Certain Taste in Music

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    Feb 13, 2009 7:59 AM GMT
    Would you be turned off by a guys taste in music or would it make you less likely to date him? Just curious. It's kind of a big factor in my book...call me shallow or immature...but i think that a persons taste in music can greatly reflect what kind of personality type they are and even what type of social environment they chose to grow up in.
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    Feb 13, 2009 8:05 AM GMT
    I think there is often a strng correlation between music taste and personality. I think that it would be a shame to not be able to share music tastes as i love sharing music pieces with people; music is very close to my heart.

    But i would not bar someone from a relationship just because of music taste.
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    Feb 13, 2009 8:09 AM GMT
    Here is the list of what the music genres I like the most, I dont have a preference, it depends on the moment:

    Classical
    Hip-Hop
    New Age
    Rock
    Nu Metal
    Pop-Rock
    Punk
    Reggae
    Techno
    House
    Country
    Salsa
    Pop-Country
    Merengue
    Jazz
    Hardtechno
    Drum and Bass
    R&B
    Samba

    Can you please tell me what kinda of personality I have and the social environment I would like to grow up in?

    if it really means that much to you, then you should specify it on your profile, with something like:

    If you like (music genre comes here) then I won't like you cause you are (personality comes here) and you want to grow up in (environment comes here). We are just completely different.

    That should be good enough to help you find what you look for.

    Edit:

    BTW! Im afraid Delivis likes most of the variety of genres I just mentioned...Does that mean we have some connection, probably....as long as he bottoms. icon_lol.gif

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    Feb 13, 2009 8:28 AM GMT
    Sure, I see your point. But what about a guy who grew up listening to country music and a guy who is really into trance or teckno? Do you really think that they are compatible. I guess it would be a case by case basis based on other interest that they share...but just as a hypothetical question
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    Feb 13, 2009 9:10 AM GMT
    drjon2ko saidSure, I see your point. But what about a guy who grew up listening to country music and a guy who is really into trance or teckno? Do you really think that they are compatible. I guess it would be a case by case basis based on other interest that they share...but just as a hypothetical question


    I think you like someone for lots of reason, personally I like guys for the way they think. My taste for music has varied every year, today we just like something, tomorrow we might like something else.

    In a relationship, things will work as long as you know what your priorities are, your priority is that person you want to be with. I always thought that there should always be something I can relate to in order to like someone but it doesnt have to be specific, we should share some interests but I dont set specific interests, unless it be religion, politics or other extreme cases. But music? Movies? Arts? Food? Thats something you can always handle, and something you can always learn from, differences that will add value to a relationship making it more dynamic and interesting.

    We have enough limits already when it comes to find someone drjon: age, genre, sexual preference, effeminate or masculine, blond, black, assian, latin or caucasian, location, mental stability, social status and so on. Just make sure you dont limit your options of finding someone special with trivial limitations.
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    Feb 13, 2009 9:13 AM GMT
    This was mentioned in a different thread. But I think the consensus was that if a guy is open minded about music, then he's most likely open minded about other things.

    Here's my last.fm tag cloud. Love me or hate me. icon_lol.gif

    1980s
    alternative
    new wave
    2000s
    1990s
    classic rock
    punk
    1970s
    electronic
    country
    british
    synth pop
    hip-hop
    1960s
    big beat
    psychobilly
    hipster rock
    trip-hop
    pop punk
    new romantic
    indie
    rockabilly
    folk
    madchester
    oldies
    hair metal
    dance
    beats
    dj
    japanese
    goth
    breaks
    freedom rock
    britpop
    hardcore
    covers
    shoegaze
    dream pop
    old school
    surf
    metal
    cowpunk
    ska
    french
    industrial
    grunge
    house
    bossa nova
    glam
    mod
    southern rock
    alternative country
    straight edge
    irish
    drum-n-bass
    eleki
    funk
    acoustic
    oi
    arena rock
    jpop
    doo wop
    1950s
    instrumental
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    Feb 13, 2009 9:13 AM GMT
    If the guy could only listen to one type of music, and that type of music was not a favourite of mine then it could be an issue. I don't think I could have dated someone who liked only gangsta rap, or polka, or showtunes.

    And Charlitos inadvertantly reaffirmed my suspicion that all gay men of spanish background are tops (or at least refuse to admit they are bottoms). So wonder I never dated one. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 13, 2009 9:25 AM GMT
    SurrealLife said

    And Charlitos inadvertantly reaffirmed my suspicion that all gay men of spanish background are tops (or at least refuse to admit they are bottoms). So wonder I never dated one. icon_smile.gif


    buahahaha, IM VERSATILE! I love to bottom as much as I love topping, but with Delivis??? We have a looooong story already, with him it would be bottom or nothing icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 13, 2009 9:33 AM GMT
    My tastes in music are broader than anyone i have ever met.

