It takes some time to get into the groove.
My league is a rec league and it's gay and lesbian. We've got people in their mid-twenties to people in their mid-fifties. Each new season, the teams are assembled by the captains to try and be as balanced as possible for we have good matches.
It's not for everyone, we've had some really competitive guys and girls who haven't liked it, but it's really accessible. Plus, it's been going since 1980, so something must be right. ;)