Dogs : Man's best friend

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    Oct 10, 2016 1:12 AM GMT
    It's amazing all the gay men that buy Dogs because they can't handle any kind of relationship with another human.
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    Oct 10, 2016 1:26 AM GMT
    Of course, the dogs always would be best friends than human; the dogs never will betray you, the human everytime.
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 10, 2016 2:15 AM GMT
    If you think gay guys buy dogs because they can't handle people, I suggest you understand neither people nor dogs. How sad. I will say I couldn't be attracted to any guy who doesn't love dogs.
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    Oct 10, 2016 2:21 AM GMT
    My Husband of over a quarter of a century, have long had dogs. At one point four of them, ow only two. We also have a cat and parrots.
  • bro4bro

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    Oct 10, 2016 3:00 AM GMT
    Interesting premise.
    So, why do straight guys buy dogs?
    Silly monkey.
  • bifocaled

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    Oct 10, 2016 3:06 AM GMT
    I wanted a dog since I was old enough to have my own place and buy one, but had put off getting one until after I was in a long term relationship, because I was fearful that a dog's companionship will make me less motivated to get back into the relationship game and that I'll turn into a cat-lady icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 10, 2016 3:58 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidIf you think gay guys buy dogs because they can't handle people, I suggest you understand neither people nor dogs. How sad. I will say I couldn't be attracted to any guy who doesn't love dogs.

    This for sure!
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    Oct 10, 2016 4:58 AM GMT
    Of my LTR's, I've had a two-year relationship back in university and two 10-year relationships since, the later, longer two ending each in death. So neither by my choice, doing nor planning. All of us had dogs. I'm not real into cat people; they make me sneeze: the cats, not the people.

    My str8 brother and his family (wife & three kids) generally have two dogs at a time as they do currently.

    Does that make them twice as gay as me? What of their horses? What's that mean? Supergay?

    Getting them ready for the hurricane (the horses, not their kids) was so much work that we had to cancel our holiday get-together over the weekend.

    I don't know if I'd completely avoid someone who isn't into pets, but I'm more comfortable with people who relate better to all of life.

    I'm gonna go pet my pet elephunt now.
  • nice_chap

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    Oct 10, 2016 10:08 AM GMT
    Can't you handle a relationship with a dog owner then?
  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    Oct 10, 2016 10:15 AM GMT
    MaleElement saidIt's amazing all the gay men that buy Dogs because they can't handle any kind of relationship with another human.


    Says the man who is perpetually single and in his late fifties. icon_lol.gif

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    ANIMALS IS ALWAYS ...mensicon_wink.gif best friendicon_wink.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 10, 2016 4:44 PM GMT
    I will agree that having a dog makes you less needy of other companionship but I don't think that's a bad thing at all; The more fulfilled you are as a person, especially one who has learned to care for and nurture others, the better you will be at relationships with a partner. Not always because having a dog is hierarchal and a good relationship has to be 50/50 (or 75/75 as I like to say). But it gets you out of yourself and makes you more responsible. When I was single I was sometimes sorry to not be able to go directly from work to something with friends but I had responsibilities at home. If I wanted to take off for a weekend I had to make arrangements for the dog. Etc. But it taught me to love and accept love and shoulder obligations. Forever. Most of my dogs have lived for 16 years or longer. One was in a wheelchair at the end. All have been inconveniently expensive at just the wrong time. I've had seven since college. Sometimes just one but usually two and three for a while. All about 60-75 lbs, English Setters all but one, an Irish Setter. That's a lot of dog! The current two I got after my partner and I were together so they're now "ours," not mine. And I find I like that.
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    Oct 10, 2016 5:26 PM GMT
    nice_chap saidCan't you handle a relationship with a dog owner then?


    good question icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 10, 2016 7:53 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said The more fulfilled you are as a person, especially one who has learned to care for and nurture others, the better you will be at relationships with a partner.


    They way you go off the deep end and spew your venom toward other people here (over some of the most trivial matters, I might add) I would NEVER have guessed you to be a "fulfilled" person. Quite the opposite, actually.
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 10, 2016 8:57 PM GMT
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior said
    Destinharbor said The more fulfilled you are as a person, especially one who has learned to care for and nurture others, the better you will be at relationships with a partner.


