What is the best thing about being gay?

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    Sep 19, 2016 12:42 AM GMT
    I was posed this question earlier today by one of my friends, and I had to stop and think...I truly couldn't say. What do you guys think??
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    Sep 19, 2016 1:17 AM GMT
    I wasn't thinking sexually at the time.
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    Sep 19, 2016 1:54 AM GMT
    you become a minority so you can really speak your mind about whatever
  • Apparition

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    Sep 19, 2016 2:14 AM GMT
    UMayNeverKnow said
    Nebraskakid467 saidI wasn't thinking sexually at the time.


    Well, when you think about it who we have sex with is the only thing that sets us apart from heterosexuals.


    dear, you obviously never met either any gay people, or any straight people. Sex is the least consideration of what makes us different.

    I mean really...
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  • MuscledHorse

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    Sep 19, 2016 2:23 AM GMT
    Wow! This is a really great and thought provoking question. We often spend so much time defending it as something we didn't choose that we don't think about what is great about it compared to being straight. I would definitely say we have a far greater appreciation for the male body and how it looks both in and out of clothes. In fact, the "gay influence" on print/visual advertising of male form and fashion in the last 25 years is evident to anyone who ever saw the same kind of ads in the 1960's or 80's. But I do have to go with the other posters: it's the sex. It's being able to enjoy males on an intimate level that can only be appreciated by and with another male.
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    Sep 19, 2016 2:42 AM GMT
    MuscledHorse saidWow! This is a really great and thought provoking question. We often spend so much time defending it as something we didn't choose that we don't think about what is great about it compared to being straight. I would definitely say we have a far greater appreciation for the male body and how it looks both in and out of clothes. In fact, the "gay influence" on print/visual advertising of male form and fashion in the last 25 years is evident to anyone who ever saw the same kind of ads in the 1960's or 80's. But I do have to go with the other posters: it's the sex. It's being able to enjoy males on an intimate level that can only be appreciated by and with another male.

    Very intelligent response. I enjoyed reading it icon_smile.gif And yes, appreciation for the male form in all facets of our lives is definitely a plus!!
  • bro4bro

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    Sep 19, 2016 3:00 AM GMT
    Clearly, the best thing about being gay is not having to put up with chicks.
  • Apparition

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    Sep 19, 2016 3:09 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidClearly, the best thing about being gay is not having to put up with chicks.


    And never having to know what feminine hygiene products are for.
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    Sep 19, 2016 3:26 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidClearly, the best thing about being gay is not having to put up with chicks.

    icon_lol.gif My friend who asked me was a woman, and I was actually thinking along those lines. However, she prob would take a personal affront to that! But I totally agree.
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    Sep 19, 2016 3:33 AM GMT

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  • Eleven

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    Sep 19, 2016 4:44 AM GMT
    The best thing about being gay is having the liscence to be a bitch.

    Yesterday I called a woman a stupid bitch and every one laughed and applauded me, even she did.

    What im getting at is being gay is like choosing to take the red pill and living your life in the harsh light of reality, truth, instead of choosing ignorance of the blue pill and burying your head in the sand....

    Once you start living your life and only see truth you start seeing that life really is like being in the matrix, our social cobstruct is the matrix and being gay you can bend some of the rules like neo did, the truth is ANYONE can and some str8 people do this but in gay culture living honestly is more prevalent, though you do get gay folk who choose the blue pill....
  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    Sep 19, 2016 5:28 AM GMT
    When I see some of the bullshit so many women hurl at their boyfriends I tell myself, "If I were straight I think I would turn myself gay just to not have to deal with the power games that I see so many straight women play with their male partners."

