how much do we apreciate our best friend

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    Apr 03, 2007 11:50 PM GMT
    how important, my best friend is in my life,is almost impossible to put in words,.so if you guys would like to share your thoughts , it would be nice to hear, how we feel for that person that give us so much,and make our life and world so much better ,,almost perfect,,, and pls ,,,dont mix ,,,best friend with partners
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    Apr 04, 2007 12:29 AM GMT
    Great topic. My best friend is incredibly important to me. She's someone I can call at any time of day or night. Unlike other more casual friends (some of whom are "frienemies" -- note to self: get rid of those...), she has no agenda. We've been soulmates (in a very different way from my boyfriend/partner) for almost 15 years now. Sandra Bernhard came out with a book a bunch of years ago called "Without You I'm Nothing". That's pretty much how I feel about my best friend.
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    Apr 04, 2007 1:39 AM GMT
    I love this question. I am blessed with a number of best friends. I don't have much of a family so at an early age began to build one around me. Of that community there are a handful that I would consider in the best friend category. I like to think of Charlemagne's paladin, his close group of 12 peers, as a model of sorts, although I'm not a Holy Roman Emperor (But I'm working on it, right now I just have the ego of one).

    Each of these soul-mates connect with me in different ways; some have known me for a long time, and some only a couple of years. But each in their own way offer me the best gift of all, they believe in me. They are the voice that says everything will be alright and I am worthy of love.

    Of all the people I let into my life, a "best friend" is one who I consistently share that unique faith with, and back it up with action. That hope is the evidence of things that many people may not quite see.

  • dfrourke

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    Apr 04, 2007 3:02 AM GMT
    very much so...

    ...in fact we have the luxury of working together and living together...I believe we watch out for each other and support the other when needed...and with all of that potential for daily contact there are also days we go by without seeing each other...

    [and no we are not partners]

    - David
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    Apr 04, 2007 7:38 AM GMT
    Couldn't agree more madapollo

    "Each of these soul-mates connect with me in different ways; some have known me for a long time, and some only a couple of years. But each in their own way offer me the best gift of all, they believe in me. They are the voice that says everything will be alright and I am worthy of love."
  • Laurence

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    Apr 04, 2007 7:53 AM GMT
    I love my best friend very much.

    I have a group of really good mates I've known for years and they are like a support group, we're there for each other when there are good times and bad.

    I have one best mate though and his name is Andy. I've known him for 20 years and we're like brothers. I truly think I'd be lost without him. I love him and am infuritated by him in equal measure (he seems to have problems admitting that I am always right...haha).

    Having a group of good friends is brilliant, but having one close best friend makes me feel secure and no matter who comes in and out of my life romantically I know we'll always be there for each other.

    My top tip for keeping a best friend. Don't let arguments fester. If you have an issue bring it out, have a screaming match and then make-up. There's nothing worse the letting things like disagreements get in the way of friendship.
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    Apr 04, 2007 11:08 AM GMT
    I have 2 really best friends and They can count on me in a flash and I know I can count on them any time of the day. They would be right here for me. We have been together for 25 years, never been any tensions, just lots of unconditional love.

    Both my friends are women (I have a few guy friends too that I do sports with) and are both married to men. We spend time at each others homes and sometime vacation together.

    My partner would need to understand what having a best friend is all about. I have been in 3 relationships and 2 of the 3 never had a best friend. There was a bit of jelousy at times, but a 25 year relationship with your best friend is not to be taken lightly.

    YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS BUT YOU CAN'T CHOOSE YOUR FAMILY!

    SOMETIME A FRIEND CAN BE CLOSER TO YOU THAN YOUR OWN FAMILY. I AM BLESSED THAT I HAVE BOTH.
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    Apr 04, 2007 2:20 PM GMT
    I've found there are things I can talk about with good friends that I cannot as easily talk to my partner about, so friends, "best" or otherwise, are indispensable to me.

    On the other hand one of my mentors used to say, facetiously but with some truth: "A best friend is someone you can only stand to be around five minutes a year."

    The truth in that is that a best friend will call you on your shit instantly.
  • dhinkansas

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    Apr 04, 2007 6:13 PM GMT
    I feel lucky. Even though my best bud and I don't get to hang out as much as we used to, we will always be able to say anything to each other and still be buds, and that is priceless
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    Apr 06, 2007 8:13 PM GMT
    I love my best friend to death. I met him last year around August, during a time in which I had begun to let go of all the toxic and negative people in my life and the people that claimed to be my "friends" but didn't put any effort into our friendship (still working on it up to this point. Only a few more to go.). There was an instant spark between him and I.

    We dated very, very briefly but that soon died out. I'm kinda' glad it did at this point. As far as he goes, he's an awful lover (LOL) but you couldn't ask for better as a friend. Once in a while he does something that makes me think: "Jerk!"

    But for the most part, he's a beautiful human being. Every time I have been down he has helped me and has made me laugh and has shown me true love like very few friends ever have.

