Question to the bottom gays

  • get2know

    Posts: 7

    Oct 16, 2016 1:39 PM GMT
    Hey. What would u do if your top partner put his penis inside even if u said no?
    Would you call it rape or only if you couldn't manage to fight him back would you call it rape?

    If u just lied on the bed and your partner wanted to have sex and u were like no not this time and he ,trying to make u horny , put it in what would u do. Please be serious
  • Nayro

    Posts: 1825

    Oct 16, 2016 1:45 PM GMT
    top partner put his penis inside even if u said no = definition of rape
  • get2know

    Posts: 7

    Oct 16, 2016 2:43 PM GMT
    It doesn't work like that in my country though. The victim has to resist a bit I guess.
  • Nayro

    Posts: 1825

    Oct 16, 2016 2:54 PM GMT
    You're from the UK your profile says. I'm pretty sure it works like that over there as well.
  • Nayro

    Posts: 1825

    Oct 16, 2016 2:56 PM GMT
    I also see that you only asked questions about rape and abuse on this forum. It sounds to me you have an issue with it. Maybe seek some help offline.
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    Oct 17, 2016 2:33 PM GMT
    If you have not consented to anal penetration it's rape.

    HOWEVER you have to accept there is a grey area here within a generally loving, non-abusive relationship, if someone is playfully rubbing their dick on your hole and you're saying "No I'm not in the mood" and they just push it in a bit, hoping to change your mind and get you in the mood. It's an asshole thing to do IMO but I wouldn't be calling the cops crying rape, if you really did not want it to happen then unless you are somehow physically disabled you can move away and make it clear that it's not going to happen.
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 17, 2016 3:20 PM GMT
    PulseFit saidIf you have not consented to anal penetration it's rape.

    HOWEVER you have to accept there is a grey area here within a generally loving, non-abusive relationship, if someone is playfully rubbing their dick on your hole and you're saying "No I'm not in the mood" and they just push it in a bit, hoping to change your mind and get you in the mood. It's an asshole thing to do IMO but I wouldn't be calling the cops crying rape, if you really did not want it to happen then unless you are somehow physically disabled you can move away and make it clear that it's not going to happen.

    I agree. In my mind rape is forced penetration against the other' will. People should be expected to clearly resist if possible and be overwhelmed for it to be rape. Obviously it isn't possible to resist if you're passed out drunk, have a knife or gun or paralysis of fear immobilizing you. But gentle resistance and surrender has been part of sex forever and the line is often not clear when your partner is being playful and wants to be seduced and when in fact he/she is saying no. A solid, strong NO should be sufficient. If the bottom lies there and takes it and then later whines that he really didn't want it, that is not rape.