Good God, you really are mentally retarded, aren't you? But let me try to explain this to you one last time: Although I am what you would refer to as a "bona fide homosexual", there are many reasons why some gay men have sex with women. The most common one is peer pressure and feeling like they will not be accepted if they don't live a straight lifestyle. ...Not saying I know this is what happened to Art_Deco, but it is very common.
Just because you and I have never had sex with a female does not make us better than anyone else. You have no right to inform someone that they're less than you simply because they were married in the past. Maybe it's time you tried to be a decent human being and apologize to Art_Deco for the hundreds of nasty, shaming comments you have made to him.
Thanks. Add to your list that I was an Army Officer, plus parental pressure. All the Army career men were supposed to be married to fit it, socially and in other ways. I didn't want to get married, no interest in women whatsoever. On top of that my parents kept pressuring me, to start a family, being their only son. I have a younger sister, a young widow then who never remarried, and I think they gave up on that avenue.
And here's the odd twist: I never thought I was gay. Didn't fit the stereotypical gay of the 1950s & 60s. Not that the image then was any more valid than it would be today. So that I was attracted to men, but was confused about it, rejected it.
How could I be gay? Army Officer's career by choice, motorcyclist since 17, camper, outdoorsman, good at individual sports and athletics (never team sports, too little a guy for most), have a deep, masculine voice, no lisp (ask any RJer who's met me, or spoken with me on the phone), have no interest in wearing women's clothing, except rarely as a costume joke. None of the stereotypical, and more often false, gay markers on which my generation was raised.
So I really thought I was straight, not even bi. But lacking any sexual interest in women, and not permitting myself any in men, buddies only, I figured I'd just stay single. Until I was pressured otherwise. Disasterously.
BTW, both my late and present gay partners never had sex with women. Although both dated women for appearances sake, both of them older than me and facing the same generational dilemmas. They knew my past, no problem with it, laid no guilt trips on me.