    I consider him my equal mentally, but we have such different points of view that we constantly clash about our philosophies on life, love, spirituality and anything you can imagine...and I wouldn't have it any other way. We help each other grow as human beings.
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    Apr 06, 2007 10:00 PM GMT
    I am one of those who really can't say that I have a best friend. I can say, however, that I am most glad that you guys all seem to.

    I guess I do have a few people with whom I can share part of myself, but not all of myself.

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    Apr 07, 2007 12:34 AM GMT
    i have about 10 people in this world who i would do anything, literally anything, for. i have given them my last dime, broken laws for them, and done just about anything else short of murder or donating my own body parts. and i'm pretty sure i'd do that too if needed. the reason i do this? because they have done and will do the exact same thing for me. our trust and respect is implicit and eternal. every day i'm happy that fate brought each of these men (yes, they're all men) across my path one day or another. i'm pretty sure i will come across more of them too. maybe one day one of them will even be gay, and turn out to be more than just my friend.
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    Apr 07, 2007 12:43 AM GMT
    I have 3 best friends. They know all about me and still like me.....
  • hotversguy

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    Apr 07, 2007 4:11 AM GMT
    i'm not much for the close friend thing. i suppose i lose out but i'll take that risk.

    my roommate is my best friend, though, and if he said i needed to jump out the window i would because i trust him that implicitly. i would just take it on faith that he has a reason. i am truly blessed to have someone like that in my life as a friend and I thank God every day for it.
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    Apr 08, 2007 6:16 AM GMT
    I have a view best friends as well! I love them all dearly. If it weren't for them, I'd be a totally different person today. It's because of my friends that I became so comfortable with my sexuality. They've allowed me to be myself without judging me for which I am so incredibly thankful. We've been through so much together that a lot of people our age don't deal with, or if they do I don't know about it, but anyway I know for a fact that I wouldn't be me without the rest of me; my best friends!
  • phill

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    Apr 10, 2007 12:39 AM GMT
    I have a few best friends and each sustain me in different ways. But like apollo said, its there belief and support in me that means the most.

    Most have told me things about myself that i find astounding, things they say they look up to me for, offering me confidence in areas i didn't even know i was playing in.

    I cant express in words how great it is to know that i have family while seperated from me by time and distance are constantly speaking to me on the subconscious level. Telling me their opinions whether they are warranted or not.

    One of my best friends is my opposite in pretty much all aspects in things and i would die if he ever lost his faith or love for me. He rescued me in a sense from a life from the wrong side of the tracks offering me an ethic and a dream. He is the straight jock to my awkward gay, and never batted an eye at anything i have chosen to do in life. We have shed tears of joy and sorrow and above all the bonds of brotherhood that only can enjoy. That of gentle understanding and intentful purpose of silent support and the sharing of creative endevors.

    It is really weird to know that in the straight world there can be one man who has the self esteem and knowledge of self to actually say to his gay best friend that he loves me.



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    Apr 10, 2007 2:13 PM GMT
    My best friend is the sister I never had. She backs me up in every situation, and tells me how it is when I need a reality check. I seen her almost every day for the past almost 2 years. I love her kids, her husband is a good friend to me, and I can't see my life without any of them. Her mom, brother and sister have all taken me into their lives and I feel like a part of their family.

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    Apr 15, 2007 8:42 PM GMT
    My best friend is a sweet and wonderful man who believed in me when no one else did, not even me. He's the reason I'm getting in shape, going to grad school, the lot of it. Sure he's straight, but we love each other very much. I don't know what I'd do without him.
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    May 17, 2007 6:56 PM GMT
    as much as i can, he is amazing. anything that i can do to help i will, and i know he is exactly the same.

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    May 25, 2007 4:27 AM GMT
    My best friend, I just feel truly blessed to have in my life. He is also my work out partner. I just have no way to describe this friendship.....very happy to have such a great thing for me.
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    May 25, 2007 5:24 AM GMT
    I use to have a really close friend. The longest I've ever known anyone I wasn't related to was 4 years. It was so awkward when the two of us grew apart, because she was extremely important to me.
    Because of that I definitely understand what you are all talking about.

    At this point, however, I don't really feel blessed to have anyone in my life. I do believe that a lot of people are blessed to have me, but I can't say that I am blessed to have them. Not that I am selfish or ungrateful, but simply because i spend too much time in retrospect.

    I love and hate them a lot more once they've left me. as awkwardly gloomy as that sounds.
  • eckilegs

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    Aug 03, 2007 5:38 PM GMT
    kind of like what alot of people have said (especially obscenewish)

    My best friend and I may see each other once or twice in a 2 month period. We live on completely opposite schedules. There was a period in high school where we saw each other about once every 6 months or longer. However, unlike many of my friendships, the time apart never ever changed between us. We both may have changed in life choices, but as long as either of us were not doing anything damaging to our personal/mental health or the health of others, we've always given each other unconditional love and support. If we are damaging something, we call each other on it.
    When we're together, we just love on each other. What I love most is that we don't have to see each other all the time to keep our feelings exactly the same. We also pick on each other like we're siblings.