I think it is sad that we as a minority group that is discriminated against, cannot stop discriminating. These people may not conform to your ideas of "normality" or "decency" but they are people who have a right to their own lifestyles. Why should they conform to what you deem as acceptable behavior? Isn't that what heterosexual America wants you to do, and become straight?
Putting on a "straight" face is not going to make them love you anymore. They will begin to respect you when you can stand up and be proud of who you are as an individual. When you begin to respect all forms of life, people will finally start to realize that we are not all the same and deserve the right to be who we are. We don't all have to be drag queens, femmes and late night party goers, but let those who are be who they are. When you need to tear down other people to make yourself look better, you are no better than those who seek to force us back into our closets. Prejudice only begets prejudice.
I don't want to live in a world where we are all forced to look and act the same in order to be accepted. I want to live in a world where people respect each others differences. I have never worn a dress or makeup but I respect those who want to do so. My boyfriend and I could easily pass in straight America, but I don't want to be part of a community that is hating people for being different. That kind of community is only a heart beat away from discriminating against me for being short or brown eyed.
As for alcoholics, well they exist in both the hetero and homo communities. This is not unique to the gay scene. Anyone who has a problem with alcohol needs help and is not really a role model for anyone until they are able to resolve their problems.
I'm sorry if I'm not understanding your message roadbikeRob, but it sounds like another jab at the femmes and drags. When you say that these groups are a negative stereotype, it seems to imply that just being who they are is a problem.
roadbikeRob saidI think the trouble that causes some gay guys to hate themselves because of their natural sexual orientation is the fact that negative stereotypes caused by too much attention on drag queens, femmes, and partying alcoholics has given all of us an undeserved, horrible image in the eyes of a large part of the American mainstream. Moving to a major city is not necessary for a gay man to be happy. There are several gays and lesbians that prefer the rural/small town environment. It is what we make of life. But the gay community has a lot of work cut out to change its still negative image. It is time to get away from the gay bar scene and get out and pursue a variety of manly interests.