my new "relation" has issues but i dont know what to do

  • guald98t

    Posts: 2

    Aug 09, 2017 5:51 PM GMT
    I'm 20 years old and i never had a boyfriend before. My new relation is recently i have one week with him, before two months of dating.
    He got out of the city the next day that we became boyfriends. he is 31 years old.
    the point is he is using grindr to hook up with strangers in the other city, i discovered him.
    since the that day i didnt talk with him, because i'm waiting for him when he come back to the city again. he still using grindr after he said that delete that.
    he said that he likes me, but our time are very diferent in consecuence we had seen a few times.
    we didnt talked anymore since that day, but i want to talk with him in person.
    would be a good idea still dating with him?
    i dont know what to do icon_confused.gif
  • Happenis

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    Aug 09, 2017 6:41 PM GMT
    I would break up with him NOW. Its clear that he thinks you're young and dumb. He also proved that he can't be trusted.

    If a guy was genuinely interested in you and happy with you then he wouldn't still be cruising on a sleezy gay sex app. Whenever I found any guy that I was passionate about, I was thrilled to abandon grindr in a heartbeat!

    A few years ago, I was in the SAME EXACT SITUATION (except the guy was younger than me); and then I told his ass to hit the road! No regrets since I found the man of my dreams now.

    Don't settle for less. Don't settle for mediocrity. You deserve nothing but the best!

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    Aug 09, 2017 6:49 PM GMT
    OP- He is not your BF. If he were a BF, he would not be dating other guys. He is a guy that you dated, who is also hooking up with other guys.

    Continue to date him if you want, but just know that he is dating (or hooking up with) other guys, so you might as well date other guys as well. If that's not a situation you are comfortable with, then stop seeing him, and look elsewhere.
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    Aug 09, 2017 7:17 PM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    OP- He is not your BF. If he were a BF, he would not be dating other guys. He is a guy that you dated, who is also hooking up with other guys.

    Continue to date him if you want, but just know that he is dating (or hooking up with) other guys, so you might as well date other guys as well. If that's not a situation you are comfortable with, then stop seeing him, and look elsewhere.

    Agreed. And get tested. A guy who's obviously an alley cat, sleeping around, may be infected with STDs.
  • guald98t

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    Aug 10, 2017 4:45 AM GMT
    thanks for all your answersicon_cool.gif
    I never talk with him again, because he isn't the best option for me, so he is the people that don't matter.
    it is a little hurt for me but i dont have a choice. icon_neutral.gif
    i would try to do another things icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 10, 2017 10:06 AM GMT
    guald98t saidthanks for all your answersicon_cool.gif
    I never talk with him again, because he isn't the best option for me, so he is the people that don't matter.
    it is a little hurt for me but i dont have a choice. icon_neutral.gif
    i would try to do another things icon_biggrin.gif


    You sound like you are putting your needs first which is what you should always do with someone you barely know. When you start your dating life not accepting bad behaviour you make it easy to alway hold your head high and will gain a lot of respect from other guys for only being with people who show they want to be with you
  • spider

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    Aug 20, 2017 11:15 AM GMT
    Drop him like a hot potato. He obviously justs see you as anotheer fuck and not a boy friend
  • jhywalker

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    Aug 24, 2017 11:37 PM GMT
    Happenis saidI would break up with him NOW. Its clear that he thinks you're young and dumb. He also proved that he can't be trusted.

    If a guy was genuinely interested in you and happy with you then he wouldn't still be cruising on a sleezy gay sex app. Whenever I found any guy that I was passionate about, I was thrilled to abandon grindr in a heartbeat!

    A few years ago, I was in the SAME EXACT SITUATION (except the guy was younger than me); and then I told his ass to hit the road! No regrets since I found the man of my dreams now.

    Don't settle for less. Don't settle for mediocrity. You deserve nothing but the best!



    OMG Yes! I completely agree!

    I have also been in the same situation! And the guy kept lying to me about it. This is not how a boyfriend should behave at all. Believe me. This is so disrespectful.
    I'm glad you moved on and have better options.

    And it is so true, if he was happy and fully satisfied with you he would never ever think of Grindr, he would make efforts to see you more and be with you more regardless of schedules.