Feeling like a bad or broken person

  • Eli_jah

    Posts: 1637

    Apr 04, 2017 10:05 PM GMT
    I feel like I don't know how to be with or treat people. I'm either too hot or too cold, meaning I don't know how to keep communication open (but some people don't make it easy) or I get overly invested and eventually begin to resent the other person(s) for not caring as much. This has happened with pretty much every relationship (friends, family) and the common denominator is me. Could this be a personality defect/disorder (borderline, AVPD), trauma, a mixture? I've also always been almost too independent for my own good.

    Other people seem to be able to maintain relationships with ease, or maybe that's just my perception. I'm tired of feeling defective or like I have to be alone and do everything alone. Tired of lashing out at people or pushing them away because I'm sad and broken. Tired of feeling like human trash. But maybe I am, because I have nothing left to give.
  • roadbikeRob

    Posts: 17643

    Apr 05, 2017 12:04 PM GMT
    Despite the fact that you and I have crossed swords in the past, I think that you are a very wonderful and attractive guy. I understand how you feel because I harbor the same feelings of inadequacy from time to time. In addition having mild depression and being in my mid 50s definitely doesn't help matters any for me.
  • Destinharbor

    Posts: 4913

    Apr 05, 2017 4:43 PM GMT
    Adult relationships require common interests. Find something you love to do and then others who love it as well. That gives you the bond to become friends. But realize, these friendships will be different than when you were a kid, even college friends. The intense closeness won't happen until you find your lover/partner. If you can't handle even this, you may have a clinical depression that requires meds. I'm not a fan of the psychiatric profession but there are clear chemical imbalances that can easily be fixed though even when fixed, some need some therapy to work out the kinks you developed while out of balance. There's no shame here-- not your fault. Good luck, guy.
  • COLSSSSclosed...

    Posts: 142

    Apr 06, 2017 9:33 PM GMT
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  • jhywalker

    Posts: 18

    Aug 25, 2017 1:09 AM GMT
    Therapy will help. It does sound a little bit like Borderline Personality Disorder... Get it checked! happy you know about it and are looking to change.
  • melisagerman

    Posts: 7

    Jan 13, 2018 9:49 AM GMT
    Hi there, I think these things are happening due to loneliness and depression. I also think like personality disorder. The best thing you should do is to ask for psychic reader who can help you out from this situation. As they are the expert they have ability to see the things which is going in your life and they can also see the past. They make you aware of bad and good things going to happen in your life and provide you a right way. You can try here for the best psychic reader.
  • mybud

    Posts: 13730

    Jan 15, 2018 9:30 PM GMT
    melisagerman saidHi there, I think these things are happening due to loneliness and depression. I also think like personality disorder. The best thing you should do is to ask for psychic reader who can help you out from this situation. As they are the expert they have ability to see the things which is going in your life and they can also see the past. They make you aware of bad and good things going to happen in your life and provide you a right way. You can try here for the best psychic reader.
    You don't need this........


    Seek a qualified therapist and be as open front and honest as possible. Over time, they'll be able to guide through the rough spots and give you affective ways in dealing with your moods and feelings. In the meanwhile..You're in my prayers bro.