Avoiding a stalker

  • mikeeugene

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    Feb 13, 2009 1:35 AM GMT
    Hey,

    So I had chatted with this guy online for a couple of weeks, then he offered a bj. I made it clear that I wasn't looking for a boyfriend. I had him over to my place twice, just for him to blow me, then he left.

    Anyway, he seems to be crazy now.

    It kind of became obvious when we texted some last Friday, figured out that he wasn't free. I was also tired from work. Then he texts, "I fantasize about you." I didn't respond, and he got all pissed. I explained that I was tired from work and wasn't sitting at the computer to text. He flipped out like we had been married 20 years and was very angry in his texts messages. I decided the safest route was to not respond to statements like, "You need to treat me like a fucking HUMAN."

    Good thing is he lives at least 20 min away and got lost both times he tried to find my place.

    Today, he sent an message to my Manhunt inbox. "I miss that cock."
    I deleted it.
    About a minute later he sends "Delete this email too, FUCKER."

    I'm definitely not going to contact him back at all, as that will just feed his crazy idea that there is something between us, but is there anything I should do to make sure that I'm safe?

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    Feb 13, 2009 4:26 AM GMT
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    Feb 13, 2009 4:33 AM GMT
    you really need to start answering my texts!!

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    Feb 13, 2009 4:42 AM GMT
    On manhunt, you need to either block him, or delete his messages WITHOUT reading them.
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    Feb 13, 2009 4:48 AM GMT
    Assuming you haven't divulged any important personal information, the concept of being stalked online is laughable and just a bunch of smoke and mirrors.

    Being stalked in real life is a serious thing though.
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    Feb 13, 2009 4:59 AM GMT
    I wonder, when I send people email on RJ do they think I'm an old man creeper-type of stalker?icon_question.gif
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    Feb 13, 2009 5:12 AM GMT
    I've had at least two stalkers. The best thing is to stop complete communication. Since he knows where you live it may be more difficult for you. You might want to document the times and dates of the harassment and see about saving the voicemails and text messages just in case you need to file a restraining order or get the cops involved. Be aware of your surroundings especially if it is night time. You could go ahead and text him to stop stalking you and leave you alone so you can say you did that for possible future legalities but that might make things worse.
  • josephmovie

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    Feb 13, 2009 9:40 AM GMT
    I've been stalked as well. What you need to do is tell him that his behavior is unacceptable to you, and that you do not want to have any communication with him again for any reason. Make this clear. If you don't want to say it to him then send him a note.

    Be that blunt, because if you are even vaguely nice about it these people will still think they have a chance. Then proceed to ignore him as best you can. Do not communicate with him again. Don't even say hello if you see him around. It's difficult, but it has to be done.

    And next time, go to a hotel or to his place for the bj.