Do you ever catfish people?

  • AnonymKOIA

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    Sep 18, 2016 8:11 PM GMT
    icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif yes, the title and probably hookups that you like more than they like you? like test how quick they take the bait. Its hard to get intimate without attachment. once or twice its understandable, more than that it is soul tearing when after meeting 10 times or more one is starting to fade
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    Sep 20, 2016 11:29 PM GMT
    AnonymKOIA saidicon_redface.gificon_redface.gif yes, the title and probably hookups that you like more than they like you? like test how quick they take the bait. Its hard to get intimate without attachment. once or twice its understandable, more than that it is soul tearing when after meeting 10 times or more one is starting to fade


    I don't think you understand the term "catfish"... It's currently used to mean that Person A has a fake profile with pics he stole from someone else (typically someone much hotter than he is) and is just pretending to be that person so that he can reel in Person B (who is typically someone much hotter than would usually give Person A the time of day) so that Person A can feel what it would feel like to score Person B.

    I have NO idea what you mean by the way you're using the word.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Sep 21, 2016 6:02 PM GMT
    jackedgamer said
    AnonymKOIA saidicon_redface.gificon_redface.gif yes, the title and probably hookups that you like more than they like you? like test how quick they take the bait. Its hard to get intimate without attachment. once or twice its understandable, more than that it is soul tearing when after meeting 10 times or more one is starting to fade


    I don't think you understand the term "catfish"... It's currently used to mean that Person A has a fake profile with pics he stole from someone else (typically someone much hotter than he is) and is just pretending to be that person so that he can reel in Person B (who is typically someone much hotter than would usually give Person A the time of day) so that Person A can feel what it would feel like to score Person B.

    I have NO idea what you mean by the way you're using the word.


    Yes the meaning as you put it. Hooking up with someone,meet several times then you sense that he wanna disappear. Lets say you meet every Sunday, then create profile with a fake pic and ask the guy(your hookup) to meet with the fake you on the day you normally meet. The test is to see if he will drop the real you so that he can go and meet the fake you. Am i making sense now?


    Just so that you can detach before he actually shows his disinterest and forces you to detatch
  • mcbrion

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    Sep 27, 2016 11:43 PM GMT
    So, these would be people who are psychologically unstable. To be able to play with the emotions of others is not the mark of an adult, emotionally speaking, someone capable of empathy, kindness or goodwill.

    In other words, someone who is angry and hostile inside, and who doesn't mind trying to create that emotion in others. ("Misery loves company.")

    No, that's not a page in any book I hold near and dear to my heart. I can see someone wanting to show themselves off to their best advantage and having photos that flatter them, but to outright lead someone else on with bad intention at the start? Again: unstable person.
  • Eli_jah

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    Sep 28, 2016 5:16 AM GMT
    AnonymKOIA said
    jackedgamer said
    AnonymKOIA saidicon_redface.gificon_redface.gif yes, the title and probably hookups that you like more than they like you? like test how quick they take the bait. Its hard to get intimate without attachment. once or twice its understandable, more than that it is soul tearing when after meeting 10 times or more one is starting to fade


    I don't think you understand the term "catfish"... It's currently used to mean that Person A has a fake profile with pics he stole from someone else (typically someone much hotter than he is) and is just pretending to be that person so that he can reel in Person B (who is typically someone much hotter than would usually give Person A the time of day) so that Person A can feel what it would feel like to score Person B.

    I have NO idea what you mean by the way you're using the word.


    Yes the meaning as you put it. Hooking up with someone,meet several times then you sense that he wanna disappear. Lets say you meet every Sunday, then create profile with a fake pic and ask the guy(your hookup) to meet with the fake you on the day you normally meet. The test is to see if he will drop the real you so that he can go and meet the fake you. Am i making sense now?


