Edepic saidSex drives can be quite variable. However most men in their 20s such as yourself would expect to be having sex everyday during the honeymoon phase of a relationship.
I'm 75 and have sex every day that I'm with my guy ( 51), three out of the last three days for example.
Perhaps your boyfriend is getting to know you and will be more involved later on. However, if the frequency is so minimal in the early stage of a relationship, it usually diminishes greatly in a few years.
Talk to him and be honest about your needs.
Not sure I agree with the idea that age has anything to do with sex drive.
"Norms" are what people are TOLD are the 'norms.' In this case, one guy is highly sexual, the other is less so. Start asking questions - nicely - about his past relationships, and did his other partners want more sex than he did. Once he tells you about his past, you have to decide whether its enough for you or not. He could be, for example, an incest survivor. As someone who has worked with them, I can tell you that they have issues about sex. I'm not saying he is one, of course, but I'll tell you what a therapist once told me: "You should be spending 3x as much time OUT of bed as in it." As men, we tend to be turned on to someone and want a lot of sex without paying attention to the cues that tell us that someone else has a different frequency for sex. I had a boyfriend I was crazy about once, and wanted to have sex twice that same morning, and he reacted quite strongly against it. He later told me - after we had ended the dating relationship , but were still friends - that someone had once asked him (during the period when we were together) how the sex was with me, and that he had replied, "WAY too good." I knew then he was afraid of letting his guard down and being completely vulnerable to me (and we both had psychology backgrounds, but his was more advanced than mine). Sex can make you vulnerable when coupled with truly liking the person (and it should: that's part of the limerance phase (falling in love = "limerance." ) I knew he couldn't sustain closeness with me or with anyone who didn't have intimacy issues: for him, it was too frightening (and I knew his family history, so I knew he came from a pretty emotionally distant family. Emotion was not their thing.)
So ask the questions, because far too many people try to manipulate a relationship by NOT asking important questions. (That IS manipulation, by the way, when you don't ask in order to maintain the relationship, because maybe if you ask, you'll lose the person. And many people don't want to take that chance, so this is what psychologists refer to as "ulterior motives." It's not that you're a bad person for proceeding this way, but you're not exactly being truthful about what your needs are, either.) They figure they'll scare the person away. What never occurs to them is that if someone's desire to get away
from you is stronger than their desire to be WITH
you, you're in serious trouble. And the relationship will fail because one - or both - of you is hiding behind a "politeness" mask. And that means, one or both of you is being less than honest with each other.