    They way you go off the deep end and spew your venom toward other people here (over some of the most trivial matters, I might add) I would NEVER have guessed you to be a "fulfilled" person. Quite the opposite, actually.

    My venomous reactions are only to people who say disgusting things or are paid by someone to spread lies. Like you. Example, this thread. Nice conversation and you jump in with your usual ugly. No reason. Just to be ugly. You are good at ugly and I'm sure it's because you practice a lot. You do that in pretty much every thread. My comments are usually supportive of relationships and positive except I have no patience with Breitbard/FOX/Dredge conspiracy theory promulgators. Or self-appointed queens. I don't live with people like you at the lowest common denominator.
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    Oct 10, 2016 11:03 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior said
    Destinharbor said The more fulfilled you are as a person, especially one who has learned to care for and nurture others, the better you will be at relationships with a partner.


    They way you go off the deep end and spew your venom toward other people here (over some of the most trivial matters, I might add) I would NEVER have guessed you to be a "fulfilled" person. Quite the opposite, actually.

    My venomous reactions are only to people who say disgusting things or are paid by someone to spread lies. Like you. Example, this thread. Nice conversation and you jump in with your usual ugly. No reason. Just to be ugly. You are good at ugly and I'm sure it's because you practice a lot. You do that in pretty much every thread. My comments are usually supportive of relationships and positive except I have no patience with Breitbard/FOX/Dredge conspiracy theory promulgators. Or self-appointed queens. I don't live with people like you at the lowest common denominator.


    The OP starts a thread to dismantle human beings (or more specifically "gay men") who own dogs by making some sweeping generalization that they're dysfunctional and I'm the one who's ugly? You truly are ludicrous. It's as if you willfully turn a blind eye when some self-loathing homosexual spouts off some garbage. But then again, coming from you I shouldn't be surprised.

    Just remember, from one independent (me) to a rabid modern progressive liberal (you), you're not better than me or more enlightened than me simply for being a liberal. Just because you have different viewpoints than me doesn't entitle you to spew expletive after expletive at me without making yourself look asininely foolish. It clearly demonstrates you have no self control. You justify your behavior when you read "disgusting things" on here. Your toilet mouth is what's disgusting.
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    Oct 10, 2016 11:57 PM GMT
    MaleElement saidIt's amazing all the gay men that buy Dogs because they can't handle any kind of relationship with another human.



    Odd. I've noticed the opposite. I find that people who have dogs tend to be quite loving in general.
  • mwolverine

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    Oct 12, 2016 4:23 AM GMT
    Radd said
    I find that people who have dogs tend to be quite loving in general.

    Of course. Dogs are pack animals, [good] dog dads have to be team players.
  • mwolverine

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    Oct 12, 2016 4:25 AM GMT
    bro4bro said
    So, why do straight guys buy dogs?

    Lemme guess: because they are really gay and "can't handle any kind of relationship with another human" - let alone women?
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 12, 2016 6:01 AM GMT
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior said
    Destinharbor said
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior said
    Destinharbor said The more fulfilled you are as a person, especially one who has learned to care for and nurture others, the better you will be at relationships with a partner.


    They way you go off the deep end and spew your venom toward other people here (over some of the most trivial matters, I might add) I would NEVER have guessed you to be a "fulfilled" person. Quite the opposite, actually.

    My venomous reactions are only to people who say disgusting things or are paid by someone to spread lies. Like you. Example, this thread. Nice conversation and you jump in with your usual ugly. No reason. Just to be ugly. You are good at ugly and I'm sure it's because you practice a lot. You do that in pretty much every thread. My comments are usually supportive of relationships and positive except I have no patience with Breitbard/FOX/Dredge conspiracy theory promulgators. Or self-appointed queens. I don't live with people like you at the lowest common denominator.


    The OP starts a thread to dismantle human beings (or more specifically "gay men") who own dogs by making some sweeping generalization that they're dysfunctional and I'm the one who's ugly? You truly are ludicrous. It's as if you willfully turn a blind eye when some self-loathing homosexual spouts off some garbage. But then again, coming from you I shouldn't be surprised.