    Just so that you can detach before he actually shows his disinterest and forces you to detatch


    You're example is not really catfishing. Creating a fake profile to test someone you're already seeing? That's some Fatal Attraction-level mind fuckery. Creepy much? lol
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Sep 28, 2016 4:06 PM GMT
    mcbrion saidSo, these would be people who are psychologically unstable. To be able to play with the emotions of others is not the mark of an adult, emotionally speaking, someone capable of empathy, kindness or goodwill.

    In other words, someone who is angry and hostile inside, and who doesn't mind trying to create that emotion in others. ("Misery loves company.")

    No, that's not a page in any book I hold near and dear to my heart. I can see someone wanting to show themselves off to their best advantage and having photos that flatter them, but to outright lead someone else on with bad intention at the start? Again: unstable person.


    I agree that its maybe a sign of weakness in maturity level. I guess its different where you are. In my region people only have fun until they are bored,so they disregard you emotion or your kindness. Don't we all have that bad evilsh side within ourselves?
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Sep 28, 2016 4:09 PM GMT
    Eli_jah said
    AnonymKOIA said
    jackedgamer said
    AnonymKOIA saidicon_redface.gificon_redface.gif yes, the title and probably hookups that you like more than they like you? like test how quick they take the bait. Its hard to get intimate without attachment. once or twice its understandable, more than that it is soul tearing when after meeting 10 times or more one is starting to fade


    I don't think you understand the term "catfish"... It's currently used to mean that Person A has a fake profile with pics he stole from someone else (typically someone much hotter than he is) and is just pretending to be that person so that he can reel in Person B (who is typically someone much hotter than would usually give Person A the time of day) so that Person A can feel what it would feel like to score Person B.

    I have NO idea what you mean by the way you're using the word.




    Yes the meaning as you put it. Hooking up with someone,meet several times then you sense that he wanna disappear. Lets say you meet every Sunday, then create profile with a fake pic and ask the guy(your hookup) to meet with the fake you on the day you normally meet. The test is to see if he will drop the real you so that he can go and meet the fake you. Am i making sense now?


    Just so that you can detach before he actually shows his disinterest and forces you to detatch


    You're example is not really catfishing. Creating a fake profile to test someone you're already seeing? That's some Fatal Attraction-level mind fuckery. Creepy much? lol


    Catfishing is putting a bait and see if the target will go for it. yes its fuckery, you already know he is making a fool out of you. so instead of being mad why don't you just turn it into a joke? in my region all macho guys get married to women, so you meet them and they hide that fact. its bull being thrown on your face,its fun to throw it back.
  • mcbrion

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    Sep 29, 2016 12:11 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]AnonymKOIA said[/cite]
    mcbrion saidSo, these would be people who are psychologically unstable. To be able to play with the emotions of others is not the mark of an adult, emotionally speaking, someone capable of empathy, kindness or goodwill.

    In other words, someone who is angry and hostile inside, and who doesn't mind trying to create that emotion in others. ("Misery loves company.")

    No, that's not a page in any book I hold near and dear to my heart. I can see someone wanting to show themselves off to their best advantage and having photos that flatter them, but to outright lead someone else on with bad intention at the start? Again: unstable person.


    I agree that its maybe a sign of weakness in maturity level. I guess its different where you are. In my region people only have fun until they are bored,so they disregard you emotion or your kindness. Don't we all have that bad evilsh side within ourselves?[

    My "region" is San Francisco. Lived there a long, long time, starting in the early 70s, when contacting someone was face to face or through newspaper ads, or through friends. And there were many guys who had issues that were not merely "immature," but downright dangerous, as I described above. It's more a matter of knowing what's simple boredom and what then crosses the line into pathology. Immaturity is simply underdevelopment of the psyche. I'm no expert on catfishing, but the description goes a bit beyond just immaturity, at least from the descriptions posted here. It's just that people are so accustomed to a level of isolation or else nastiness in today's world, that they marginalize bad behavior far more than they should. People then become desensitized because it happens so much, not realizing it reduces their sense of trust. And it's downhill from there. But if you can laugh it off, that's great for you. From reading posts, it doesn't sound as though a great many guys can differentiate between just "odd" behavior and "RED FLAG" behavior.

