How do fat people do it?

  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 28, 2017 12:21 AM GMT
    I'm 5'9", nearly 180 lbs, and, looking at the extra fat on my thighs and stomach, I'm disgusted with myself. Doesn't stop me from snacking into the wee hours of night, but I'm still disgusted with myself. Ugh.

    If you're 5'5 and weigh 300 effin pounds, how do you not just throw yourself in front of a bus in anguish? icon_lol.gif

    Come to think of it, most of my family is/was fat. My sister had some kind of gastric bypass and is now "too skinny", my other sister is getting the sleeve operation done next month.

    Point of this post? Not sure. Just that being fat is gross, I guess.

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    Feb 05, 2017 1:15 AM GMT
    It's hard to stop a moving train.

    When you are fat and eating to keep that status, at the very least you have the pleasures that crap foods provide.

    When you are fat but decide to become slim, there is a long, long limbo during which you have neither the pleasures of crap foods nor the pleasures of looking great.

    Eventually some will think they are beyond rescue, so they might as well just throw everything up in the air.



  • buddycat

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    Feb 05, 2017 6:25 PM GMT
    Outside of being unhealthy, they are not on a gay fitness site so don't feel the pressure you are feeling. They are also not immersed in gay culture where everyone wants that hot guy with the nice body. At one time I was in my 240's. I was working on my degree in computers and was simply not around any gay people. When I started working out and loosing weight, my motivations were probably not the same as yours. Some do not lose weight just to look good. They were recommended by their doctor and are married and content otherwise. They are not gay and single. I agree there is pleasure in eating crap foods and there is a long limbo period.
  • k15thelement

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    Feb 16, 2017 1:39 PM GMT
    Cuz a nice slice of chocolate chip cookie dough cheesecake with ginger green tea on a Friday night is EVERYTHING!!!

    And nope. I'm not being sarcastic
  • buddycat

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    Feb 17, 2017 12:45 AM GMT
    k15thelement saidCuz a nice slice of chocolate chip cookie dough cheesecake with ginger green tea on a Friday night is EVERYTHING!!!

    And nope. I'm not being sarcastic


    So true, I will take a piece of triple fudge cake any day over the celery sticks I eat when I am on a diet.
  • MuchoMasQueMu...

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    Feb 19, 2017 8:20 PM GMT
    bachian saidIt's hard to stop a moving train.

    When you are fat and eating to keep that status, at the very least you have the pleasures that crap foods provide.

    When you are fat but decide to become slim, there is a long, long limbo during which you have neither the pleasures of crap foods nor the pleasures of looking great.

    Eventually some will think they are beyond rescue, so they might as well just throw everything up in the air.





    Very well said, young man.
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    Mar 08, 2017 12:44 PM GMT
    As a recovering fatty. Being fat sucks but also losing fat sucks hard too. My thing was stress and anxiety combined with school and work. At my heaviest I was a full time student working 3 jobs to pay for school, didn't have time to cook or workout, ate whatever was cheap and fast. It sucked but I was in complete survival mode. Eventually that changed and now I am living a much healthier lifestyle, but it's not like I was trying to get fat.

    A common misconception is that fat people are lazy, but I don't think they are all lazy. A lot of them are busy trying to make ends meet and don't have the luxury of extra time to devote to working out and maintaining a healthy diet. Also, I think this is why the obsesity rate is so high of those who live in poverty.

  • k15thelement

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    Mar 08, 2017 1:19 PM GMT
    buddycat said
    k15thelement saidCuz a nice slice of chocolate chip cookie dough cheesecake with ginger green tea on a Friday night is EVERYTHING!!!

    And nope. I'm not being sarcastic


    So true, I will take a piece of triple fudge cake any day over the celery sticks I eat when I am on a diet.


    AMEN!
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 08, 2017 4:49 PM GMT
    Thegermanpersian saidAs a recovering fatty. Being fat sucks but also losing fat sucks hard too. My thing was stress and anxiety combined with school and work. At my heaviest I was a full time student working 3 jobs to pay for school, didn't have time to cook or workout, ate whatever was cheap and fast. It sucked but I was in complete survival mode. Eventually that changed and now I am living a much healthier lifestyle, but it's not like I was trying to get fat.

    A common misconception is that fat people are lazy, but I don't think they are all lazy. A lot of them are busy trying to make ends meet and don't have the luxury of extra time to devote to working out and maintaining a healthy diet. Also, I think this is why the obesity rate is so high of those who live in poverty.

    I think fat people are lazy. Not lazy in everything, just lazy when it comes to their appearance and food habits. It takes no longer to eat a smaller, healthy meal than to eat a larger, unhealthy meal. It does take some focus on the issue and the mental energy to care and some people just plain don't want to care. They just want to eat whatever they want to eat and consequences be damned! I can't respect that decision but don't necessarily disrespect them as a person. But to say you're too busy to not be fat is absurd. People who are fat in poverty like to make that same argument but the truth is they simply have bad eating habits and rely on prepared foods, many of which are subsidized corporations the Republicans just love to throw money at. Still, Michelle showed healthy eating can be done at any income level busting that myth. I know that made a lot of people mad because they like to say their obesity (and their kids' obesity) is someone else's fault but the truth is still just lazy thinking and gluttony.

