Your wedding day!

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    Sep 20, 2016 12:05 PM GMT
    18 days until I'm married! We've been dating for 7 years, lived together for 5, been engaged for 2! I went all out on this wedding. I hate to admit it but I've been thinking about my wedding day since I was 16. My fiancé also wanted a fancy wedding. So, in 18 days we are getting married in our dream location, surrounded by family and friends, paid through our own pockets. As a project manager, I've managed the hell out of this wedding and everything is mostly organized except a few arts and crafts stuff my fiancé is doing.

    One of the things we still need to organize is the music for the Ceremony. I've changed my mind like a million times.

    So my question to you guys, for your wedding, past, present and future, why songs would you choose for the procession, signing of the marriage license, and exit. I'm wondering if my procession song is a good one or if I should choose something safer icon_smile.gif

    Procession:
    - James Bay - Incomplete

    Marriage Licence Signing
    - Jason Mraz - Lucky

    End of Ceremony (need to choose one)
    - OneRepublic - Feel Again
    - Train - Marry Me
    - Imagine Dragons - Top of the World
    - Sia - Wild Ones

    Bonus, what would you choose for your first dance. Fiancé doesn't wanna dance for 4 minutes just us, so we will dance 1 min then have the DJ scratch to a dance song and have my wedding party pull people into the dance floor!
  • WestCoastJock

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    Sep 20, 2016 1:18 PM GMT
    Ask ArtDeco. He blabs about his husband all the time on here. The guy from Australia also posted that Art Deco had several (women) wives.
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    Sep 20, 2016 2:27 PM GMT
    simplecollision said
    So my question to you guys, for your wedding, past, present and future, why songs would you choose for the procession, signing of the marriage license, and exit.

    Bonus, what would you choose for your first dance. Fiancé doesn't wanna dance for 4 minutes just us, so we will dance 1 min then have the DJ scratch to a dance song and have my wedding party pull people into the dance floor!

    I'm not sure this would do you much good, but here it is.

    For the bride's processional we chose this Handel, from the Water Music. It had never been used for that purpose almost 40 years ago tl my knowledge, I understand more popular today. I had placed an entire chamber orchestra in the choir loft. More common in that time period to play a recording from some popular romantic movie score from that era.

    I wanted to feature the French Horns because that was the instrument she played (does your own groom play an instrument?). Not the entire Handel as posted here, just a shortened transcription, timed to get her down the aisle. She entered the church a little after the opening bars, that got the assembly's attention, the doors opening as she appeared with her father when the horns sounded.



    I have no idea what our recessional was. I left that to the musical director/conductor. Likewise I don't even remember what music was used for my own entrance, before the bride's. But we wanted all the music to be baroque, mostly Handel, heavy on the brass in her honor.

    After the ceremony we had a receiving line in the gardens outside (it was June). The orchestra came down and set up in a big circle, in folding chairs. Again they played mostly Handel, not too loudly, while we and our families lined up to greet the well-wishers. No composer does better with outdoor music than Handel.

    At the reception we had 3 different musical entertainments. As people entered there was an upbeat but subdued jazz combo. During dinner a pianist played background music. After dinner when dancing started a small dance band had that duty.

    And I have no idea what our "first dance" song was. I was a dreadful dancer back then (and not so good today). We never danced otherwise.

    But I knew it was expected. So she finally dragged me out there, and I couldn't wait until her father "cut in" for his traditional turn with his daughter.

    I don't know any of your music proposals. I agree with cutting your wedding dance short if you aren't comfortable. I sure wasn't with mine!
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 20, 2016 3:36 PM GMT
    I like traditional, formal weddings with traditional, formal music right up to the point of everyone dancing. The value is that every high wedding you go to for the rest of your life will then remind you of your own and bring back sweet memories. Current pop songs may be fun in the moment, but few stand the test of time and will seem silly later. (Ever go to a wedding where they played Wind Beneath my Wings? Ya, I did.) If your style is more casual, at least pick some old standard that you both love. Something that will still sound good and be played on the radio 30 years from now. And will make you grab your husband's hand and smile, remembering.
  • Eleven

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    Sep 20, 2016 4:43 PM GMT
    Its a nice day for a red wedding
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    Sep 20, 2016 8:23 PM GMT
    Dammit back to the drawing board. Everyone says choose songs that are timeless. Wtf are those hahaha.

    Our wedding is in a rustic, fancy restaurant with beautiful brick limestone. We both have nice suits (not tuxes). I think my songs are pop as well, but that's what we like.