    I'm not saying all women are awful. But more than enough of them are to make me be very grateful that I like men instead.
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    Sep 19, 2016 5:58 AM GMT
    Women love to play games and are master manipulators. I can deal with them in business just fine,
    but in bed? For get it!
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    Sep 19, 2016 9:53 AM GMT
    Its neither better or worse being gay, it's just a part of who you are. There is nothing worse than a gay guy who thinks he's special because he is gay. Talk about a shallow stereotype. I've met just as many disgusting boring uneducated gay men as I have any sort of men, so get over it already. Exceptional, smart, successful, sophisticated people are great, but those attributes have nothing to do with who you sleep with.
  • nice_chap

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    Sep 19, 2016 10:13 AM GMT
    No kids.
  • MuscledHorse

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    Sep 19, 2016 12:10 PM GMT
    UMayNeverKnow said
    MuscledHorse saidWow! This is a really great and thought provoking question. We often spend so much time defending it as something we didn't choose that we don't think about what is great about it compared to being straight. I would definitely say we have a far greater appreciation for the male body and how it looks both in and out of clothes. In fact, the "gay influence" on print/visual advertising of male form and fashion in the last 25 years is evident to anyone who ever saw the same kind of ads in the 1960's or 80's. But I do have to go with the other posters: it's the sex. It's being able to enjoy males on an intimate level that can only be appreciated by and with another male.


    However, there are numerous straight artists through the centuries who have appreciated the male form. Are you familiar with Michaelangelo for one? Or Greek or Roman sculpture? Appreciation of the male form is not solely the purview of gay males.


    I am familiar....and the Greeks and Romans did, in fact, in encourage or engage in homosexual behavior to some degree. For the Greeks it was part fo the notion of perfection and that perfect love on any level could only exist between two males because they were the perfect creature (see both Plato's and Xenophon's "Symposium" for the Greeks and "Same Sex Marriage in Premodern Europe" for the Romans. The Renaissance saw a reawakening of the Greek ideals of Balance, Symmetry and Perfection, but, it was filtered through a thousand years of Christianity and the sexual aspect of male on male love was redefined into Platonic Love (this where the idea of the platonic (i.e. nothing sexual about it) relationship originates--today we would call it a "bromance." Michealangelo (interesting you should pick him out of all the Renaissance artists) is suspected by many historians to have also enjoyed sex with guys.
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    Sep 19, 2016 1:22 PM GMT
    being gay you get to have a pre defined life style & internal homophobia
    just be your self


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    Sep 19, 2016 2:08 PM GMT
    I think the best thing about being gay is that it builds character. Being a minority in a society/world that is designed for the majority forces you to up your game. The struggle IS real, but you should look on that as a positive, not just a negative - it makes you a better person if you have to work harder to succeed in life and find happiness.

    Of course, I'm well aware there's a dark side to that as well and a lot of guys can't cope and crash and burn, get involved in alcohol abuse, drugs, dangerous sexual practices etc etc. So I appreciate it goes both ways, but I try to think positively.

    I also think gay men are given a certain degree of freedom to like what they want and with no/little consequences. I like the fact I can go and lift weights and grunt like an 'alpha male' and then watch the latest episode of Ru Paul's Drag Race while sipping pink wine if I want to. I don't give a shit really what other people think of me and I think a lot of that is to do with being gay. There will always be people who judge you - being gay teaches you to cut the bullshit and only pay attention to what matters.
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    Sep 19, 2016 5:06 PM GMT
    bro4bro saidClearly, the best thing about being gay is not having to put up with chicks.



    I second this answer. Let any guy who has had more than a few women chasing his shit looking for money tell you - women can be a drag. I actually feel sorry for straight guys. Some (many) women are leaches, manipulators, con artists and just out looking for good providers.
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    Sep 19, 2016 5:07 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 said
    bro4bro saidClearly, the best thing about being gay is not having to put up with chicks.



    I second this answer. Let any guy who has had more than a few women chasing his shit looking for money tell you - women can be a drag. I actually feel sorry for straight guys. Some (many) women are leaches, manipulators, con artists and just out looking for good providers.


    I third that
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    Sep 19, 2016 5:29 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Jockbod48 said
    bro4bro saidClearly, the best thing about being gay is not having to put up with chicks.



    I second this answer. Let any guy who has had more than a few women chasing his shit looking for money tell you - women can be a drag. I actually feel sorry for straight guys. Some (many) women are leaches, manipulators, con artists and just out looking for good providers.


