Bonaparts saidhave you tried looking up your ass?
Wow, all I did was ask a question. I didn't judge anybody who is out, so I'm not sure where that comment came from.
As a member of this site, I apologize for the arrogant and ignorant people who not only promote their own agenda but do so in such a mean and spirited way. And as far as the pussy word, that should be left to the name of the situation that one of our presidential candidates has to deal with aka: Pussygate.
The decent answers are valid. It becomes pretty frustrating when nothing ever seems to happen that you want to happen. I do suggest that you simply be yourself. Back in 1971 there was a movie titled, Some of My Best Friends Are
. The Wikipedia blurb says "On Christmas Eve 1971 in Manhattan's Greenwich Village, a group of gay men and lesbians meet at the Blue Jay Bar to talk about their lives and relationships"
which is a good description of the story line of which I remember almost nothing (and as a side note, never use Wikipedia for a source of movie review - message bon_pan or Bro4bro here on this site for superb info on movies/music). But I have used that title since to describe my own friendships. While folks tend to be known by the company they keep, that's not always a bad thing. Some of those people will be the down low guys that you want to meet anyway. Besides, the devout Catholics and the conservative folks now know not to even broach the subject with me because they understand that I appreciate all that life has to offer. I suggest you do the same. Be natural and friendly and not so secretive. No one needs to know who you go to bed with and quite frankly, I don't really think most decent people want to know what others are doing in bed anyway. None of anyone's business. Just like the guys in the locker room who don't what stip completely in front of everyone - what you have is really not the business of the general public (see http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4243233). This is America (even in Tennessee) where the 1st Amendment is still part of the law of the land. You are in a different culture than D.C. so you need to keep that in mind as well. A sauna, being cognisant of body language as have been suggested as well as simply enjoying the company of people to whom you are attracted are good venues. Although I so have Scruff on my phone, I really hesitate using it because you are communicating to someone you have no idea who it is. When I see the message: "250 feet,"
I think that's cool. Even better when I look around and see the person and his picture is a good likeness. But then I realize that he can see the same "250 feet"
message. Then reality sets in quickly and I realize that I would rather simply build a trusting relationship (somehow) and go from there. Most of us are here for you and most guys will write back if they are messaged and will do so with encouragement.
Good luck. Life ain't easy sometimes.