    Also, last comment above mine sounds very threatening... maybe troll elsewhere?
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    Sep 20, 2016 9:54 PM GMT
    simplecollision said... I think my songs are pop as well, but that's what we like...
    see; Mr Project Manager puzzled out his own question.
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    Sep 21, 2016 11:17 AM GMT
    Ahh you're so adorable being all excited!! I hope it is amazing and everything you dreamed it would be. I got married this year but I hadn't been building it all up in my head at all, remember to relax and enjoy it and don't worry if little inconsequential things go wrong - that's the best advice I can give you!

    I think the songs you pick really have to be very personal and have some meaning to you as a couple, so you should really listen to the lyrics and see what you most connect with. A lot of my favourite songs, when you actually listen to the lyrics aren't really suitable for a wedding, plus I didn't want anything too mushy, plus it's actually more difficult than you think to find gender neutral songs that don't mention being a girl or being with a girl in some shape or form!

    I like your pick of Imagine Dragons 'On Top of the World' I had this on my after dinner reception playlist - we had a very small wedding and after the meal just spent some time sitting around chatting and drinking, we didn't have a first dance (or any dancing actually).

    I'll send you a list of the songs we had for pre-ceremony, entrance, signing and post-ceremony because they are personal and I don't want them on a public forum - might give you some inspiration!!

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    Sep 21, 2016 5:02 PM GMT
    I've attended, and helped arrange a good number of weddings and receptions going back to the '70s. My suggestion is to have NO canned music, NO d.j. at all. Save in other areas if you're on a budget and have a live band - a three piece combo is such a good idea. Interview little groups who play in cities near you. Listen to their style and playlists. Tell them what songs you want. This makes all the difference between having just another bland reception and something really nice and very memorable.
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    Sep 21, 2016 11:44 PM GMT
    Thanks Pulsefit! Congrats to you and your husband! Your suggestions have been well received. I'm feeling much more comfortable about my selections icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 21, 2016 11:47 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidI've attended, and helped arrange a good number of weddings and receptions going back to the '70s. My suggestion is to have NO canned music, NO d.j. at all. Save in other areas if you're on a budget and have a live band - a three piece combo is such a good idea. Interview little groups who play in cities near you. Listen to their style and playlists. Tell them what songs you want. This makes all the difference between having just another bland reception and something really nice and very memorable.


    I have 15 days sooooo, I don't think a live band is in the question hah. Work is going to be hell right up to my wedding so I'm not looking to stress myself more by looking for new music options. I will recommend this to my friend though who is getting married next year. He was on the fence for a live band. He's doing it at his family's home outside the city and is in a more urban setting for a live band.
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    Sep 22, 2016 11:07 AM GMT
    simplecollision said
    I have 15 days sooooo, I don't think a live band is in the question hah. Work is going to be hell right up to my wedding so I'm not looking to stress myself more by looking for new music options. I will recommend this to my friend though who is getting married next year. He was on the fence for a live band. He's doing it at his family's home outside the city and is in a more urban setting for a live band.

    Sounds like you're getting some useful ideas here. As for setting, I had initially planned an outdoor wedding at the bride's family's country estate. That's where the Handel really worked well, open air peformance being the way it had originally been composed. With pavilions set up on the extensive lawns, and a portable dance floor laid down.

    But she insisted on a Catholic service, with a full Mass. Doing that outside a church required the local Bishop's approval. He refused, the word being being passed to us that he wouldn't approve a flower child, barefoot "hippie" ceremony.

    HIPPIE??? I was an Army Captain, and we were having Handel being performed by an orchestra. Her wedding gown was custom created by a prominent stage designer we knew, along the lines of traditional Ukrainian cultural traditions, with which she most identified. I also had a suit custom made for me to compliment her dress, although not with bow tie. I don't like to wear black tie before 5 PM

    Both our families being politically active (and holding elective office themselves), it seemed like half the candidates on the Fall ballot from northern New Jersey were there. In fact, the press kinda ignored us for them.

    And this was a flower child hippie wedding? The Bishop refused to even see me to discuss the issue. His decision reaching us about 3 weeks before the wedding, forcing us to scramble big time.

    Cancelling the caterers, the pavilion people, About a dozen others who were involved, and then finding an alternative Catholic church site, trashing the unsent formal invitations to 300 people and reprinting them, and countless other things I forget now.

    OK, I got my revenge. With the Pope's personal representative in the US marrying us, the highest ranking Vatican prelate in the US, conferring a special Papal blessing on us, the document beautifully framed and personally carried by him from Rome, the whole 9 yards.

    And that Bishop was specifically barred from attending the ceremony, and meeting the Vatican dignitary. You wanna mess with me? I'll return the favor 10 times over.