    My music player just went from a south african choir singing in Zulu to a german folk song to marlyn manson to a polish 70s pop song to a french rap song...and well you get the idea. I could write a page of crazy music transitions.

    P.S. @Carlos: in your dreams!..icon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gif
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    Feb 13, 2009 10:21 AM GMT
    Well i guess this doesnt really apply to people with a broad taste in music. I mean, for someone who listens to pretty much everything, this obviously would'nt be a factor. Not trying to be rude..but it just would'nt. Maybe people with a broader taste in music have been exposed to more culture and social backgrounds than people who listen to only one or two kinds of music allowing them to be more open and attracted to other personality types. Maybe someone who limits themselves to one or two types of music would have a stronger social attraction to ones own 'gener' simply because he/she has an obvious attraction to such; being somewhat limited in personal taste.
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    Feb 13, 2009 1:14 PM GMT
    If all you're concerned about is music, who cares what they have on their ipod? But it looks lilke you're using musical taste as a shorthand for cultural values, e.g., someone who is deeply invested in say hip-hop and only hip-hop might have different values from someone who listened only to country or house music or whatever. But nothing would take the place of actually getting to know the guy and finding out whether this snap judgment accurately reflects what's in his heart.



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    Feb 13, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    drjon2ko said...but i think that a persons taste in music can greatly reflect what kind of personality type they are and even what type of social environment they chose to grow up in.

    Not quite sure what you mean by "what type of social environment they chose to grow up in" [emphasis added]. Do many people have a choice regarding the environment they grow up in?

    A personality connection with different music preferences would seem a valid concept, but I haven't seen any studies on it. And at first thought it would appear reasonable to assume that an interest in more sedate music will reflect a more sedate personality overall, while an interest in energetic music reflects a more energetic personality.

    In contrast, and not that Hollywood proves anything, I'm reminded of the movie The Silence of the Lambs, in which the caged monster Dr. Lector is listening to Bach's exquisite Goldberg Variations, apocryphally believed to have been composed as soothing pieces to relieve a patron's insomnia. But in this case they are an incongruous prelude to Lector ripping off the face of one of his guards.

    If such a possibility can be believed, I'm not sure we can make accurate predictions about what musical choices tell about people. In my own case, my greatest love is for Baroque and Classical music, especially the aforementioned Bach, as well as Mozart. Now where are those fava beans?
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    Feb 13, 2009 2:11 PM GMT
    I could never be with a guy who liked anything other than Tuvan throat singing.
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    Feb 13, 2009 2:33 PM GMT
    ...If i find someone that hardcore listens to Bjork that's it!icon_evil.gif
  • Timbales

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    Feb 13, 2009 2:52 PM GMT
    No, a person's taste in music wouldn't bother me at all.
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    Feb 13, 2009 3:38 PM GMT
    I can't stand most of the music my boyfriend listens to. He can't stand my hours and hours of John Kale on heroin, or Tuvan singing, or Gamlan, or Black Metal, or what ever horrible genre happens to tickle my fancy.

    But that is why we have headphones.
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    Feb 13, 2009 3:43 PM GMT



    Hey drjon2ko, Welcome to RJ!
    To get a better grasp on this I substituted 'music' with TV shows and then books and then food.

    xrichx has summed up my own conclusions I think really well,

    "But I think the consensus was that if a guy is open minded about music, then he's most likely open minded about other things."

    Charlitos made a wonderful observation that both Bill and I can attest to,

    "But music? Movies? Arts? Food? That's something you can always handle, and something you can always learn from, differences that will add value to a relationship making it more dynamic and interesting."

    Bill and I have broadened each others tastes in entertainment etc quite a bit over the years.

    You mentioned a person that only likes one kind of music. That's fine too, the question for me would be why they don't like anything else, which may tell you something about their willingness to try out the new, and their willingness to experiment and accept another's preferences..


    -Doug of meninlove
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    Feb 13, 2009 3:57 PM GMT
    To sort of 'fine tune' based on some of the answers here, I'd say this:

    I don't really care what kinds of music a guy likes. However, if it were a very narrow range, then there might, potentially, be an issue down the road. He doesn't have to like what I like, but if he only listens* to one type of music 95% of the time, it would start to annoy me.

    * as opposed to what he says he likes. Many list all different types of music, but often listen only to one type. This is basically the difference between stated values and practiced values, and it applies to many other things as well.

