Can YOU look past it?

  • dionysus

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    Feb 13, 2009 10:27 PM GMT
    Given our current economic status, its becoming difficult, nay, impossible to find a job; especially when you have a BS in biology, meaning no financial institution wants you cuz you're gonna leave them for masters or medical school (which is true, damn them) and no biology company will take you because you have no experience (catch-22, YAY!) but someone will take you.

    SeanCody.com.

    I was offered a very fair wage to perform for this company. and i'm seriously debating it seeing as itd cover my bills for 2 months. but then of course there would also be the "you were in porn?" taboo.

    so this thread is designed to raise the question:

    Can YOU look past someone who's done porn in the past?

    OR

    are you too afraid of "getting something" from them? or just the general social outcast that he has become?
  • GQjock

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    Feb 13, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    I don't have a problem with it

    .... but then again I don't work for the Public School system
    or in any form of Human Resources where they VERY WELL MIGHT icon_confused.gif

  • EricLA

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    Feb 14, 2009 2:54 AM GMT
    I think it depends on so many factors, not all of which I think you can judge from this side of things. But, I'd say one major consideration you should take into account is that with the internet those pictures will never go away. They will always be out there. So, if you end up regretting it, you'll have to put up with them hanging over you, whether in relationships, possible employment situations, etc. Is that worth two months of bill paying or ego stroking or whatever the motivation?
  • Timbales

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    Feb 14, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
    I could overlook it it on both a personal and professional basis.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:01 AM GMT
    I could not... either on a personal or a professional basis. (But I have a tendencey to be prude... people used to call me "Ice Queen" :cryicon_smile.gif. My advice... go to grad school on student loans... by the time you are done the crisis should be resolved and you will have a fancy degree. (And yes, the job market sucks... <---- has an MA and is going nowhere fast.)
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:03 AM GMT
    You'll be famous!

    However, as mentioned above, digital media lives forever. That may not be the notoriety you seek as you grow chronologically older and more mentally mature.

    Ponder if you will run for a public office, want a security clearance, or will enjoy folks giggling that they've seen your pee pee. If you're o.k. with that, become the latest "model", and everyone will rate you. Nothing like a group of critics to bring you down to earth.

    Folks put themselves through school stripping, doing porn, sucking dicks, dancing in clubs,... you name it, and, sometimes, aren't any worse for the wear, are maybe even be better for it, but, if you step into taboo, be it porn, bodybuilding, tattoos, piercing, or any sub-culture, you may well get more than you asked for. Make no mistake, the minute you do porn, even if you don't sell intercourse, many folks will regard you as a whore.

    Because I look the way I do, I hear it all the time. I worked stripping and it doesn't bother me a bit, but, I've had folks accuse me of selling intercourse, and that's just not true. I don't do porn; I don't pimp myself out, etc. but I'm accused of it every so often.

    Ponder your decision carefully. Decide if you want to live with the long term outcome.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:03 AM GMT
    aww, Casper...

    i could most definitely look past it. i havent done porn, but i have done things that i am not proud of, or that also carry a heavy "taboo", and i hope that those around me are able to look past it as well.

    we are the sum of our experiences, and that would be QUITE an experience, but you are level-headed enough to maintain a balance, and hell, you'd have some interesting stories to tell.

    for those that can't look past it, well, they should look at their own lives and reassess, because hardly anyone has a "clean" history, and those that do, are boring and lack character.

    i can only speak for myself, and it wouldn't bother me. oh, and if you DO do it, if [when] we meet, you can show off your new-found work skills icon_wink.gif


  • Timbales

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    Feb 14, 2009 3:04 AM GMT
    Use a different name, dye your hair and wear colored contacts.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Feb 14, 2009 3:04 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidI could overlook it it on both a personal and professional basis.


    I agree. But if, at a later date, we WERE dating...I'd expect monogomy, which means you couldn't be doing porn while in a relationship with me. I wouldn't be able to deal with you fucking someone other than me.

