How do all those clueless guys from thread 111270 show that they are interested in a guy?

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    Feb 15, 2009 1:38 AM GMT
    How Well do You Know Which Guys are Interested in You? Well, oh clueless ones, let's turn this thing around. How do you guys show someone that you are interested in him? And how successful are your strategies?

    I usually try it via the old eye-contact and smile. If it is at a party I move into his vicinity. If he's by himself I'm sometimes bold enough to talk to him. If he dances I'll dance close to him. Sometimes these work, sometimes he's just not into me.
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    Feb 15, 2009 2:20 AM GMT
    Eye contact and a smile icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 15, 2009 2:46 AM GMT
    it dont matter where at walk right up and say hi 80% of people will talk back to you , you got be bold and take chance what you got to lose anyway it eather comes out good or not but you never know till you try icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 15, 2009 3:16 AM GMT
    I asked a player how he always managed to score, He said,"Walk up to the person you are interested in and say anything" .
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    Mar 01, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
    I guess I'm kind of an asshole...I just don't care what most people think about me. I will walk up to just about anyone and talk to them.

    Back in college I was in Key West with a bunch of frat brothers and still closeted. After about a billion drinks I decided I wanted to hook up but I had to be quick and couldn't be seen in some fag bar. I walked down Duval to some gay bar, looked around found someone I thought was hot, pointed at him, waived him over, and went to his hotel. No conversation other than me saying "no" to him being too grabby. I'm not proud of this transaction, but I think it's a perfect example of how sexy and how far confidence will take you.
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    Mar 01, 2009 3:38 AM GMT
    I look, smile. He looks and smiles back. I talk to him and find he was just being gentle. He thought I knew him. Apparently I have a radar for gentle people. icon_confused.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 01, 2009 3:41 AM GMT
    ya I agree with the eyes thing. If his pupils dilate when he looks at you, he's yours. That's what I've read, but to be honest, I've never been measured a guys pupils. That's an Oprah thing I'm sure. I'm more interested in how big his cock is. You gotta watch the eyes though. Guys that want you keep looking. The one that don't look away.
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    Mar 01, 2009 3:51 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidya I agree with the eyes thing. If his pupils dilate when he looks at you, he's yours. That's what I've read, but to be honest, I've never been measured a guys pupils. That's an Oprah thing I'm sure. I'm more interested in how big his cock is. You gotta watch the eyes though. Guys that want you keep looking. The one that don't look away.


    See, this is where I have an issue. Normally when I go places I look other men directly in the eyes. It's a respect thing. Now, I go to gay bars and find myself avoiding accidentally making eye contact with guys because they think I'm interested in them. I'm pretty new to the gay scene and I don't really think I fit in very well.
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    Mar 02, 2009 10:56 PM GMT
    Dig_For_Fire said

    See, this is where I have an issue. Normally when I go places I look other men directly in the eyes. It's a respect thing. Now, I go to gay bars and find myself avoiding accidentally making eye contact with guys because they think I'm interested in them. I'm pretty new to the gay scene and I don't really think I fit in very well.


    I've been out for 5 years, and I still do this. I have zero confidence when it comes to approaching guys. Even the thought of approaching someone randomly in a bar makes me feel like I'm drowning.
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    Mar 04, 2009 12:25 AM GMT
    I've been out since July of 2008...only a few months, but I think I learned things backward. When is comes to approaching guys I only get nervous if I think they might be straight, but it's usually pretty obvious if a guy is interested in sex. Gay guys are also way more obvious than I'm acustomed to.

    However, I have shown interest in men, made the effort to talk to them, but as soon as they opened their mouth and I heard their voice...game over. For some reason the sound of a woman's voice makes me want to punch babies. Maybe I have mommy issues.
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    Mar 04, 2009 12:37 AM GMT
    rezdylan said
    I've been out for 5 years, and I still do this. I have zero confidence when it comes to approaching guys. Even the thought of approaching someone randomly in a bar makes me feel like I'm drowning.


    Next time you plan on going out, figure out some topics you could talk to guys about. Or observe him for a few minutes, maybe you notice something that you could start the conversation with. And then you have to take the plunge. Trust me, it will get easier in time with experience.
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    Mar 04, 2009 12:45 AM GMT
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  • hartfan

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    Mar 04, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    rezdylan said
    Dig_For_Fire said

    See, this is where I have an issue. Normally when I go places I look other men directly in the eyes. It's a respect thing. Now, I go to gay bars and find myself avoiding accidentally making eye contact with guys because they think I'm interested in them. I'm pretty new to the gay scene and I don't really think I fit in very well.


    I've been out for 5 years, and I still do this. I have zero confidence when it comes to approaching guys. Even the thought of approaching someone randomly in a bar makes me feel like I'm drowning.


    I've been finding that it's really difficult to try to get to know someone at a bar. The few times I have drummed up enough courage to try to talk to someone, the blaring music and distracting environment makes it very tough to find more than a few things to talk about, often leading to awkward silences and then one party just walking away. As I don't enjoy dancing or drinking, I get bored very quickly. It also seems like people in the bar are already in their cliques and not generally not caring for meeting new people, at least not at the bar. I'm thinking of finding another avenue for meeting people, but it's tough.
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    Mar 04, 2009 1:26 AM GMT
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    Mar 04, 2009 1:26 AM GMT
    I actually prefer dive bars (gay or straight) for this very reason. For some reason homosexual men seem to like terrible music at a crazy decible (IMO at least). I doon't dance and I really haven't drank much since coming out, but I'm not really looking for dating or sex.

    Try volunteering or joining some local clubs for guys who share your hobbies.
  • DiverScience

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    Mar 04, 2009 1:36 AM GMT
    I don't, and they don't.

    There, that was simple now wasn't it?