First Gay Resort

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    Oct 02, 2016 3:46 PM GMT
    So I went to my first gay clothing optional resort. It was eye opening to say the least. Porn playing on TVs everywhere. Condoms outside the steamroom. Apparently I missed the people just having sex right out in the open. When you check in they tell you how to have your hook up check in at the front desk and not to use Silicone lube because it stains the sheets. This is a bit overwhelming for an introvert such as myself. Of course not everyone was a sex crazed fiend. I did talk to a few nice people but I also met a bunch of nasty Queens too. I'm glad I had the experience although it's left me even more confused as to my purpose in life. I want a partner to share my life with. My entire life I've never felt like I fit in. I tried to play the Dad with wife and kids. I'm still a Dad of course and I love being a Dad but I'm gay. I couldn't live that life anymore. Then I come to this gay world and I dont feel right here either. I feel awkward and ironically not gay enough. Maybe I'm in the wrong places. BTW I tried to just relax and hit the spa and lay outside and that was nice. I guess I need to stop worrying and just enjoy what I like to do and not worry what others may perceive of it. It's the wanting to be accepted. The longing to fit in. Not so much because I need everyone to be my friend but because I want that partner someday.
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    Oct 02, 2016 3:52 PM GMT
    zoltar said BTW I tried to just relax and hit the spa and lay outside and that was nice. I guess I need to stop worrying and just enjoy what I like to do and not worry what others may perceive of it.


    You hit the nail on the head.

    BTW, Palm Springs?

    What was the name of the "resort"?
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    Oct 02, 2016 3:54 PM GMT
    wasted your money girl.
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    Oct 02, 2016 4:52 PM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    zoltar said BTW I tried to just relax and hit the spa and lay outside and that was nice. I guess I need to stop worrying and just enjoy what I like to do and not worry what others may perceive of it.


    You hit the nail on the head.

    BTW, Palm Springs?

    What was the name of the "resort"?

    Haha yes Palm Springs. I won't name the resort but apparently there are even more sluttier ones lol
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    Oct 02, 2016 4:54 PM GMT
    pellaz saidwasted your money girl.

    Well it was $170 including all the taxes and they served meals and everything so it's cool. And I might as well spend it before the ex wife does
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    Oct 02, 2016 4:55 PM GMT
    I've been to a bunch of those and actually love it. But I've always gone with a partner. Which changes the dynamic from sorta sordid (but fun!) to an adventure you both are on. We always end up laughing at the crazy. Ya, you just need to find that one guy who "gets" you. Makes all the difference. Good luck.
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    Oct 02, 2016 5:01 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidI've been to a bunch of those and actually love it. But I've always gone with a partner. Which changes the dynamic from sorta sordid (but fun!) to an adventure you both are on. We always end up laughing at the crazy. Ya, you just need to find that one guy who "gets" you. Makes all the difference. Good luck.

    Yes please send the guy who gets me my way lol. No I think with a partner it would be lots of fun. Not to sound lame but what did you do for fun when you were single. I want to change myour mindset from being single is difficult and challenging to. Being single is fun. I see pluses and minuses already. My big hangup is groups of people. 1 on 1 I can chat you up all day long. 2 people I get a little more intimidated but I'm ok. 3 or more it's all over. I freeze up stop talking. Feel awkward. It's bad lol
  • JackNNJ

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    Oct 02, 2016 5:30 PM GMT
    Nasty queens? I call bullshit.
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    Oct 02, 2016 6:08 PM GMT
    zoltar said
    Destinharbor saidI've been to a bunch of those and actually love it. But I've always gone with a partner. Which changes the dynamic from sorta sordid (but fun!) to an adventure you both are on. We always end up laughing at the crazy. Ya, you just need to find that one guy who "gets" you. Makes all the difference. Good luck.

    Yes please send the guy who gets me my way lol. No I think with a partner it would be lots of fun. Not to sound lame but what did you do for fun when you were single. I want to change myour mindset from being single is difficult and challenging to. Being single is fun. I see pluses and minuses already. My big hangup is groups of people. 1 on 1 I can chat you up all day long. 2 people I get a little more intimidated but I'm ok. 3 or more it's all over. I freeze up stop talking. Feel awkward. It's bad lol


    Well, my job was head of a bank and I did (and do) a lot of civic involvement. So basically I started talking about 7:30 am and didn't stop talking until about 7pm. By then I was sick of hearing myself talk and the total absence of privacy so I was completely happy to just go home and spend time with the dogs. If I needed company I had friends from work or the town involvement that I could invite myself to dinner or invite them out on the boat, had a standing round of golf with three every Sunday morning, travel with family. When I started dating guys I met every one of them online and for a while just had some meaningless sex friends but then started on the more profile oriented sites and from that point, my shortest relationship was about a year until I met my partner (nine years now). I'm extremely self sufficient and don't mind being alone or I don't mind being in a crowd, so long as I can have some quiet time, too. Each of us has to find that balance that works for us. Even with my partner, I need some private time, actually more than he does so we just keep an eye on each other to make sure the other is happy.
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    Oct 02, 2016 9:08 PM GMT
    zoltar said
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    zoltar said BTW I tried to just relax and hit the spa and lay outside and that was nice. I guess I need to stop worrying and just enjoy what I like to do and not worry what others may perceive of it.


    You hit the nail on the head.

    BTW, Palm Springs?

    What was the name of the "resort"?

    Haha yes Palm Springs. I won't name the resort but apparently there are even more sluttier ones lol


    I saw you were from SD (no Gay Resorts there!) , I was for 30 years. Now in PS.

    The sluttier one is CCBC! You can be as relaxed or active as you want to be. It's just like real life, just more concentrated! lol. There are several more: Canyon Club, INN Exile, etc.

    I empathize with you. It's like walking through Gay Mart..........and looking at those clothes, I'm not THAT Gay! Don't worry there's a place for all of us.
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    Oct 03, 2016 4:48 AM GMT
    Sounds like a night at the baths. Except a whole weekend. icon_eek.gif
    Or at least the way they used to be. Haven't been in a while. Don't want to be that old/fat guy who doesn't know when it's time to stop because he's bringing everyone down.

    A while back, I looked at a few of those PS resorts web pages, and the pics/vids they had posted lead me to believe that it was quite the blubber-fest down there...

    Nothing wrong with a bacchanalia and nothing wrong with getting old... Just nothing that couldn't be had closer to home for less money.
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Oct 03, 2016 4:59 AM GMT
    I've seen videos from those places. Most of the clientele there are one rude wake-up call away from a toaster bath.
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    Oct 03, 2016 5:22 AM GMT
    Thank you. You guys help put things into perspective. I am on that journey of being single and I did realize just today that I just need to do what I like to do but at the same time try to put myself out there. Once I'm good with being single then I'll try dating websites
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    Oct 03, 2016 5:24 AM GMT
    Now it's time for all to confess the HARDships
    of the All gay resorts!

    From what I gather, the circuit boys always had a good time.

    How could you not go HAPPY?
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    Oct 03, 2016 5:31 PM GMT
    The Palm Springs area has a lot of golf courses (for when one is not slutting it up). I don't golf, but I have down some great mountain hiking in the area. The area is definitely for the cooler months only.
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    Oct 04, 2016 12:22 AM GMT
    As a Bona Fide Homosexual, who lives out in the real world, in a long term same sex relationship, out in the Burbs, one feels very much at home, and accepted. But then I'm also blessed to call the world's most livable City Melbourne home.