    I third that

    Ya, me, too. Women are programmed to want security and to be taken care of. I think that is changing finally, a bit, but we're a long way from equality and equality of responsibility in couples. Some men like it that way. With a guy-guy couple, there usually seems to be an equivalency, a gentle competition, a generosity of spirit. What is better than wrapping your arms around your best friend while watching a ball game? Two guys on a road trip adventure? Cheering each other on and being there to hold tight when things go wrong. Shoulder to shoulder taking on the world. My last office overlooked a boat launch ramp, and every day I'd see a parade of boats being launched or pull out. It would amaze me that without fail, the girl would be sitting on her ass while the guy did all the work of grabbing lines, hopping on and off to tie up, move the trailer, steer the boat, etc. I'm sure a lot of it is socially conditioned but I found that that pretty much is what life with a woman is about.
  • bro4bro

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    Sep 19, 2016 7:41 PM GMT
    UMayNeverKnow saidThere is no credible evidence Michaelangelo was gay, just conjecture on the part of some historians and LGBT activists who want to claim every famous personage who wasn't married and had same sex friendships is gay.


    No credible evidence? The man wrote a whole collection of poems to other men, which can only be characterized as love poems. Here's a snippet of one he wrote to Tommaso dei Cavalieri, who was 23 at the time (Michelangelo was 57):

    I feel as lit by fire a cold countenance
    That burns me from afar and keeps itself ice-chill;
    A strength I feel two shapely arms to fill
    Which without motion moves every balance.

    — (Michael Sullivan, translation)

    How many str8 men write poems to other men about how much they'd like to fill their shapely arms?

    The homoeroticism in his poetry was blatant enough that when his own grandnephew published them as a collection, he changed the gender of all the pronouns so it would appear they were written to women.

    By the way... am I the only one who's ever noticed that his 17-foot-tall statue of "David" features an obviously uncircumsized cock? Did he somehow miss out on the fact that David was pretty famously Jewish? Or was this really a statue of some other David, maybe one he met in the back parking lot?
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    Sep 19, 2016 10:37 PM GMT
    Nebraskakid467 said
    I was posed this question earlier today by one of my friends, and I had to stop and think...I truly couldn't say. What do you guys think??

    Being myself. In my case after so many years of denial, and memory suppression.

    And being myself has made me the happiest I've ever been in my life. I never regret having come out. I only regret I was so stupid and took so f***ing long.

    I think we're happiest when we can live as we were naturally made at birth. And that applies to straights, as well.

    Straights will be happiest when they live straight. And if we don't have happy straights who find straight mates then there couldn't be any of US! icon_eek.gif For that reason I never criticize being straight, if straight is what you are. The homophobia some of them can be prone to having, yes, I'll always criticize that, but being straight itself, no.

    But if you're gay, that's the way you'll be happiest living. With the proviso that your individual circumstance of country, family, employment, and other external factors are amenable.

    And so, the best thing about being gay for me, is simply living openly gay. I might add I've never had more friends, way more than I ever did when I assumed I was straight, and tried to live that way. I always felt like an awkward outsider in straight society, often lonely, and never understood why. Now I know why: I was in fact a misfit in that world. The proof being that I'm a misfit outsider and lonely no more. icon_biggrin.gif
  • bro4bro

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    Sep 20, 2016 1:35 AM GMT
    Well, let's see...
    He wrote love poems to other men at a time when that was not at all a common thing for str8 guys to do (if it ever was)
    In fact he was the very first to write a large body of poetry from one man to another in a modern European language
    He did not at any time seem to show a romantic interest in women
    His own family found the homosexual overtones in his poetry so blatant that they tried to disguise them after his death

    I don't have "proof" of Michelangelo's sexuality but I can make a pretty good guess. I always heard if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, most likely it's a duck.

    You know, you sound an awful lot like some str8 guy trying to rationalize the behavior of a drinking buddy or sports hero after he was caught "horsing around" with a ten-year-old boy in the locker room.

    Why is it important for you to believe that Michelangelo was str8?
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    Sep 20, 2016 5:49 AM GMT
    him

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