  • Sep 30, 2016 3:38 AM GMT
    AnonymKOIA said
    mcbrion saidSo, these would be people who are psychologically unstable. To be able to play with the emotions of others is not the mark of an adult, emotionally speaking, someone capable of empathy, kindness or goodwill.

    In other words, someone who is angry and hostile inside, and who doesn't mind trying to create that emotion in others. ("Misery loves company.")

    No, that's not a page in any book I hold near and dear to my heart. I can see someone wanting to show themselves off to their best advantage and having photos that flatter them, but to outright lead someone else on with bad intention at the start? Again: unstable person.


    I agree that its maybe a sign of weakness in maturity level. I guess its different where you are. In my region people only have fun until they are bored,so they disregard you emotion or your kindness. Don't we all have that bad evilsh side within ourselves?


    It's not maybe. It is. Some people are just really sick and can do this. They think they are not doing any harm but you slowly chip away at some ones goodness. Only sick disgusting people would do this and think of this as a way to kill time. What had to have happened to these people for them to do something like this? I could never do this to someone and I do not understand how other people can do this.
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    Sep 30, 2016 11:23 AM GMT
    Been catfished... totally sux.

    I was just off my divorce and went on the prowl for guys at Match.com. Met someone online, local, hot pics, seemed interesting in email and on the phone... so we arranged to meet.

    the "36" year old was a "63" year old. He went on about how much he fell in love with me and how our love could get past the lie... I told him I fell for the lie and he paled in comparison... screaming at him in the coffee shop. I asked him who he stole the pics from....

    ... and he told me about this site called "realjock.com"... :-) I found and met the REAL guy and had a laugh about it all. No love connection, but now I have a good friendship with a guy in New England.

    So yeah... the catfish asshole brought me to you all. Lucky me! hahah....
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    Sep 30, 2016 2:07 PM GMT
    I've never engaged in this catfish game for myself. What's the use? If you were to manage to meet a guy using that fake bait he'd quickly learn the truth. I'm certainly no prize, but honesty is the best policy, for better or for worse. As the Black US comedian Flip Wilson used to say, when dressed as his "Geraldine" character in the 1960s: "Honey, what you see is what you get!"

    But I 've been scammed online by (alleged) gay guys in other ways. I'll see through their game before it goes too far, never been hurt. Other than being damn mad at having frauds attempted on me. The con artists that used to inhabit places like NYC's Time Square area now infest the Internet. Their medium may be 21st Century, but their con routines are largely the same. Whether about money, goods, or themselves.
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    Sep 30, 2016 6:59 PM GMT
    I got catfished once about ten years ago. I was newly single and there was this CL guy who seemed to be a great guy, with intelligence, personality, goals, interest in travel, books, architecture, history, eating clean, physical fitness, and a lot more qualities I was into. He seemed to be a whole lot like me - and we decided to meet after about a month of chatting by phone.

    I showed up at the restaurant on time and waited about 20 minutes. I tried calling, wondering what happened. Finally a few days later I heard from him. He said he was actually at the restaurant ahead of me, and watched me park and walk right past his car. He admitted he got scared and didn't have the guts to meet me, because I looked just like my pics and description and he did not. He then admitted to being a 300+ pounder who was nothing like the game he talked. He said he just made up a persona that mirrored myself. What a waste of everybody's time. Glad I didn't meet him. I'm sure I'd have flamed him. And no, I've definitely never catfished anyone.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Oct 01, 2016 2:11 AM GMT
    yeah well,its a wrong thing to do to someone who has not done anything to you. But if you deceive me intentionally and not consider my feelings ( such as cheating,drifting away with lame excuses and such) the joke will be on you. The motto is whatever I am given,I give it back more tastier and robust as it can get.
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    Oct 02, 2016 4:21 AM GMT
    My profile should be too uninteresting to be questioned. Nobody would impersonate an overweight, middle aged professor with rosacea to pick people up.

