So how many times do you need to fall in love to find someone who feels the same?

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    Feb 19, 2009 4:20 AM GMT
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    it feels that every time i fall in love the other guy is not interested (and the opposite is true too I guess).

    And moving on isn't as easy as it sounds....
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    Feb 19, 2009 8:00 AM GMT
    Welcome to reality. icon_sad.gif

    B U T someday, when you least expect it... if you are lucky, love will find you!
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    Feb 19, 2009 2:11 PM GMT
    maybe it's time to reassess the "type" of guy you're looking for?
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    Feb 19, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    dude, your heart will continue to get broken until it's open.
  • maximumrisk

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    Feb 19, 2009 2:24 PM GMT
    It doesnt take much to fall in love since romance is as good as non existent in our community. And a kkind gesture is sometimes all it takes.
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    Feb 19, 2009 2:50 PM GMT

    Hey Javarx,

    "So how many do you need to fall in love to find someone who feels the same?" did you mean how many TIMES do you need to fall in love in order to find someone that feels the same way?

    If so, we'd both say that falling in love is something a person just does. How many times it happens before you find someone that's reciprocal is pretty random. Some guys happen to get together with the right guy on the first try, others , like Bill and I went through a lot of years and a few heartaches before we met. We were 32 and 34 years old when that happened.


    -Doug of meninlove

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    Feb 19, 2009 9:44 PM GMT
    BodyWork4 saidmaybe it's time to reassess the "type" of guy you're looking for?


    What do you mean exactly ?


    (oh and yeah I meant how many Times)
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    Feb 19, 2009 9:52 PM GMT
    Ten.
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    Feb 19, 2009 11:08 PM GMT
    "So how many times do you need to fall in love to find someone who feels the same?"

    The exact number is 23. Be sure to keep a careful count.
  • Mccrae

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    Feb 21, 2009 5:03 AM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saiddude, your heart will continue to get broken until it's open.


    Very well said.

    To add to this getting hurt is part of life and it makes one stronger and a better person.
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    Feb 21, 2009 5:50 AM GMT
    3.2
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    Feb 21, 2009 5:53 AM GMT
    dakuk said3.2

    That's some freaky algebra. It's 1.566666
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    Feb 21, 2009 5:55 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa said"So how many times do you need to fall in love to find someone who feels the same?"

    The exact number is 23. Be sure to keep a careful count.

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    Oh. THANK GOD I'm almost there!!!
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    Feb 21, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
    Mighty_Q said
    Red_Vespa said"So how many times do you need to fall in love to find someone who feels the same?"

    The exact number is 23. Be sure to keep a careful count.

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    Oh. THANK GOD I'm almost there!!!
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    23 is overrated.
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    Feb 21, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    maximumrisk saidIt doesnt take much to fall in love since romance is as good as non existent in our community. And a kkind gesture is sometimes all it takes.


    I know it seems like most of the people in our community are jaded and lacking romance, but it still exists. I have recently found not only someone who is beautiful, charming, atheletic with a heart of gold, but also a huge romantic. I am as well and it's a beautiful thing. I'm not bragging, I'm just saying that don't give up. It exists. And for me, this makes number 2 for being loved and loving back.

    I don't know how many guys have "loved" me that I haven't loved back, so I can't give you and exact number, but the two that I have loved have loved me back.
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    Feb 23, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    bgnyct1978 said
    maximumrisk saidIt doesnt take much to fall in love since romance is as good as non existent in our community. And a kkind gesture is sometimes all it takes.


    I know it seems like most of the people in our community are jaded and lacking romance, but it still exists. I have recently found not only someone who is beautiful, charming, atheletic with a heart of gold, but also a huge romantic. I am as well and it's a beautiful thing. I'm not bragging, I'm just saying that don't give up. It exists. And for me, this makes number 2 for being loved and loving back.

    I don't know how many guys have "loved" me that I haven't loved back, so I can't give you and exact number, but the two that I have loved have loved me back.


    How coudln´t they? icon_razz.gif

    I met here also some guys who where "romantic", problem was it only lasted as long as they got what they wanted. Lets just say I got here a crashcourse for not falling for stupid lines. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 23, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    how many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie blow pop? According to the owl, 3. Wished there was a magical number.

    I have felt the same way you have. I have been in love and happy. However I knwo that feeling and I know I will find it again.

    Main thing is to believe in yourself, and in that dream. Eventually it will come along. When you do find it, hold on to it.
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    Feb 23, 2009 3:52 PM GMT
    As many times as it takes. It's all a learning process; if you try to learn something each time and avoid making the same mistakes you will get closer and closer to finding love. However, don't be too desperate to find it - those things happen naturally when the time is right. If your goal is to truly find love and partnership with another guy, then rest assured it will happen eventually, it's just the waiting that makes it tough. Use it as a way to build patience and focus on yourself so that when that great guy does come along you are completely ready for him!
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    Feb 23, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    I guess as many times as it takes. The key is that when find it try not to be jaded or cynical of the past.

    Try not to make the new love pay for old loves mistakes, that not fair because he and you are going to make brand new one.

    You also have to take a realistic appraoch of what love really is and not the fairy tale they on exists in books and on the small and large screen.
  • cityguy39

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    Mar 01, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    Keep in mind each time you fall in love will be different. NEVER compare an old love and a new one.
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    Mar 01, 2009 4:46 PM GMT
    As many time as it takes till you find the one.
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    Mar 01, 2009 4:48 PM GMT
    Read Sartre's "No Exit". He'll tell you.
  • bhavya

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    Mar 01, 2009 7:35 PM GMT
    But if you'll never try, you'll never know just what you're worth.
    and as they say that there is that one person for you
    all you gotta do is to find that person.
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    Mar 01, 2009 8:49 PM GMT
    jprichva saidComplicated question.

    All I know is, when I fall in love, it will be forever, or I'll never fall in love.
    In a restless world like this is, love is ended before it's begun, and too many moonlight kisses seem to melt in the warmth of the sun.


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  • dannyboy1101

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    Mar 01, 2009 8:54 PM GMT
    Someone beat me to the Tootsie Roll Pop commercial - touche. Personally, I have never been in love. However, I would like to say that I don't think it's a wise road to travel to say that there's that one person for everyone out there. "The One" thought processes may cause what could grow into love to shatter prematurely. I could think, "Hey this guy is great, but if he were the one, he wouldn't snore." Thinking that there's only one we are meant to be with can make people cut and run way too quickly. I don't think that there's anyone who can say that their bf is perfect in every single way. Not accepting others' flaws or recognizing one's own flaws is a flaw in and of itself.

    Though I do have 0 experience in love, I seem to be someone that people come to for advice. So anything I've learned comes from others' experiences I suppose. The only thing I think that needs to be shared is that overthinking love is detrimental. Go with the flow and where you'll end up, nobody knows. It's not the same for everyone.