    I'm no saint - but the past is the past. So long as you provide the same level of respect for our relationship as I would, and you don't stray... I'd look past it. Might find it kind of hot actually, lol.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    No big woop. If people can't look past it, then fuck 'em.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:07 AM GMT
    Yes, I can look past someone who's done porn in the past. I wouldn't even care if they were still doing it.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    I was sort of thinking about this too, cause sean cody wants me... I'm unsure of what to do. I'd think of it as an adventure, but I can't predict the consequences.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:16 AM GMT
    If you do want to do porn there is a company that every one of their 'actors' has some sort of mask on. I don't recall the company name though.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidNo big woop. If people can't look past it, then fuck 'em.


    Tell that to the HR Department or the hiring committee.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:32 AM GMT
    No, wouldn't bother me.

    Heck even if you did it because you were naturally exhibitionist, wouldn't bother me if you were honest about it. Personally if it were a friend, no problem at all, except for a few quips. Heh. If it were someone I'm in a relationship with, I'd prefer to hear it from him rather than through second-hand sources. And he must not still be doing it and not attempt to lie when confronted about it. Professionally, not a big deal unless he lets it affect the way he works (e.g. brags about it all the time, or has become the office slut because of it).

    What matters is your attitude before and after. Letting it get to your head is bad for example or when it's indicative of some deeper flaw you've always had. Like being obsessively in love with yourself, being uncontrollably slutty, domination issues, or being a closet axe-murderer icon_lol.gif etc.
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    Feb 14, 2009 3:41 AM GMT
    i was asked by sean cody half a year ago to do it- the money is tempting... $2000 for a solo film.... and i got as far as actually setting up a date with the recruiter to shoot... but after asking a number of friends, and getting about 50% begrudgingly saying go for it and 50% acting appalled i was considering it, i changed my mind. money comes and goes, but one's reputation is pretty etched in stone, and once you do certain things, they'll always be there in your past, like a tattoo. i, personally, didn't have a huge moral issue with getting naked in front of a camera- from what i've been told, enough guys jo to my pix as it is lol- i find it flattering; the problem that decided it for me in the end was that the contract you'd sign with sean cody gives them exclusive rights to your image, and they can do with it what they want- you could end up in the back of gay magazines advertising for their site. that would be worth a hella lot more than $2000 to me. and then, as you're considering, there's always the possibility you'll find some amazing guy in your future and he'll be unable to get past your having done porn, or maybe the same roadblock could happen with a future job. i just didn't think it was worth the money in the long run.
  • Sparkycat

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    Feb 14, 2009 3:46 AM GMT
    If you do it, what will you use as your porn name? icon_biggrin.gif
  • OptimusMatt

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    Feb 14, 2009 3:47 AM GMT
    Sparkycat saidIf you do it, what will you use as your porn name? icon_biggrin.gif


    PLEASE let it be Nutgobbler :-P
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidNo big woop. If people can't look past it, then fuck 'em.


    AMEN!

    Caspervann, do what is best in your interest. If you have bill collecters workin your ears off then maybe it wouldn't be all that bad. But then again, I can understand the stigma of working in the pornography industry could put on one's image.

    A double edged sword.

    I can definately live with the fact that someone once was involved in pornography, both on a professional and personal basis.
    We are people and sometimes we have to do things that we may not want to do (or maybe did want to) to get by financially.
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:39 AM GMT
    Hey, nowadays, you gotta do what you gotta do...just let us know what your screen name is, lol! icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:00 AM GMT
    I was once approached by a porn producer that was interested in me, however he cautioned me because of my career. He said, "I won't work with you if you are going to go into politics, medical, or if you work with children." I said, "I'm in two of the three" and he told me that if I left the profession to give him a call. So, if you are planning on either of those three general fields later in life, then I'd not recommend it.
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:12 AM GMT
    Personally, it wouldn't bother me, but I would have concerns that it might hold up a security clearance which more and more employers are requiring
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:19 AM GMT
    well if you need a place to stay while you're in san diego filming . . . .
    ;)

    i actually know one of the guys that works for the studio, he does the interviews that the website posts next to the video's on the site.
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:21 AM GMT
    While there are some professions that would frown on it, generally I don't think most places would care as long as your not actively doing porn while in their employ.
  • bigtallguy

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    Feb 14, 2009 5:28 AM GMT
    if I started dating someone who had done porn I wouldn't be able to look past it because I'd be too busy looking AT it