question about kiss and tell

  • jlars12

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    Apr 20, 2017 11:50 PM GMT
    Let's say you are friends with Andy and Brad separately. Andy hooks up with Brad, then blabs to you about it, after making you promise not to tell Brad. A third guy does the same thing. Later Brad jokes about being abstinent, and you react with "well i've met at least 2 guys you've hooked up with!" Now Brad is dying to know who ratted him out because he's very private with his sex life and wouldn't hook up with any potential mutual friends without making them swear to secrecy. Do you tell him or not? Or does it depend on who you're closer friends with; or whether blabbing about hooking up or breaking confidentiality is the greater transgression? Does it hinge on whether Andy admitted that Brad swore him to secrecy (and thus broke his own promise) thus making it fair to expose him to Brad; vs if he made no such promise?
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    Apr 21, 2017 2:21 AM GMT
    Just don't worry about it unless they're like, dying or something. I'd probably just shrug. Maybe make a little joke about it.
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    Apr 21, 2017 11:37 AM GMT
    Hook up with Brad... and scream Andy's name when you gasm... icon_lol.gif
  • daveindenver

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    Apr 21, 2017 3:22 PM GMT
    I remember high school.
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Apr 22, 2017 12:14 PM GMT
    Next time Brad brings up the subject: "Man, you are supposedly abstinent so it shouldn't be that hard to narrow down. Unless you have been slutting out, have you?"
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    Apr 25, 2017 8:50 AM GMT
    Simple: Just ignore whatever Brad said and move on.

    Either Brad is lying that he is virgin or Andy is lying about hooking up with Brad. It really doesn't matter.

    Getting involved over such petty things is childish.
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Apr 26, 2017 2:05 AM GMT
    FYI to op... if you ask a question on RJ about any sort of friend drama, "don't get involved/cut them out of your life" is pretty much the boilerplate answer from the anti-social loners here to have taken their own advice to heart far too well icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 26, 2017 2:41 AM GMT
    craycraydoesdoes saidFYI to op... if you ask a question on RJ about any sort of friend drama, "don't get involved/cut them out of your life" is pretty much the boilerplate answer from the anti-social loners here to have taken their own advice to heart far too well icon_lol.gif


    Ricky seems like a nice guy. Why would you say that about him?

    ricky1987 saidSimple: Just ignore whatever Brad said and move on.

    Either Brad is lying that he is virgin or Andy is lying about hooking up with Brad. It really doesn't matter.

    Getting involved over such petty things is childish.
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Apr 26, 2017 3:22 AM GMT
    It's not directed at him, just most RJers in general. The advice is always "run!"
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    Apr 26, 2017 3:27 AM GMT
    Andy can't be trusted. Don't be Andy. Tell Brad that, unlike some of his blabber mouth sex partners, you aren't the knd of guy to promise not to betray a confidence and then go ahead and betray it.