Sex With a Priest

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 10, 2007 2:08 AM GMT
    You have started dating someone. Nice guy, attractive, very grounded and he has told you he teaches 5th grade at a catholic school. Finally after a couple of dinners he admits that he has "something" to tell you and its bothering him.
    Meanwhile, you have had sex with him a couple of times.

    On the way to dinner he finally explains that he is a Catholic Priest, in charge of a local parish.
    Your reaction?

    P.S. True story
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    Oct 10, 2007 2:26 AM GMT
    Long time ago met a nice guy, planned to meet again. Drove him home. His home was the novitiate. Never saw him again. Not a practicing Catholic, then or now, but sex with a priest, or even a novice, as he was, still seems too much like sacrilege to me.

    Being friends with a gay priest seems fine to me. And I know priests are human and have the same needs as every other guy, but there is the vow of chastity thing.

    What was your reaction?
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    Oct 10, 2007 2:52 AM GMT
    My first reaction would be that this man has a problem. Not with dating men or teaching 5th grade. But because this man must have some problem that would drive him to become a priest. He's gotten twisted around somewhere along in his life. I would talk about it with him. Find out what his feelings are. Then encourage him to face his "problem, get out of the priesthood, and get on with his life as he really wants to live it.
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    Oct 10, 2007 10:48 AM GMT
    Why would he have to leave the Priesthood? Why does he have to have a problem? Maybe this is his calling and he just happens to gay! I 'am a government contractor and just happen to be gay. And what ever you are and you are gay.
    A Catholic priest is no different than any one else, and does not have to rise above anything. He chooses to break his vow not any one else. We all make our own lives as we go along right wrong or indifferent. OW we need some of your grounded words.
    I would be concerned with is he grounded, a decent guy, not hurting anyone. Is this just enjoyment or is it going somewhere?icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 10, 2007 11:04 AM GMT
    Interesting one, well apart from the fact that he is running against everything his Church stands for, I wouldnt get involved in the slightest as you are hardly going to have an openly acknowledged loving relationship.

    Fortunately for you Gray, and despite the governments best efforts, I dont think their contract of engagement would stipulate that being Gay is a sin and stands against everything they stand for.

    You may feel yuo can not be openly gay at work but that is a different matter as your employers would not be able to sack you for it.
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    Oct 10, 2007 3:39 PM GMT
    Technically, all gay/lesbians involved in the church are running against everything the church stands for.

    Remember that this man is human first. He was also honest with you. If you think you could have feelings for him, you should try and stick it out.

    In general, I think many people today are so quick to judge. They are also quick to give up when times get rough. I think that's why many people are single today.

    Of course this is just my opinion. People can be different and still have a relationship. I'd give him a chance.
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    Oct 10, 2007 4:34 PM GMT
    oh no. stay away from priests. Being a gay priest is being unfaithful to god. As a priest, there is a vow of celibacy. They're not supposed to be having sex with anyone.

    And the fact that he's gay, and acting upon it while being a priest is a bigger problem. If he's comfortable with being gay, but not acting on it - then he can remain a priest if he want.

    Otherwise he needs to resign. And it's fairly easy for a priest to resign. Of course, that means that nobody will call him "Father" anymore, and people won't take him out to dinner, or fly him across the world just because he's a priest. Oh - and he'll lose the ability to get out of tickets and call in special favors.

    I dated a priest. He was a real charmer - good looking, a smooth talker that loved the power that priests have. It was great - everybody loved him! And then the physical violence started. Which of course he was just doing because he had my best interests in mind. "Just come to bed with me and pray" he'd say.

    I finally snapped out of it and I got a restraining order against him, and he thought he was above it - so he kept on trying to talk to me - in violation of the restraining order.

    Not saying your priest will end up crazy bananas like the guy I dated, but I wouldn't wish the whole ordeal upon my worst enemy.
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    Oct 10, 2007 4:35 PM GMT
    PS: You're totally cute. Don't settle - you deserve the best.
  • cowboyathlete

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    Oct 12, 2007 8:36 PM GMT
    I have never once seen a Catholic priest I wanted to do or date. Now as for hot guys at Mass, that is a very different story.
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    Oct 15, 2007 12:31 AM GMT
    Hmm, considering I dont have any respect for a religion that tells me my stance and beliefs as a human being are wrong, I am not the best judge in this case.
    Saying so, if hes cute, Id mess around with him a few times. But I would never get too involved. It would seem to me he has issues.
  • Timbales

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    Oct 15, 2007 12:40 AM GMT
    I am not anti-religion and I'm not a religious person myself, but I wouldn't continue dating him.

    I'd tell him that I can't date a man who continues to break a vow that serious, and if he decided he wanted to leave the priesthood I'd be willing to continue dating him.
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    Oct 30, 2007 6:23 PM GMT
    i've dated one once. all those times he told me he's a family counselor, and kept things to himself. I'm not the type that doubt what people told me, so i believe him. But after a while I just feel he has something to hide. well, after a while i got tired of the invisible wall, so we end up being just friends. and finally he told me he's a priest. and he thought i wasn't bright enough to see thru. I though to myself, he's the man of god and he's barging on how good he can lie? thru him i met few other priests who fools around. and go as far as to south america and have one of those pay bf. kinda bazaar.
    If i knew better then, i won't waste my time with a priest. They took the oath, and still play around. just not right. not that they dont' have the right to have fun, I just feel anyone who can do one thing and say another and still be comfortable with themselves are wrong.