I'm taking a step...

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    Feb 16, 2009 11:03 PM GMT

    Ok , I know you don't like long texts so I'll try to summarize :

    There is this guy who I was interested in since november of 2008, when the studies in the University started . He's cute ,smart, extremely shy and has the weirdest personality , kinda reminds me of myself. I tried to approach him but somehow I felt everytime I try to make a conversation or invite him to somewere he finds an excuse to run away .. he has my phone number but never called . I sent him e-mails with some studies-materials but he never e-mailed me back ..
    I still can't get off him, sometimes I think that it's just his shyness or maybe he's insecure. The belief that with him I can have the most amazing relationship keep him in my mind.
    I told him I need someone to study with for the exams these days. He said he'd be happy, he has my number and he'll call ... it's been 3 weeks and he didn't ..

    All my friends told me to take it slow ... Now I think I should call him tomorrow and invite him to study. I belive that he'll find an excuse not to come .. but still want to humilate myself more ..
    What do you think ??

    Sometimes when I think about it,, I never had a relationship and never new how to deal with love .. love has always been painful for me, that what made me a little scared of it ... but it comes, just out of the blue .. help me with some advices ..
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    Feb 16, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    persistence.jpg ... or in case, it never even started
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    Feb 17, 2009 12:06 AM GMT
    Sounds like he isn't into you. If he were interested, he would have phoned by now. You've given him plenty of openings to do so.

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    Feb 17, 2009 4:52 AM GMT
    BrewerBen saidSounds like he isn't into you. If he were interested, he would have phoned by now. You've given him plenty of openings to do so.



    I agree. Don't waste anymore time on him. You deserve to have someone that wants you.
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:39 PM GMT

    You guys are good in changing my mind so quick ..

    Now when I think about it , even if he is into me he doesn't deserve me as long he wouldn't do the tiniest effort .. like clicking "send" on cellphone ...
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    Feb 17, 2009 3:55 PM GMT

    "even if he is into me he doesn't deserve me as long he wouldn't do the tiniest effort .. like clicking "send" on cellphone ... "

    Yep!
    100%!
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:16 PM GMT
    The pretty much sums it up! Good for you! You may have made yourself to accessible some men love to Chase! When you see him again and you will because they always come back. He may say that he was busy! Which is funny because no one ABSOLUTELY no one is busy 24/7.

    Some one that I was dating used that as an excuse when he wanted to explain why he was MIA. My response was "Ok you're "DISMISSED".

    Good Luck to you.
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    Feb 17, 2009 4:47 PM GMT

    The issue here is that he gave me some hope .. he sometimes smile to me or come to sit beside me in class ...
    But when I compare it to the times he ran away it makes more sense that he's not interesting ....

    I was thinking about giving him a last chance .. if he doesn't call me until the end of the exams season then bye bye .... but it's killing me to wait .. icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 17, 2009 5:00 PM GMT
    Why put yourself through all of this agony for one guy....seriously he can't be all that. He seems to be or is becoming a major distraction. Aren't there other guys who are worth your time?

    There could be a guy that is really good for you but you can't seem him because you are sooooo blinded by a guy who, let's face hasn't really shown much interest not to be cruel but he hasn't. A smile here and there would not be enough to keep me on the hook.

    Unless you have mid-term coming up it's going to be a long painful wait through finals sweetie. Do yourself a favor move forward.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 17, 2009 5:04 PM GMT

    Don't worry ... I moved forward before, then I came back to him .. But I can do it again ..

    And it's not just one guy ... As you see I'm a very complicated, weird, unique person (is that a compliment ?) , and it's hard for me to find someone that matches my personality ....
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    Feb 17, 2009 5:09 PM GMT
    You're human. That's ok. Keep it perspective! 8-) again good luck! to GHoSTa. I have been there my myself during my youth you will navigate through it just fine.
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    Feb 17, 2009 5:19 PM GMT
    Ducky44 saidYou're human. That's ok. Keep it perspective! 8-) again good luck! to GHoSTa. I have been there my myself during my youth you will navigate through it just fine.


    Thx for the incouragment ...! I sure will be ok .. it's not the first time I fall in love with someone who doesn't know I exist ..icon_neutral.gif