mcbrion saidSo, these would be people who are psychologically unstable. To be able to play with the emotions of others is not the mark of an adult, emotionally speaking, someone capable of empathy, kindness or goodwill.
In other words, someone who is angry and hostile inside, and who doesn't mind trying to create that emotion in others. ("Misery loves company.")
No, that's not a page in any book I hold near and dear to my heart. I can see someone wanting to show themselves off to their best advantage and having photos that flatter them, but to outright lead someone else on with bad intention at the start? Again: unstable person.
I agree that its maybe a sign of weakness in maturity level. I guess its different where you are. In my region people only have fun until they are bored,so they disregard you emotion or your kindness. Don't we all have that bad evilsh side within ourselves?[
My "region" is San Francisco. Lived there a long, long time, starting in the early 70s, when contacting someone was face to face or through newspaper ads, or through friends. And there were many guys who had issues that were not merely "immature," but downright dangerous, as I described above. It's more a matter of knowing what's simple boredom and what then crosses the line into pathology. Immaturity is simply underdevelopment of the psyche. I'm no expert on catfishing, but the description goes a bit beyond just immaturity, at least from the descriptions posted here. It's just that people are so accustomed to a level of isolation or else nastiness in today's world, that they marginalize bad behavior far more than they should. People then become desensitized because it happens so much, not realizing it reduces their sense of trust. And it's downhill from there. But if you can laugh it off, that's great for you. From reading posts, it doesn't sound as though a great many guys can differentiate between just "odd" behavior and "RED FLAG" behavior.