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    Mar 08, 2017 10:30 PM GMT
    Not a panacea, but try eating fresh fruit (or vegetables) every time you have the urge for a snack.

    If you put sugar in anything substitute steevia or splenda for the sugar.
  • mybud

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    Mar 10, 2017 8:49 PM GMT
    How do fat people do it? They roll themselves in flour and look for a wet spot.
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    Mar 21, 2017 10:33 AM GMT
    I am 6.1 and 182 lbs. I feel fat too.
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 25, 2017 7:55 PM GMT
    mybud saidHow do fat people do it? They roll themselves in flour and look for a wet spot.


    Haha.

    This is what they call a s*** post on reddit. Glad no one took it too seriously.
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    Apr 05, 2017 6:45 AM GMT
    I disagree about the long limbo. When you lose a lot of weight, you don't have to"look good" to feel good about yourself, it feels amazing just noticing the small progress that you've made.

    There was a time where I had to lose weight, and I remember being really excited about watching the changes in my body every week, even though I knew I would still be considered " fat" in the gay world ( Heck, I'd probably still be considered fat right now lol ). Generally , you also feel a whole lot better after adopting healthy habits, especially if you take up exercising, and just being in that positive mindset, is enough to get you going. Of course, even if you're doing it right, there are still crisis periods or re-lapses. I'd say the biggest challenge is expercting to lose too much too quickly, going into fad diets etc.


    Also, with regard to the main topic, not everyone is dealt the same set of cards ( is that the expression ? ), it's wrong imo to assume things about fat people and judge them as if they all lived in the same conditions as you. As a student, I worked at a restaurant for 2 months as a cleaner/cashier/waiter and the thought of cooking / running after a full day of walking aroung, carrying heavy stuff, being bent on your back , was inconceivable. There is some amount of responsibility but it can vary considerably depending on each situation.

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    Apr 06, 2017 11:57 PM GMT
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    I totally agree. I wouldn't be where I am today if I were expecting to look good from day one. I tracked my gains and I took pleasure with every little lean mass increase, even though they were essentially invisible for several years due to my towering height.

    However the average folk has high expectations and poor motivation. That can work if you're short and not too fat since it's so easy in this situation, but for everyone else who has a bigger fish to fry, they will go nowhere unless they learn to divide and conquer.
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    Apr 14, 2017 6:40 AM GMT
    bachian saidIt's hard to stop a moving train.

    When you are fat and eating to keep that status, at the very least you have the pleasures that crap foods provide.

    When you are fat but decide to become slim, there is a long, long limbo during which you have neither the pleasures of crap foods nor the pleasures of looking great.

    Eventually some will think they are beyond rescue, so they might as well just throw everything up in the air.






    I've found the key is getting your brain to shift into seeing food as simply a means of nourishment and nothing more. The minute you start to masturbate your taste buds with food just because it tastes good, you've entered the realm of addiction, and once there, it's hard to stop. I think people who counsel obese people neglect to teach them this.
  • jbaker195803

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    May 15, 2017 3:05 PM GMT
    I'm always happy when I see a fat person at the gym and they are there on a consistent basis. Means they have decided to make changes for the better. If they look lost, I don't mind making suggestions.

    Then there are those at the gym that apparently burn more calories getting to the gym than they do at the gym. But at least they are trying to make an effort.

  • May 24, 2017 11:38 PM GMT
    Radd said
    bachian saidIt's hard to stop a moving train.

    When you are fat and eating to keep that status, at the very least you have the pleasures that crap foods provide.

    When you are fat but decide to become slim, there is a long, long limbo during which you have neither the pleasures of crap foods nor the pleasures of looking great.

    Eventually some will think they are beyond rescue, so they might as well just throw everything up in the air.






    I've found the key is getting your brain to shift into seeing food as simply a means of nourishment and nothing more. The minute you start to masturbate your taste buds with food just because it tastes good, you've entered the realm of addiction, and once there, it's hard to stop. I think people who counsel obese people neglect to teach them this.


