Partner on Grindr

  • Txtoby

    Posts: 1

    Mar 19, 2017 4:12 PM GMT
    I have been with my partner for 3 1/2 years. It was a long distance relationship for the first 2 years. During our first year, he cheated on me twice. After the second time he admitted he had a sex addiction and promised to go to SLAA and promised to never do it again. He had a habit of posting on Craigslist and I caught him that way. Our 2nd year was about rebuilding trust and continue to make frequent trips back and forth. In February of 2016, I moved 350 miles to be with him. We had our ups & downs like most couples but nothing major. Last week I saw Grindr on his phone. I confronted him and he said he was bored and just talking to make friends. He swore that he hadn't cheated again. With his past, I couldn't accept that he wasn't on there looking for more than friendship. We all know what Grindr is. I couldn't get past it and he has moved out. I told him it was over. Now I'm wondering if I should have given him another chance and accepted what he said about just chatting since I do love him and now sitting here alone missing him. Or should I accept that I'm never going to be able to trust him and will always be wondering about what he's doing?
  • LEANDRO_NJ

    Posts: 1142

    Mar 19, 2017 5:14 PM GMT
    The moment you start counting the petals of love "He loves me, he loves me not! sooner or later you'll be left out with nothing to look at, smell, or touch!

    Remember this: One thing is having lots of love to give and share, and another is having nothing left to inspire you in giving more of it! and one more thing:

    ONCE A CHEATER WILL ALWAYS BE A CHEATER!

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    Mar 19, 2017 9:11 PM GMT
    You knew what you were getting yourself into, so why did you?

    I imagine you would drop this guy like a hot potato if you had the opportunity to be with an equally fragrant rose without so many thorns. I wouldn't be surprised if this guy was the single rose in your garden full of undesirable weeds. You probably had to choose between a rock (him) and a hard place (being single), which leads me to ask: what's so bad about being single? Being single would be a lot better than the hassle this guy caused you, unless you think being single is even worse...
  • NealJohn

    Posts: 260

    Mar 19, 2017 9:27 PM GMT
    I say this to be fair and honest, not to hurt you. But you don't look like you put much effort into your body. Maybe if you got serious about being a jock, not just joining a website with the name in the title, you would be able to satisfy a man. On that note, most men like variety, and if someone cheats on you once they will do it again. This is law
  • SOONY

    Posts: 127

    Mar 19, 2017 9:39 PM GMT
    Love!!!! On this days I can't find true guy's .. World it became kind of benefits.. Selfish.. If they get anything better left and don't care about others.... I got love it wil going to be painful at last... And heart attack... Most of them.. But few of good guys are still available. But common it is totally disappointing
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    Mar 20, 2017 12:21 AM GMT
    Facebook is for friends...Grindr is for...
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    Mar 20, 2017 3:00 AM GMT
    Txtoby said He swore that he hadn't cheated again. With his past, I couldn't accept that he wasn't on there looking for more than friendship. We all know what Grindr is. I couldn't get past it and he has moved out. I told him it was over. Now I'm wondering if I should have given him another chance and accepted what he said about just chatting since I do love him and now sitting here alone missing him. Or should I accept that I'm never going to be able to trust him and will always be wondering about what he's doing?


    Sounds like it's over. If the two of you both want to get back together again, you will just have to accept that he will be having sex with other guys. That is OK in some relationships. Whether it is for you, only you can know.