    My ex listened mostly to classic disco. (70's and very early 80's). Occasionally he'd listen to some Soul and very rarely, Jazz or R&B. Mostly disco though. He said he liked other things, but I never heard him listen to any of the other genres that he'd mentioned. This was also evident from his CD collection as well. If I had a question about disco, he'd be the first person I'd ask, but of any other kind of music, not so much.

    I liked the music that he played, but I also listen to many other genre's and he'd get bored or annoyed when I'd stray too long from disco.

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    Feb 13, 2009 4:00 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    buahahaha, IM VERSATILE! I love to bottom as much as I love topping, but with Delivis??? We have a looooong story already, with him it would be bottom or nothing icon_lol.gif



    Interesting.

    Hi Charlitos icon_wink.gif

    Very interesting.

    BTW I love the LOLcats song. What does that say about me?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTcz-etqwKg
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    Feb 13, 2009 4:10 PM GMT
    SurrealLife saidIf the guy could only listen to one type of music, and that type of music was not a favourite of mine then it could be an issue. I don't think I could have dated someone who liked only gangsta rap, or polka, or showtunes.


    Yeah, it's more the obsession with a certain type of music that is a turn-off. As in guys who'll only listen to say... metal, and nothing else, punk rock and nothing else, classical and nothing else, Britney and nothing else etc. They have the tendency to be posers. At least from the people I know who do it. LOL. But it's rare you'll find a guy who's only fixated on one music genre anyway. People may have favorite genres/artists but they almost always like other music from other genres too.

    If he likes one genre which I hate but we overlap enough in other genres, I think that's good enough. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 13, 2009 4:33 PM GMT
    drjon2ko saidWould you be turned off by a guys taste in music or would it make you less likely to date him? Just curious. It's kind of a big factor in my book...call me shallow or immature...but i think that a persons taste in music can greatly reflect what kind of personality type they are and even what type of social environment they chose to grow up in.


    You're shallow and immature icon_razz.gif

    There is not much music I don't like. You could say I like all music except rap. So what does that say about me?
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    Feb 13, 2009 5:14 PM GMT
    Here are the genres included in my iTunes music library right now

    a cappella
    acid jazz
    acid punk
    acoustic
    alt. folk.
    alternative
    ambient
    avantgarde
    ballad
    bass
    black metal
    blues
    blues rock
    blues/r&b
    books & spoken (for some reason one of my weird al CDs is listed as this.)
    booty bass
    brit pop
    brit rock
    celtic
    christian rock
    christmas/holiday
    classic rock
    classical
    comedy
    comedy rock
    country
    cult
    dance
    death metal
    easy listening
    electronic
    emo
    fast fusion
    folk
    folk rock
    folk parody
    freestyle
    gangsta
    grunge
    Hard rock
    hardcore
    heavy metal
    hip-hop
    house
    humor
    indie
    industrial
    instrumental
    irish
    jazz
    jazz-funk
    light rock
    live
    metal
    metalcore(I think the songs are labelled incorrectly though)
    new age
    oldies
    pop
    pop-folk
    pop/hair metal
    porn groove
    prog. death metal
    prog. metal
    prog. rock
    Psychedelic
    Psychedelic Rock
    Punk
    Punk rap
    r&b
    rap
    rave
    reggae
    rhythmic soul
    rock/rock&roll/rock blues
    rockpop
    screwed
    ska
    slow rock
    soul
    southern rock
    swing
    symphonic rock
    techno
    thrash
    top 40
    trance
    trip-hop
    unplugged
    vocal




    so.

    any clue?

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    Feb 13, 2009 6:30 PM GMT
    again...people who have a broad taste in music, this does'nt really apply to you. But yeah most of yall get what im tryin to say. Thanks. It's been interesting so far.

    You "like all music except rap." I'd call you a racist. jk...you knew that was comming.
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    Feb 13, 2009 6:38 PM GMT
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    drjon2ko said...but i think that a persons taste in music can greatly reflect what kind of personality type they are and even what type of social environment they chose to grow up in.

    Not quite sure what you mean by "what type of social environment they chose to grow up in" [emphasis added]. Do many people have a choice regarding the environment they grow up in?

    I was refering to people that listen to punk rock. They are into the music and into the punk scene. they choose to dress punk and be around punks and get into the whole philosophy/mentality behind it. Same thing with goth or any other music/social/scene.

    But yeah good point

  • Feb 13, 2009 7:01 PM GMT
    I somewhat agree with you that the taste of music reflects the personality. For me its a factor that my guy love music because im a music lover and a musician. I do not like heavy metal though. As long as the guy is understanding, tolerant and open to other genres, its all good i think