    I'm not really sure about that... I always make sure I eat the stuff I like. It is really important that my food is as pleasing to the senses as my situation allows it at the time of eating. But I make sure I pay as much attention as possible of the food itself during the act of eating. I look at it, chew slowly so that I can feel the taste, the texture and the processes going in my mouth and my body at the time. Food is like some sort of a semi religion. And as much as I do this, the less inclined I am to eat junky food. I allow myself to do it and rarelly blame myslef for it. But it feels so good when I know I'll be eating a three course cooked meal accompanied with some wine or another digestive. It's like the happiest time of the day, and I rarelly get to the dessert because for some reason doing all this gets me satiated much before that. At some moment you just get into the mindset of eating for the pleasure of the senses, the five tangible ones, not for the sugar high you get after a box of Krispy kreme. And wine really helps with continuous stuffing on the table. It just relaxes the emotions urging you to eat more. I keep a weght of 75 kg and I'm 183 cm tall. Yet none of my immediate relatives is overweight so may be my genetics play a role here. But I remember the time I was quitting smoking and the ten kg I gained for a lil bit more than a month of heavy stuffing. I lost those additional kgs after that but I could have continued eating lots of food even in the absence of the nicotine hunger. Yet it is only my experience. icon_razz.gificon_razz.gif
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    Jun 07, 2017 1:24 AM GMT
    I'll sometimes go to lunch with a fat co-worker of mine. I mean this dude is huge. Like morbidly obese, nice guy tho.
    Anyway, I'll just casually observe what he eats and there is ZERO effort in trying to eat decently. He eats pizza, brownies, cheese omelettes, peach cobblers, fried chicken, french fries, you name it. Just eats the fuck out of it.

    It's no wonder he's so massive.
  • Jeepguy2

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    Jun 07, 2017 3:50 AM GMT
    I honestly think the real reason for the obesity epidemic is the war on cigarette smoking. When I was a kid back in the 80s obese people were rare and few people were overweight but nearly everyone who was over the age of 15 smoked. When you smoke tobacco the nicotine curbs your appetite and also food just doesn't taste as good so you eat less of it. Cigs also reduce stress and a lot of people eat more when they are stressed out.

    When I was a kid all cars came equipped with ash trays for front and rear seat passengers, and a lighter in the dash. Some of them even had a lighter in the back seat. Not a cup holder to be found anywhere! Cup holders in cars started appearing circa 1990 and now nearly every make and model comes with front and rear seat cup holders, so instead of driving around smoking cigarettes people drive around drinking sugary sodas or lattes from Starbucks some of which have as many calories as a Burger King Whopper.

    It is no wonder people have gotten so FAT. People used to take smoke breaks at work an consumed zero calories now they take a snack break and eat a pack of nabs and have a soda or a latte packing as many calories as a meal. IMO the best way to end the obesity epidemic is to quite simply end the Nazi war on smoking, lift all bans on smoking in public places, bars restaurants, etc. and stop taxing the hell out of cigarettes. Take things back to the way they were back in the 1950s when more doctors smoked Camels than any other cigarette...and almost nobody was obese. LOL

    https://www.mydiscountcigarette.net/info/more-doctors-smoke-camels-posters
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    Jun 07, 2017 11:53 PM GMT
    ^
    The problem is that with this strategy everyone becomes a passive smoker, die just as prematurely as before and look no better, just thinner.

  • Jun 10, 2017 10:45 PM GMT
    Jeepguy2 saidI honestly think the real reason for the obesity epidemic is the war on cigarette smoking. When I was a kid back in the 80s obese people were rare and few people were overweight but nearly everyone who was over the age of 15 smoked. When you smoke tobacco the nicotine curbs your appetite and also food just doesn't taste as good so you eat less of it. Cigs also reduce stress and a lot of people eat more when they are stressed out.

    When I was a kid all cars came equipped with ash trays for front and rear seat passengers, and a lighter in the dash. Some of them even had a lighter in the back seat. Not a cup holder to be found anywhere! Cup holders in cars started appearing circa 1990 and now nearly every make and model comes with front and rear seat cup holders, so instead of driving around smoking cigarettes people drive around drinking sugary sodas or lattes from Starbucks some of which have as many calories as a Burger King Whopper.

    It is no wonder people have gotten so FAT. People used to take smoke breaks at work an consumed zero calories now they take a snack break and eat a pack of nabs and have a soda or a latte packing as many calories as a meal. IMO the best way to end the obesity epidemic is to quite simply end the Nazi war on smoking, lift all bans on smoking in public places, bars restaurants, etc. and stop taxing the hell out of cigarettes. Take things back to the way they were back in the 1950s when more doctors smoked Camels than any other cigarette...and almost nobody was obese. LOL

    https://www.mydiscountcigarette.net/info/more-doctors-smoke-camels-posters


    I grew up in same era, I have a vehicle with no cupholders. But ive never smoked or had a desire to and im 6-3 155 lbs.
  • mortderire

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    Jun 19, 2017 2:15 AM GMT
    Because not everyone's a pathologically vain homosexual like us. Some folks actually appreciate the pleasure that comes with eating over the ego-boost that comes w/ being "fit". Go figure, huh?
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    Jun 28, 2017 6:12 AM GMT
    Must you be such a shitty human-being. Being overweight is not only due to overeating or just an unhealthy diet...My gosh, I just dislike most gays more and more.
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    Aug 23, 2017 12:19 AM GMT
    The same way you look at the fat on your thighs yet snack in the wee hours is the same way overweight people look at themselves and continue to easy in excess. Same principle, just different levels.