a LDR hmmm..

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    Feb 12, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    a relationship expert was on TV today and she said the best relationships are the LDR ones, because its less stress and you tend to seal the deal faster avoiding the dreaded "Are we bf's yet?" thoughts...

    ive actualy met some guys in the past that i totally wouldve dated long distance but where do u go after there? doesnt one of the parties eventually have to move to ur location, or urs to theirs?

    just thinking aloud again
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    Feb 13, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
    I think that to limit ourselves to just our own backyards is a disservice. While you can't see the person or go out every day, etc, there is still a possibility that the person you like who lives 500 miles away may be the one. Of course, as in all relationships, but in my opinion, even greater in these types is communication. It has to be done and it has to be done with honesty. I was in one that last 4 years. It was long distance (me east coast, him mid west) for about a year with us seeing each other once a month after the first two months for the first year and during holidays and vacations until the 2nd year when we moved in with each other (not in my city or his and alternate city for work-him) and it lasted for another almost 2.5 years until his work transferred him out of the country and I couldnt do that because of familial obligations. It was tough because had I not had a sick mom, I would have gone. They can work. Not everyone is cut out for a long distance relationship just as others are not for other types of relationships. However, I don't think someone should be dismissed just because of location.
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    Feb 13, 2009 1:00 AM GMT
    I've had a few LDRs hit the rocks........usually meeting in the same city and one guy gets transfered out of state. I've tried to hold those long distance deals together but sooner or later, they fade. For things to work, the guys should try to move closer to one-another, if possible. With careers and all, this is not going to be possible sometimes. Too bad.
  • DCEric

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    Feb 13, 2009 2:40 AM GMT
    Not a fan of that. All it ends up being is when you do see each other (which by the nature of the relationship, is rare), all you do is hump.
  • dannyboy1101

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    Feb 13, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
    No thanks. Any guy could have a long distance relationship going in every state or even country. It's the new polygamy.

    Besides, I get pissy when I'm on the phone too long. Sex with body parts totally trumps sex with words. Unless they're fighting a war, it's time to either move or find something local.
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    Feb 13, 2009 4:15 AM GMT
    That sounds like it may work in the straight world but I doubt it would work in the gay world. Maybe if it was an open relationship but even then...