same sex marriage totally minimual

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    Sep 14, 2016 1:58 PM GMT
    for all the struggle and attention it got same sex marriage is really minimal.
    If you look at the current numbers it really tiny insignificant:
    In Denver 0.3% of the marriages were same sex.
    Only in a few places in the country did the number of same sex marriages rise above 2%.
    the initial same sex marriages, in a large, represented stable gay couples already emotionally partnered for many years.

    Federal marriage is an option for loving couples. Giving them access to a class of citizens having more tax, business and retirement law situations. Its is a choice, not a life goal.


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    Sep 14, 2016 2:59 PM GMT
    New Mexico and Arizona are a bit surprising. Some of the luke-warm spots may just be such a small population that the % rises even with few gay marriages, like upper Minnesota or the big bend area of Florida. Interesting. And as you say, not all gay couples, even long term couples, are married.
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    Sep 14, 2016 3:22 PM GMT
    This is completely natural that it might take even generations for us to better trust each other with these new rights and responsibilities that we've not known before, not just in living memory but for 1000s of years. Besides that we've not had the years--the generations--to develop that psyche, also working against that is living within a culture which calls for men to be independent. My sister-in-law hasn't worked outside of raising kids, caring for the house, since she married my brother. But besides that they've a wonderful relationship, she knows her future is set. But we don't have a background to trust that. We don't have a lifetime or generations of lives of being able to trust that someone might look after us or might not try to just steal from us. Str8s have years of this structure. For us it was all pretty abstract until just now. We're familiar with it. We might want it. We certainly deserve having equal rights & responsibilities. But that will take time to incorporate into the collective and individual psyches.

    I would not have expected the numbers to be very high not just at this point but even over the next few decades. Let that not detract from our celebration our deserved victory.
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    Sep 15, 2016 9:27 PM GMT
    These figures are for the percentage of marriages that are gay in each area and tell us nothing about the percentage of gays that are married.

    That bring said, I do think we are fortunate to have many models of successful relationships of which marriage is just one.