Contact after going home

  • xy28

    Posts: 19

    Oct 18, 2016 1:56 AM GMT
    Iv'e been single for the past 2 years and I'm just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation before? Basically I went to a different city, met a guy at the bar went home with him and then hung out for part of the morning. We are both around the same age (he is 23 and I am 24). We have a lot of stuff in common and I would like to meet up with him again but he lives two hours away. He wants to meet up as well. We messaged back and forth a couple times via text but I'm very eager to meet him again. I just don't want to come off as clingy. I haven't considered relationships since my last one, which started online and lasted 3 years in person. What would make you feel that the guy is coming on too strong lol? Thanks ahead of time for any advice, I have very few gay friends.
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    Oct 18, 2016 1:57 AM GMT
    Life is too short. Tell him that you enjoy your time with him and that you are eager to see him again. Live with no regrets.
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    Oct 18, 2016 11:23 AM GMT
    If you let it drop you'll never see him again.
    If he thinks you're coming across as too clingy you'll never see him again.
    But maybe if you message back you'll connect.

    What have you got to lose?
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 18, 2016 12:18 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidLife is too short. Tell him that you enjoy your time with him and that you are eager to see him again. Live with no regrets.

    Do it. My guy was two hours away when we met online and then for a weekend date. We both knew we wanted more from the first hour. Just celebrated nine years together.
  • bro4bro

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    Oct 19, 2016 4:05 AM GMT
    Wanting to see him again isn't "clingy".

    Just resist the urge to start planning Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, and your wedding together.

    And don't start calling him "sweetheart" until you know him real, real, real well.

    Be forward. Be eager. Be yourself. You'll be fine.
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    Oct 19, 2016 3:35 PM GMT
    bro4bro saidWanting to see him again isn't "clingy".

    Just resist the urge to start planning Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, and your wedding together.

    And don't start calling him "sweetheart" until you know him real, real, real well.

    Be forward. Be eager. Be yourself. You'll be fine.


    Extremely sane advice.
  • Triggerman

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    Oct 20, 2016 2:16 AM GMT
    I like bro4bro's comments. I think playing hard to get is over rated. I think being clingy scares people off. Somewhere in the middle. If you like him and had fun, let him know and open the conversation up to meeting again. And stay in touch, but not every five minutes. Send a text or whatever when something strikes you as interesting. If you know his interests, comment on them when they come up in the news. Read his responses and figure out if they are polite responses or looking for further engagement. Guys tell us so much but we tend to hear what we want to hear.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Oct 21, 2016 1:53 AM GMT
    Clingy is someone who is texting you every 5 minutes.

    Genuinely interested dude is someone who has one to two convos a day, and stays in touch.

    A smart and genuinely interested dude is someone who has got a good plan. 'Wanna come over and spend a day or two over the weekend at my place?" "I'll travel gladly if you can offer some basic hospitality?" "We can meet somewhere else and have a blast for a day or two?"...

    SC