Fucking Strait Boys!

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    Feb 14, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    This is not a request for advice. This is just me, bitching into the internet, knowing that my gripe wiill, for the at least the next 20 minutes get read by a few people......

    I have a strait boy crush, I'm 28, this shouldn't happen. He's ridiculously cute. Amazingly Smart. And most importantly, hilarious.

    There would be no problem except we work together, and every time one of us gets drunk we are all over the other. And then the next day is awkward. The first time, I thought it was just me being gay. Then last night, he was wasted, and basically sat on my lap cause we couldn't find a chair, and kept putting his head on my my head and saying he was drunk and needed to go home. AAAAAGH. Damnit, if he were gay, I would take this all as a sign of flirting, and would have taken him home. No not for sex, but for at least a make out session and some glue huffing!! ( Sunny Referance, I don't really huff glue)

    OK, I'm done venting. Oh, and is it Straight or Strait when referring to men? I'm sure some grammar Nazi will feel the need to correct me. Or not, I don't care. I'm going to cry over the fact that on Valentines day, my Mr. Right is a straight boy.

    CHEERS!
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:00 PM GMT
    straight.
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:14 PM GMT
    I feel your pain brother... the real love of my life is the same way. On top of that, he always ends his messages with... Love you forever, xoxo or some other confusing message. sigh
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:14 PM GMT
    Here you go



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  • David0728

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    Feb 14, 2009 4:22 PM GMT
    Oh, you sound so sweet! I'm sorry about your situation! I have a straight guy crush too, he's sweet, funny, smart, goodlooking, and an all around nice guy! I need therapy! Haha! I hope your Valentine's Day goes well sweetie! Go out and have fun!
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:29 PM GMT
    If you two are good friends and all, and he thinks you're cool, it just sounds like its a semi bromance thing basically, and its very normal.. Doesn't mean he's gay, or he's curious, just means he's mad comfortable around you, and thinks you're cool. If he does turn out to be curious or whatever, you'd most likely be the first guy he "experiments" with, but chances are its not like that, and don't try anything with him, no matter how drunk the two of you are, because then things will get real weird.
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
    Thank you captain obvious....
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:36 PM GMT
    Matterych saidThank you captain obvious....


    Sounds like someone has a case of the Monday's on Valentine's Day.
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    story of my life.
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:46 PM GMT
    Yup, I know this situation all too well. Unless they initiate something when they're not hammered, it'll cause more harm than good. Honestly, though, situations like this is how I have gotten some of my closest straight guy friends. Sucks at first when you see them hook up with girls, but in the same sense, you're happy that they're happy.
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:52 PM GMT
    LOL, just to clarify, I'm well aware that nothing will come of this. This is not me wanting anything. The important part of my original post is that at 28, I shouldn't be having crushes that make me feel like I'm 12 and sitting next to him at a Jr. High Dance and the DJ is playing Total Eclipse of the Heart.

    A) He's a coworker, I don't go there, its always awkward.

    B) He's straight ( at least for now)

    This is me, waking up drunk from doing tequila shots w/ this boy. And just throwing my frustration into cyber space so that it doesn't fester in my Patron addled brain today.

    Oh, and contemplating starting drinking again at 9am. HAHA
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    Feb 14, 2009 4:57 PM GMT
    I'm 39 and I still get those crushes.
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    straight boyfriends are best for making LOVE,
    gay bfs are for good sex..)
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:22 PM GMT
    kreawiz5 saidstraight boyfriends are best for making LOVE,
    gay bfs are for good sex..)


    Ummmm........I don't think so. Sounds like someone has never experienced the power and satisfaction of making love to another gay guy.
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:47 PM GMT
    He is not str8. He is struggling to come out. Be nurturing when he is drunk next time...peel away the inhibitions layer by layer.
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:50 PM GMT
    Matterych saidLOL, just to clarify, I'm well aware that nothing will come of this. This is not me wanting anything. The important part of my original post is that at 28, I shouldn't be having crushes that make me feel like I'm 12 and sitting next to him at a Jr. High Dance and the DJ is playing Total Eclipse of the Heart.
    You are never too old for a crush. You have mentioned the drinking thing before and it is probably related to feelings of repression you have and not being able to express yourself and your love in the way you want .. so this guy has become your a projection of your desire to be loved and accepted by someone you admire and love -- that is an ok desire to learn from as long as it is not too heavy a burden for the other person to bear.
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    Feb 14, 2009 5:51 PM GMT
    KissingPro said
    kreawiz5 saidstraight boyfriends are best for making LOVE,
    gay bfs are for good sex..)


    Ummmm........I don't think so. Sounds like someone has never experienced the power and satisfaction of making love to another gay guy.


    so.. leave it ) LOVE does not depends on orientation, sex does..
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    Feb 14, 2009 6:03 PM GMT
    The straight boys are easy to crush on. They are so uncomplicated. We gay men are pretty complex and navigating the waters of a gay man is like navigating through the iceberg laden Arctic! But (to push my luck with the metaphor) navigating with straight men is like sailing unimpeded across the Pacific Ocean. icon_lol.gif

    I've had three major straight guy crushes. I spent all of my college years crushing on a fantastic straight guy. We're still friends today, although in the 80s straight men weren't so evolved that they'd get touchy-feely with you.

    Sorry you're going through this. Treat yourself to something good on this V-day and look forward to the quality gay guy who's coming your way.

  • DogBoi22

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    Feb 14, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    I think the whole situation is a bit more complex then you may think.... it could just be that he thinks you are a great friend and likes to hang out with you.

    but if you really did end up pushing your luck, it may cause him to realize that you two aren't the best combination and then you'll lose him anyway.

    i mean, straight guys can seem like the perfect boyfriend but the best thing to do is just be friends and enjoy their company (while keeping your fantasies from impeding your friendship). If he comes onto you when there is now alcohol involved then there would most definitely be something there.
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    Feb 14, 2009 7:13 PM GMT
    Yeah, Story of my Life, volumes I to XXII....
    I'll have some of that ice cream please....icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 14, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    my gym partner is straight and very hot, with a 9in tool, we take showers together and also sleep in the same bed together sometimes. We respect each other and never felt the need to get sexually. involved.

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    Feb 14, 2009 8:15 PM GMT
    matterych, your buddy is not str8, but he hasnt come to deal with it yet. does he know your gay? then tell him it makes you uncomfortable when he gets drunk and flirts with you and see how he reacts. do not cave in and keep getting drunk with him, that just keeps this charade for him going strong. if he really likes you, he will either as a str8 guy? listen to how you feel and not do it anymore.Or as a gay guy coming out? you might make an amazing discovery for you both.
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    Feb 14, 2009 8:22 PM GMT
    I suspect if he were gay you'd lose all attraction for him, any straight boy crush is the typical want what you can't have theory.
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    Feb 14, 2009 8:22 PM GMT
    Well I want to know is where are you guys getting to drunk at? Are you guys just hanging out at home getting drunk or going out and getting drunk?

    I think this friendship can be used to your advantage if you work it right but you gotta to be more clear about how you get into these situations.

    I hope he's not talking about girls alot that could be a real buzz kill.
  • jgymnast733

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    Feb 24, 2009 9:58 AM GMT
    Theres nothing wrong with having feelings for a str8 guy you work with, I DO.
    He's been over drunk before passed out on the floor, so i [of course] had to take off his clothes and put him to bed. I even took off his underwearicon_lol.gif
    cause i was real curious and pleasantly surprised...
    He wasnt ashamed the next day at all, as a matter of fact he's been over many times since then...He knows i like him alot and is toying with the idea of just wackin off while watching str8 porn together...