Celibacy & Productivity

  • Julius

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    Jun 19, 2017 2:31 AM GMT
    I've gone through many cycles of being celibate for years and then having sexual relationships (mostly hookups).

    Through it all, I've noticed a trend: when I'm celibate, I've been the most productive and have had the greatest success educationally and in my multiple careers. However, as soon as I start dating, my productivity goes stagnant or starts to decline significantly. Anyone else experience anything similar?

    Sometimes I wonder if some people (i.e., ME) are just meant to fly solo for the rest of their lives... It's not like I don't get lonely or I have sexual urges. I DO. It's just I think I'm better able to deal with my urges than most people (as evidenced by multiple years of being celibate).

    I wonder if celibacy has any similarities with the Marshmallow Experiments. You know, the famous experiment where it was shown that little kids who were able to delay gratification (not eating the marshmallow right away) were more successful later on in their adult lives than children who ate the marshmallow right away. Any thoughts on this?
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    Jun 19, 2017 4:00 AM GMT
    Julius said
    Any thoughts on this?

    Sure. What you are calling celibacy is actually avoiding the distractions and sexual/romantic involvements with guys. That can indeed degrade your performance in other areas in some cases. Although, having the right guy can actually improve your performance, if he's a giver and not a taker.

    You may be extremely goal oriented. Which can reap great rewards. But also leave your life empty.

    Do you have a long-term plan? An age by which time you say you now turn to personal rewards? Like relationships?

    Always good to have a plan. What is yours?
  • Red_wolf87a

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    Jun 19, 2017 7:52 AM GMT
    I think Nikola Tesla claimed his life as celibacy was one of the main reasons he was able to develop so many inventions.
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    Jun 19, 2017 8:11 AM GMT
    Perhaps if you don't go around posting fake pictures (already been outed once at least in another thread) everywhere you might not have to celebate.


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    Jun 19, 2017 11:47 AM GMT
    ricky1987 saidPerhaps if you don't go around posting fake pictures (already been outed once at least in another thread) everywhere you might have to celebrate.


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    LOL
  • Julius

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    Jun 20, 2017 1:11 AM GMT
    ricky1987 saidPerhaps if you don't go around posting fake pictures (already been outed once at least in another thread) everywhere you might not have to celebate.



    Dude, don't you have anything better to do with your time? Who the eff cares about my profile pic! I guess you do. Why?! That is the real question! Me thinks you have the intelligence of an oyster. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Julius

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    Jun 20, 2017 1:20 AM GMT
    art_deco said
    Julius said
    Any thoughts on this?

    Sure. What you are calling celibacy is actually avoiding the distractions and sexual/romantic involvements with guys. That can indeed degrade your performance in other areas in some cases. Although, having the right guy can actually improve your performance, if he's a giver and not a taker.

    You may be extremely goal oriented. Which can reap great rewards. But also leave your life empty.

    Do you have a long-term plan? An age by which time you say you now turn to personal rewards? Like relationships?

    Always good to have a plan. What is yours?


    Thanks, art_deco, for your thoughtful comments!
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Jun 23, 2017 9:53 PM GMT
    Adults who use fake pics are untrustworthy and probably boring.

    back to celibacy and production,yes you are right. when you are celibate all your energy and focus is given to tasks at hand at any given time. You are not missing anyone,you are not texting anyone,no soul is bothering you with sweet nothing calls and you spend zero time looking for hookups.

    Life of celibacy and production is unrealistic and not healthy,