Valentine's Day Jealousy

  • gjoseph

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    Feb 15, 2009 12:50 AM GMT
    Is it bad to be sad on Valentine's Day? I'm happy for all of my friends who have a significant other yet I'm jealous and depressed that I'm the only one who doesn't have someone. I know this post is totally "Childish" but ahh Valentine's Day is so "luby duby" it makes you want to be with someone =( .
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    Feb 15, 2009 2:27 AM GMT
    Same boat as you, but work and Mardi Gras has made me forget about it.
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    Feb 15, 2009 2:38 AM GMT
    I'm not jealous; as I am somewhat depressed, cause I'm single for 2 years now. I would to have met a good guy, but the universe has other things in my life; whatever the hell that is... not that seeing others in love bugs me. I love seeing lovebirds flaunting their precious disease. It's what I do when I'm with someone. It just sucks that I see noone next to me when I wake, and it makes me angry and drives me to do whatever I can to change the circumstances of my life. Blah!! If only getting laid could erase this emotionally remote feeling. /Sigh*
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    Feb 15, 2009 3:03 AM GMT
    first time for me since i was 5 years old or so.
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    Feb 15, 2009 3:03 AM GMT



    By knowing sadness one also knows gladness.

    This was in a fortune cookie I opened back in the 70s. I was pissed off! heheheh.

    Here's a bit about the history of the day....

    "In Great Britain, Valentine's Day began to be popularly celebrated around the seventeenth century. By the middle of the eighteenth century, it was common for friends and lovers in all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes. By the end of the century, printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Ready-made cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one's feelings was discouraged. "

    Notice it also says friends? So be nice to your friends today - just as important, really.
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    Feb 15, 2009 6:31 AM GMT
    Uh, hello!!!! You're NOT the only one. So you may not have someone - big woop! Buy yourself some flowers, get some candy, get some lube, and satisfy yourself. It's a commercial holiday mostly anyways. TRUST ME, things could always be worse.
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    Feb 15, 2009 9:42 AM GMT
    My step mom and I made a big joke about the whole thing (my dad has no romantic bone in his body) so we just had ourselves a little family get together. I baked my Chocolate Covered Oreo Cookie Cake and we all sat around watching sappy movies and bitching about the government... it was great.

    My advice - don't be jealous - just embrace what you do have.
  • jrs1

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    Feb 15, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
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    St. Valentine was a Faceless Man




    speaking plainly, the day did not feel different than any other day. whether that is because I try to live each day like my own private holiday or because the air outside did not blow with much variation, I am not certain.

    it was bliss and then came the kiss ...

    I think about how there is a fellow on this site that I would have gladly spent the day alongside. I would have loved to be his date, dressed in an over-sized tuxedo and soaking wet outside his door in the london rain. I would have loved to touch his face, kiss his lips, carry him upstairs, and let the day set on our felled bodies.

    I can't be there with you, but I can dream

    I did not pine. I did not yearn. I spoke with the aforementioned man via this website; I smiled, I laughed, I beamed. I was honest. speaking with him is like a ghostly hand reaches out and pulls us together and our thoughts are incredibly loud and extremely close. the day traversed from one mindless endeavor to the next. no sadness. no emptiness. in fact, the most complex thing I did was eat cereal. I think what I am getting at is the fact that I probably felt this way because I did not expect anything. i.e., I did not place an expectation upon the day. I approached the day as if it were a faceless man. as if I could see its outline but not his character.

    it made me think of how I feel when I speak with person-x. I can see his outline and I would love to assume that I know of his character - I mean, my other buddies seem to think him sweet - but I can only see his outline. so, perhaps the reason why I didn't feel lonely or sad and perhaps why I don't feel like I've been dealt a rather unkind hand because he lives across the big, blue pond ... might have something to do with expectations. I expected nothing from valentine's day and I do not expect anything from person-x.

    perhaps this is the beginning of some great and untamed beauty ...

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    Feb 15, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    I'm happy for those who are in a relationship and not jealous at all. But I was a little sad thinking my ex-boyfriend would be spending time with...you know who I'm talking about. And what's even sadder is that I know his name. LOL

    Ok, sorry, I'm just whining. I'm grateful that I have friends that I can run into when I'm down, so let me just cross my fingers for the next year's V-Day. ;)