Sep 18, 2016 4:22 AM GMT
Hi,
I have noticed in past hookups, relationships, and even mere friendships, that the aspect of unattainability - the guy being "hard to get" - always evokes a sense of mystery that really attracts me. I am not talking about a guy who is boringly indifferent towards me, douchebaggy, etc, but more about a guy who reserves his tricks for later on, who doesn't need to "reveal his deck" right off the bat. A guy who doesn't show that he is desperate for a connection because he already has so many interesting things in his life. This can be manifested in sex, wherein the guy for example would not gush over me with compliments, and would only slowly and gradually show me the tricks in his basket. Even later in the relationship, once I know the guy, I want him to keep evoking in me a desire to pursue him (intellectually and sexually). What I am pondering is, if I not only pursue a guy like that but also take on that approach myself - attracting the guy I'm with by the virtue of my unattainability - would I grow less attracted to my potential partner? If I exude the vibe of "I am not necessarily gushing over you" would I become inherently less enthused by that guy? Do any of you guys exude this vibe? Please share more beyond the scope of my questions.
I have noticed in past hookups, relationships, and even mere friendships, that the aspect of unattainability - the guy being "hard to get" - always evokes a sense of mystery that really attracts me. I am not talking about a guy who is boringly indifferent towards me, douchebaggy, etc, but more about a guy who reserves his tricks for later on, who doesn't need to "reveal his deck" right off the bat. A guy who doesn't show that he is desperate for a connection because he already has so many interesting things in his life. This can be manifested in sex, wherein the guy for example would not gush over me with compliments, and would only slowly and gradually show me the tricks in his basket. Even later in the relationship, once I know the guy, I want him to keep evoking in me a desire to pursue him (intellectually and sexually). What I am pondering is, if I not only pursue a guy like that but also take on that approach myself - attracting the guy I'm with by the virtue of my unattainability - would I grow less attracted to my potential partner? If I exude the vibe of "I am not necessarily gushing over you" would I become inherently less enthused by that guy? Do any of you guys exude this vibe? Please share more beyond the scope of my questions.