I'm a generous guy - BUT, I don't seem to get insults. But if someone acts against me, I never forget, and I never forgive.
Yeah, my Sicilian-Italian husband is that way. He NEVER forgets a serious insult. I'm a little more pragmatic.
A local guy we had gone way overboard in helping, when he was facing becoming homeless under a bridge, had subsequently, suddenly, and strangely turned against us. Inexplicably badmouthing us all around the community.
I took it as symptomatic of his mental & physical decline, due to severe alcoholism, and perhaps other physical health issues. His rapidly deteriorating performance & appearance seemed to substantiate that possibility. But my husband's Sicilian soul had no sympathy.
The guy died over our Pride weekend at 60, very quickly after a collapse. I initially understood he would be cremated, and a local memorial held. I was considering attending, a politic decision. Even after my husband refused to attend with me, I might still have gone alone.
But today I learned the remains were embalmed for an open-casket wake this coming weekend, when his son can arrive from another State. Followed by the cremation his will specifies. And oddly at a distant Florida church with whom the deceased had no connection, to my knowledge. He had lived locally here for decades.
Well, I hate those kinds of viewings. And I won't drive my car that far all alone. I now think both of us will be no-shows. I can't imagine what the son was thinking. The turn-out will likely be very small.