Never had a long term relationship

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    Sep 24, 2016 12:07 PM GMT
    Hello,

    This may of been covered before but i am a new member.

    I am 34 and never had any serious or long term relationships and wondered if anyone else is in the same situation? I am normally optimistic but when it comes to relationships and gay men i think i am destined to remain single forever because there are very few genuine guys about. I have used online dating and apps like Scruff but they are just guys who want to swap messages and will just block you for the way you look. I don't go looking for relationships and to be honest i dont' enjoy or like dating as it feels unnatural to me. I have joined an outdoor interest group for people who like the countryside and will see how that goes. But for me i think online dating and apps doesn't work plus l don't like having a photo on display as i have found them misused by weirdos in the past.
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    Sep 24, 2016 1:11 PM GMT
    welcome (good luck) to realJock, not really a dating site as some members are trolls, fake, multiple accounts, old old men with anger issues, perverts, republicans... just so you know this is a serious group of paid for (maybe gay men) only out to make america great/gay or whatever.

    Landscaperguy7 said... I don't go looking for relationships and to be honest i dont' enjoy or like dating as it feels unnatural to me...
    didnt you answer your initial question, how you never had a ltr? Sounds like you dont want need one just yet. Dating is essential; couples gay or straight who remain dating for >3 years typically have a good chance to have worked out all the issues and remain together for life or so.

    Landscaperguy7 said...I have joined an outdoor interest group for people who like the countryside and will see how that goes...
    if you find someone treat him just a little better than you treat yourself. Every day both of you choose to be together so be nice.

    Landscaperguy7 said... plus l don't like having a photo on display as i have found them misused by weirdos in the past.
    see you dont have that realjock thick skin. serious tho there are some UK based forums. The challenge here; put up a pic of your face to start.
  • nice_chap

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    Sep 24, 2016 1:56 PM GMT
    Yep. Pretty much the same situation. 32 and not had a long term relationship. I'm not actively seeking romance right now. I have tried apps and dating sites, got some dates out of them, and they were pleasant enough, but just not the sort of people I wanted to go any further with. Like you, I've found a group of people with a similar interest that I meet up with every week. I've made some good friendships and there are new people joining all the time, so if somebody nice does come along, so be it, but for the time being I'm quite content without a partner.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 24, 2016 5:14 PM GMT
    I think you should always be ready for "the one." If you don't date, he won't appear. Sure, you need to be happy alone with yourself first but you can be working on that while you look around. My guy and I just celebrated our nine year anniversary, going strong, but honestly, we're an improbable couple and met first as a quick sex date. But we both knew something really good was going on within the first couple of weeks. I don't think either one of us are who the other would have said they were looking for when we met but we fell very much in love and still are. Keep looking. Keep dating. You never know...