Masc. vs Fem.

  • JESIE

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    Feb 12, 2009 9:21 PM GMT
    So lately Ive been struggling with my masculinity vs femininity.

    here it goes:

    I catch myself sometimes being more fem than others
    but I dont see myself as fem
    nor do I see myself totally masc.

    I mean
    when im around girls of course im a lil more fem
    i feed off of their fem. qualities so I become "one of the girls" so to speak.

    then when when im at the gym
    im like in total work out mood, which makes me feel more masc.
    Also, my very good friend is more fem than me
    hes a hair dresser, used to wear make up (no longer does)
    and is very much flamboyant then I am. So when we go out
    im play that role of being masc.

    If I had to choose a side...id want to be more masc. but I dont see myself changing to one side because thats who I am.

    And fem guys do and dont turn me on. Although I am a bottom as well but Ive wanted to top before, just never really tried.
    But very masc. guys turn me on. Agressive. Hard. manly. (get the point lol)

    maybe im just over thinking things and should just be who I am.

    any advice?
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Feb 12, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    jesdq saidmaybe im just over thinking things and should just be who I am.

    any advice?


    Yes, just be who you are.
  • gymguy81

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    Feb 12, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    is it realy that big a deal? be who you are there is no better advice.
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    Feb 12, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    We all have different sides to our personality. Sometimes your masculine and sometimes your feminine. Sometimes you feel like a nut and sometimes you don't. In the end it doesn't really matter because you are yourself and there is only one of that. People in your life will try to mold you into what they think you should be. People are wrong. You should mold yourself into what you think you should be.
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    Feb 12, 2009 10:36 PM GMT
    here we go again....sigh
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    Feb 12, 2009 10:37 PM GMT
    Just please, for the love of all that is sacred an pure in this world, BE YOURSELF

    THREAD OVER
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    Feb 12, 2009 10:41 PM GMT
    charlitos saidhere we go again....sigh


    Actually, I think this time he's presented it just fine. He's not hating just trying to find himself.
  • SeaMichael

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    Feb 12, 2009 10:49 PM GMT
    I agree that there's many facets to each of us. I tend to use the term "faggoty" to determine how "fem" I'm being at any given time. Put a couple slugs in me, and I get insanely faggoty. Same thing when I'm around hags (which is typically only when I've been drinking). Get me on the phone with an adversarial adjuster, however, and I'm much less faggoty (and sometimes kind of mean).

    Of course, I do always drink beverages with my pinky up. God I'm a fag!!!

    hehehehee

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    Feb 13, 2009 12:50 AM GMT
    Mookie, what da HELL are you doin underneath those balls?!! icon_lol.gif

    But anyway jesdq, i can totally relate to what you're saying, i'm the same way. But like everyone else is addressing here, just be yourself, and accept, embrace both your feminine and masculine qualities. And i know that's quite a challenge, considering we live in this society obsessed with placing everyone in their place and labeling them based on preconcieved notions, stereotypes and prejudices, but here's the chance for guys like us to shatter those notions by questioning and challenging the myths behind what is considered female and male. Besides, you can't be yin without a yang.
    So go ahead, be fem! Be butch! And be brave! It takes balls and a backbone to be true to yourself. You're not alone.
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    Feb 13, 2009 1:06 AM GMT
    Why does this topic keep getting beaten to death?
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    Feb 13, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    I am actually attracted who can be both fem and masculine. My perfect guy would be neither 100% masculine or 100% fem... but a mixture.

    Of course i would want my perfect guy to first... be HIMSELF!
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    Feb 13, 2009 1:16 AM GMT
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    Be who ya wanna be.
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    Feb 13, 2009 3:30 AM GMT
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  • SeaMichael

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    Feb 13, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]GigoloAssassin said[/cite]Mookie, what da HELL are you doin underneath those balls?!! icon_lol.gif

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    I like balls...and I'm trying to hold the economy up!!! hehehee