    Just remember, from one independent (me) to a rabid modern progressive liberal (you), you're not better than me or more enlightened than me simply for being a liberal. Just because you have different viewpoints than me doesn't entitle you to spew expletive after expletive at me without making yourself look asininely foolish. It clearly demonstrates you have no self control. You justify your behavior when you read "disgusting things" on here. Your toilet mouth is what's disgusting.

    I am better than you. And more enlightened. You're crazy. We're talking dogs here. You're seriously sick. Find a therapist and stop trying to infect others with your bile.
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    Oct 12, 2016 6:17 AM GMT
    mwolverine said
    Radd said
    I find that people who have dogs tend to be quite loving in general.

    Of course. Dogs are pack animals, [good] dog dads have to be team players.


    Contrary to my initial comments toward the OP for creating this thread, I do agree that (some) people pursue pet ownership because they lack the social skills, emotional and psychological development to interact with other humans in a healthy way. My problem was with FeMaleElement's ploy to limit this phenomenon to gay men only; yet another one of his ongoing attempts to castigate his fellow brethren. The fact of the matter is that people of all sexual orientations do this. I've seen plenty of women do this as well.

    From my observation, devout pet owners typically treat their pets better than their fellow human beings. They humanize their pets which is not only unhealthy for themselves but it also can have a negative impact on their animals. A dog humanized by its owner will more often than not be very aggressive toward other dogs. Also, people who humanize their pets more often than not forget that they are the ones in charge. It's not an equal relationship.

    I do know some really fucked up gay men who are hardcore animal lovers who fight for animal rights and their well being. Yet they also tend to be some of the most malicious, abusive and emotionally retarded people toward their very own species. I also know a lot of straight women who are this way as well. Quite the dichotomy indeed. icon_wink.gif
  • ANTiSociaLiNJ...

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    Oct 12, 2016 6:25 AM GMT
    Destinharbor said

    I am better than you. And more enlightened. You're crazy. We're talking dogs here. You're seriously sick. Find a therapist and stop trying to infect others with your bile.


    Yes, we were talking about dogs here and then as you continued to attack me you had to bring irrelevant topics into the discussion such as politics and FOX news. So I would suggest that you learn to keep on topic and resist your red herring and straw man tactics as you foolishly and fallaciously attempt to dismantle me. The only thing you're better at than me is being judgmental and being very irrational.

    I bet you're trying so hard to resist your intrinsic urge to hurl your usual toilet mouth expletives at me aren't ya? icon_cool.gif
  • mwolverine

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    Oct 12, 2016 1:44 PM GMT
    ANTiSociaLiNJUSTICeWarior said
    mwolverine saidDogs are pack animals, [good] dog dads have to be team players.

    A dog humanized by its owner will more often than not be very aggressive toward other dogs. Also, people who humanize their pets more often than not forget that they are the ones in charge. It's not an equal relationship.

    Not really sure how a dog would know that it's human is humanizing them or how that would lead to aggression toward other dogs.

    In my family, it's the other way around. I'm one of the dogs. icon_smile.gif
    The leader of the pack, in charge, with all the responsibilities.
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    Oct 12, 2016 2:52 PM GMT
    Gay men love pets because we are naturally givers, and overflow with empathy in many situations. At times too much for own good, I think. But it's what we do.

    Contradictorily, we also bitch & criticize worse than anybody. It's one of my own "tells" I missed before I came out. Because I was already doing it, along with demonstrating a lot of other gay traits, before I realized I was gay myself. Suggesting that common gay traits aren't learned socially, they originate spontaneously from within us.

    And one of them is a love for pets. It's really a kind of joke.

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  • mwolverine

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    Oct 12, 2016 5:53 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    common gay traits aren't learned socially, they originate spontaneously from within us.

    Disagree inasmuch as we all have different "traits" within us. Those that blossom are the ones we feed, individually or as a community.
    It's not like there is a "bitchy" gene that tends to be transmitted more with the "gay gene".

    I'm tempted to generalize and posit that minorities in general have more to bitch about and that minority communities encourage bitching in order to challenge the status quo: "it's not ok that we have to sit in the back of the bus or can't get married, speak out!"