    I am unsure what level of deception counts as catfishing. Lots of people use old pictures. If a profile pic is three years old is that catfishing? People also lie about their age a lot, so does saying your 29 when you are 35 count? I've come to accept that if anyone seems interested in me online, then they are probably actually either a hustler or someone's grandpa.
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    Oct 02, 2016 5:05 AM GMT
    I got catfished on here a few years ago. When I confronted the guy he quickly dropped off the site. The other day I saw that he re-joined; new pic but I know it's him. I'm not going to call him out because I think he just wanted a friend and he knew a meetup would never happen, for obvious reasons.

    I was pissed at the betrayal but I did miss the back and forth banter afterwards. I think the banter revealed what he was really like inside and my sense is that he wasn't truly trying to be malicious. The whole episode made me feel sad for him as well as me...
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    Oct 03, 2016 6:32 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidI got catfished once about ten years ago. I was newly single and there was this CL guy who seemed to be a great guy, with intelligence, personality, goals, interest in travel, books, architecture, history, eating clean, physical fitness, and a lot more qualities I was into. He seemed to be a whole lot like me - and we decided to meet after about a month of chatting by phone.

    I showed up at the restaurant on time and waited about 20 minutes. I tried calling, wondering what happened. Finally a few days later I heard from him. He said he was actually at the restaurant ahead of me, and watched me park and walk right past his car. He admitted he got scared and didn't have the guts to meet me, because I looked just like my pics and description and he did not. He then admitted to being a 300+ pounder who was nothing like the game he talked. He said he just made up a persona that mirrored myself. What a waste of everybody's time. Glad I didn't meet him. I'm sure I'd have flamed him. And no, I've definitely never catfished anyone.


    Jockbod48,
    Considering the number of fake profiles you have used on this site, it's surprising to hear you complain about catfishing.
    Many long term members of RJ know your history of harassing others with your various fake profiles.


    Nope, this isn't my regular account either but I felt the need to let you know that only the newcomers believe your stories.
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    Oct 03, 2016 10:44 PM GMT
    ^^^^^Well look who surfaced? The 300 pound anger case. Poor old guy - with countless fake profiles, all temporary because Management eliminates him each and every time they find he has resurfaced. Present Mind (his origin name before they gave this fake porker the boot). Best wishes to you stalker. I mean that. Seek help. There is help for people like you, who are without resources or the ability to pay. Check it out.
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    Oct 05, 2016 6:36 AM GMT
    Well, how did it work out anyway? The guy you catfished?
  • eM_Jay

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    Oct 05, 2016 10:11 AM GMT
    The few times it happened to me, in each case i sat and gave the person a chance. After getting past the initial anger and feelings of betrayal, i'd usually start feeling empathetic for the guy when i realized he was just lonely and not a malicious sociopath. I know what it's like to feel like you're below standard and not good enough to be honest about yourself, and i saw this in all my 'catfish-perps' mostly. So after calmly explaining how i felt to em i'd usually let the guy know i'm not interested anymore since they made me like a lie, and that probably wouldn't change. But i'd still stay for the meetup anyway cause it gave me glimpses of the true person, and that was usually someone who i probably would've liked were it not for the way things happened...

    But now i'm over it. I still give people chances (lets face it we all need a few of those every once in a while), but i think all too frequent encounters have made me a bit more blunt and unwilling to stand blatant deceit. I'm no saint and i dont need to keep taking things from people just because i understand them a bit better...
  • roadbikeRob

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    Oct 15, 2016 5:11 PM GMT
    I have never been catfished by anyone and I would never do it to anyone because it is flat out wrong. If you cannot be honest about who you really are than just pass me by because I will fiercely curse you out for total dishonesty.icon_razz.gif