Celibacy & Productivity

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    Jun 19, 2017 2:31 AM GMT
    I've gone through many cycles of being celibate for years and then having sexual relationships (mostly hookups).

    Through it all, I've noticed a trend: when I'm celibate, I've been the most productive and have had the greatest success educationally and in my multiple careers. However, as soon as I start dating, my productivity goes stagnant or starts to decline significantly. Anyone else experience anything similar?

    Sometimes I wonder if some people (i.e., ME) are just meant to fly solo for the rest of their lives... It's not like I don't get lonely or I have sexual urges. I DO. It's just I think I'm better able to deal with my urges than most people (as evidenced by multiple years of being celibate).

    I wonder if celibacy has any similarities with the Marshmallow Experiments. You know, the famous experiment where it was shown that little kids who were able to delay gratification (not eating the marshmallow right away) were more successful later on in their adult lives than children who ate the marshmallow right away. Any thoughts on this?
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    Jun 19, 2017 4:00 AM GMT
    Julius said
    Any thoughts on this?

    Sure. What you are calling celibacy is actually avoiding the distractions and sexual/romantic involvements with guys. That can indeed degrade your performance in other areas in some cases. Although, having the right guy can actually improve your performance, if he's a giver and not a taker.

    You may be extremely goal oriented. Which can reap great rewards. But also leave your life empty.

    Do you have a long-term plan? An age by which time you say you now turn to personal rewards? Like relationships?

    Always good to have a plan. What is yours?
  • Red_wolf87a

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    Jun 19, 2017 7:52 AM GMT
    I think Nikola Tesla claimed his life as celibacy was one of the main reasons he was able to develop so many inventions.
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    Jun 19, 2017 8:11 AM GMT
    Perhaps if you don't go around posting fake pictures (already been outed once at least in another thread) everywhere you might not have to celebate.


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    Jun 19, 2017 11:47 AM GMT
    ricky1987 saidPerhaps if you don't go around posting fake pictures (already been outed once at least in another thread) everywhere you might have to celebrate.


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    Jun 20, 2017 1:20 AM GMT
    art_deco said
    Julius said
    Any thoughts on this?

    Sure. What you are calling celibacy is actually avoiding the distractions and sexual/romantic involvements with guys. That can indeed degrade your performance in other areas in some cases. Although, having the right guy can actually improve your performance, if he's a giver and not a taker.

    You may be extremely goal oriented. Which can reap great rewards. But also leave your life empty.

    Do you have a long-term plan? An age by which time you say you now turn to personal rewards? Like relationships?

    Always good to have a plan. What is yours?


    Thanks, art_deco, for your thoughtful comments!
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Jun 23, 2017 9:53 PM GMT
    Adults who use fake pics are untrustworthy and probably boring.

    back to celibacy and production,yes you are right. when you are celibate all your energy and focus is given to tasks at hand at any given time. You are not missing anyone,you are not texting anyone,no soul is bothering you with sweet nothing calls and you spend zero time looking for hookups.

    Life of celibacy and production is unrealistic and not healthy,
  • spider

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    Jun 30, 2017 12:00 AM GMT
    Biologiically humans, as all living. things are are evolitonally progamed to pass on their genetic gene pool so as such sex. is part of this.
    Studies have shown that those with partners and a acvtive sex life live longer, are generally healthier, happier and more content with life.
    Therefor they will be more productive in life in general
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    Jun 30, 2017 12:35 PM GMT
    It could be true.
    At least for me I know in my case being a virgin at 30 years of age and counting, I've always been blessed with positive success at any jobs I've been in.
    Albeit I do also have a naturally jovial personality so I guess that helps.
    Not that I am aiming for maintaining my virginity for as long as I can, it just kind of worked out like that without trying lol.
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    Jul 01, 2017 6:52 PM GMT
    AnonymKOIA saidAdults who use fake pics are untrustworthy and probably boring.

    back to celibacy and production,yes you are right. when you are celibate all your energy and focus is given to tasks at hand at any given time. You are not missing anyone,you are not texting anyone,no soul is bothering you with sweet nothing calls and you spend zero time looking for hookups.

    Life of celibacy and production is unrealistic and not healthy,


    You sound a little cycnical and presumpsuois of everybody's sex drive meaning periods of celibacy are always detrimental and while they could be longer term they aren't always to everyone. I am all for guys acting on their own levels of sexual needs as it suits them and they are way too many guys my age and older who sound like they are making up for lost time and poor scorn on those who don't share their view and it's sad. It's not always deliberate but I feel compelled to point it out as it happens to much. Less sexual activity is as valid a choice as more and those who disagree are the ones with the problem. My apologies for sounding like I am picking on you, I'm not just pointing a trend of which you may have not realised your portraying yourself as perhaps not intending to