? I'm not a good candidate for phone chats; but emailing/RJ private messaging back and forth is right up my, um, alley...(just remember I'm not online all the time)... Take care, bud!
  • nice_chap

    Posts: 274

    Sep 12, 2016 10:31 AM GMT
    what about work colleagues? Are you able to talk to them?
    I'm lucky enough to have co-workers who I get along with great and chat with about all kinds of things that are bothering me. I can have a laugh with them as well.
    I do get along with my family, but I don't really talk to them about things that are bothering me because I don't like feeling that I still need them to sort out my problems (I'm the youngest in my family and it has taken me a really long time to find my independence and confidence)

    Sometimes I have a better time at work than when I go out and socialize, which might sound sad, but I am able to de-stress with my co-workers because we face the same kind of frustrations every day, so we're able to support each other. If I'm socializing with people from outside of my job and outside of my family life, I feel that I have to make more of a good impression, which means keeping quiet about things that are bothering me.
  • badbug

    Posts: 800

    Sep 13, 2016 12:24 AM GMT

    Finding people to talk to doesn't seem too hard, keeping them seems damn near impossible.

    I've sort of given up on the idea of "friendship" occuring in as idealistic a manner as i had hoped when i was younger. Now i generally have no time for anyone because i expect it won't lead to anywhere so why bother investing emotionally? If someone is nice i'll talk to them in the context of our meeting, at the park walking the dog or in the grocery store if i crack a joke waiting in line or whatever but beyond that i am just looking to fuck or find that special someone who'll date me for a few years then get bored and dump me or act increasingly annoyingly towards me until i am forced to dump them.

    I like the idea of meeting someone that i would want to talk to about my day or dreams or just the latest MMA fights but nobody really gives a shit and if they do, i have found it's usually not for very long unless you are super convenient (live close to them, have a fridge full of beer they can always rely on) or unless they are trying to fuck you even though you are pretty clear you ain't looking for that from them.




  • joxguy

    Posts: 236

    Sep 13, 2016 5:27 PM GMT
    Hey yes have been there. If you need to talk, nothing else unless it comes up. joxguy on skype or joxguy31@yahoo.com

    Dan
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    Sep 13, 2016 5:48 PM GMT


    You are not alone.
  • Eleven

    Posts: 149

    Sep 13, 2016 6:14 PM GMT
    Seems like youre too busy to make friends....

    Dont use Apps like grindr and scruff to make friends, guys are on there for sex, youre asking for too much if its more than a hookup...

    Join a team sport....

    Become a thespian and audition for a local theatre, if you want friends thats the best gig.

    Get a better job.

    Yeh I dont know, personally I prefer my alone time, I always feel like me alone time is always running out.