i was just called "daddy" for the first time...

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    Feb 14, 2009 11:36 PM GMT
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    i'm not sure how i feel about that... i don't hate it. but i'm definitely not feeling the whole caregiving for 20-somethings at this particular moment (given the last 2 weeks).

    i've never called anyone daddy before, and i've never had the label applied to me EVER. what is the "daddy?" are there any daddies here who can speak about how this is something that empowers their identities??? i think i like this, but i feel rather stupid.

    i DID enjoy taking someone out recently, rather than being taken out. it made me feel like a man, rather than a boy. however, what else do you daddies like about being daddies? is there a mentoring capacity in this? i never had a gay mentor. someone speak, please. i'm interested in this dynamic now.
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    Feb 14, 2009 11:55 PM GMT
    as a parenthesis.. in Spanish when you say "papi" or "papito" then it´s like saying "stud".

    ai papito icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 15, 2009 12:00 AM GMT
    I completely agree with you about the whole concept of being able to provide for someone you like. Being 22 and dating older guys, I usually get treated a lot to meals, which I resent because I have the means to pay for my way. I prefer relationships where things are equal. If he gets the meal tonight, I'll treat him next time. That way you can show someone you care and appreciate them while maintaining your independence. I already have a dad, so I much rather have a boyfriend.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 15, 2009 12:11 AM GMT
    was the person 12?
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    Feb 15, 2009 12:18 AM GMT
    I dunno, I've been approached by several guys lately, from 20 to 40, who asked if I was "a Daddy." Apparently, I didn't give them the answer they were looking for. There seems to be a "Daddy/Son" gay sub-culture that remains a mystery to me.
  • caliboy

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    Feb 15, 2009 1:11 AM GMT
    well a daddy n a realtionship or whatever, is more like the "caregiver", "provider" however u wanna to say it.. day r da ones who mostly buy the dinners, pay da bills, what not...like sugar daddies o guess....it really could be anybody tho.. kinda lik a pet name icon_smile.gif
  • DrStorm

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    Feb 15, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
    The weirdest thing was that once the odometer turned over to "40" I suddenly started getting all this interest from the 20-something crowd. ....and many call me "daddy"....

    I constantly have to beat off those 20-somethings - online and in the gym...can't recall this ever being a problem....icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif

    PEACE

    daWeatherMan

    PS - "come to daddy!" icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 15, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    I wonder if ashton kutcher calls demi more "mommy"
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    Feb 15, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidwas the person 12?


    haha I was going to ask the same thing.

    Dancerjack- who considers you a daddy at 32?? I think you're quite the stud icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 15, 2009 1:32 AM GMT
    Don'''t sweat it. You are still a kid.
  • farfle

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    Feb 15, 2009 1:55 AM GMT
    yeah, wait till they call ya "gramps"...
  • jgymnast733

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    Feb 15, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    when roll-playing and i'm the top, Hell yeah i want him to call me daddy and he'd better say using a high pitched voice, JUST LIKE A BITCH..icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 15, 2009 2:34 AM GMT


    It depends entirely under what circumstances they called you daddy....

    which was...?

  • Feb 15, 2009 2:37 AM GMT
    you're 32?! icon_surprised.gif

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    Feb 15, 2009 2:40 AM GMT
    i dont care what im called just dont call me late for dinner LOL
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    Feb 15, 2009 2:53 AM GMT
    caliboy saidwell a daddy n a realtionship or whatever, is more like the "caregiver", "provider" however u wanna to say it.. day r da ones who mostly buy the dinners, pay da bills, what not...like sugar daddies o guess....it really could be anybody tho.. kinda lik a pet name icon_smile.gif


    I see... Not to get too freudian about it, I always thought a "Daddy" was someone who hands out work assignments and gets pissed off if they're not completed in an unreasonable amount of time.

    One guy just moved to town and says that he needs a new "Daddy" to give him his regular spankings. icon_eek.gif But he had some other specific requirements that let me off the hook.
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    Feb 15, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    Lostboy saidas a parenthesis.. in Spanish when you say "papi" or "papito" then it´s like saying "stud".

    ai papito icon_wink.gif

    you call me papi anytime
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    Feb 15, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    Are you sure, he didn't call you "buddy," Dancer Jack? I'm sure he called you buddy.

    "Daddy" is instant wood kill to me.
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    Feb 15, 2009 3:11 AM GMT
    ObsceneWish saidAre you sure, he didn't call you "buddy," Dancer Jack? I'm sure he called you buddy.

    "Daddy" is instant wood kill to me.


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    Feb 15, 2009 3:38 AM GMT
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    ObsceneWish saidAre you sure, he didn't call you "buddy," Dancer Jack? I'm sure he called you buddy.

    "Daddy" is instant wood kill to me.


    Mommy! icon_biggrin.gif


    That's better, my sweet little veal calf.
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    Feb 15, 2009 3:42 AM GMT
    Haha, to me when I call my bf "daddy" it's just a show of affection cause I'm pretty obstinate about paying my own way and it's strictly a 100/100 type relationship.
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    Feb 15, 2009 4:03 AM GMT
    This is one of those contextual scenarios. I can see two possible reasons why someone younger would call an older man a "daddy".

    1) A "son" looking for a "dad" to take care of him.

    2) A generalization/slang to describe an attractive older man.

    I like older guys, but I'm no "daddy" chaser. I pay my own bills and make my own decisions. On the same note, I wouldn't call anyone daddy. There's something kinda creepy about that. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 15, 2009 5:01 AM GMT
    calibro saidI completely agree with you about the whole concept of being able to provide for someone you like. Being 22 and dating older guys, I usually get treated a lot to meals, which I resent because I have the means to pay for my way. I prefer relationships where things are equal. If he gets the meal tonight, I'll treat him next time. That way you can show someone you care and appreciate them while maintaining your independence. I already have a dad, so I much rather have a boyfriend.

    FTS!....take the free meals while you can.....you will get to pay for them later in life.
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    Feb 15, 2009 5:36 AM GMT
    ObsceneWish said
    "Daddy" is instant wood kill to me.


    Ditto.
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    Feb 15, 2009 6:46 AM GMT
    The criteria for calling me daddy would be:

    In a fit of insanity I ran out and got a woman pregnant or donated to a sperm bank (I'm not looking forward to my mid-life crisis). 9 months later she would pop out offspring...6 months later the offspring would probably begin to say words such as dada. By 2 or 3, he'd graduate to saying "daddy." That is the only time, I'd ever permit someone to call me "daddy."

    I've had it happen, and I'm 30. It seems Southern bois are obsessed with finding someone to take care of them. It's true of women too...that's why they marry at 21 and are divorced and possibly on their 2nd husband by 30.