RJ PROFILES THAT DON'T GIVE OFF GOOD VIBES

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 22, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    We've had some discussion of member profiles, our purpose in being here and many here would agree, this is primarily a social health & network site and not for hookups. Thats why I'm here.

    We view others profiles, many times I'm impressed with the backgrounds and efforts many have here. What I find sort of odd are those profiles that sound defensive to begin with.... "I'm here for socializing, but you had better not hit on me.. etc and repeat it at least once or twice as the profile goes on.... by the end what I had seen originally as someone with a nice body and a nice looking pic has taken on a new and not so positive dimension.

    After reading an RJ members profile and being warned right from the start about his partner and his intent for being here... he carried on still more on the topic. It just didn't leave me with a positive feeling....
    Why even bring up the bs about a cam?




    "For those in NYC, I'll run with you, workout with you and maybe even say a few words, but I'm not here for sex. I have my partner and my hand for that.

    So why the pic in my profile? Why not?

    Anyone looking for Manhunt type of experiences had best bypass my profile. I'm serious. Please don't feed the animal. If you do, I'll drop a house on you. No means no. Wanna cam? Sure thing, BUT ONLY IF I ASK FIRST. Take note: If we cam, and I see your ugly-ass penis, you'll eat static"

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    Feb 23, 2009 12:24 AM GMT
    So are you saying that guys that are only looking for hook-ups should have pics in their profile? And everyone else shouldn't?
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    Feb 23, 2009 12:45 AM GMT
    i think what he's saying is that there was a lot of contradiction in what he quoted, and that it makes him question the person's motives.
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    Feb 23, 2009 12:46 AM GMT
    Oh jeez, this sounds like no means yes to me.
    This guy reminds me of me before I came out.
    I'd say stuff like......:

    "Why on Earth would I do that with a man!?.....Men are ugly: I mean, MY GOD, they've got hair all over their bodies and hard and offputting all over, don't even get me started on penis'.....what am I supposed to do with that!!

    ....put it in my mouth....suck on it.....stick it in my ass!!

    You've got to be fucking kidding me....never! For the last time....I'm sssssstraight, ok!

    If any guy.....any hairy, slightly older, white guy....comes at me that way, I swear to god, I'll jump all over his shit....I mean it, I'd eat him for breakfast."

    However, k, what about those guys who are total cam freaks and before you even say Hello, they want you to bear all on cam. Some even have stipulations in their text. (will not cam with fatter or skinny, must be muscled.) Can't they just remove the qualification list and just not extend the offer to certain people....since we are here to chat about fitness and speaking only to the muscle men is sort of like preaching to the choir.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 23, 2009 12:55 AM GMT
    xrichx saidSo are you saying that guys that are only looking for hook-ups should have pics in their profile? And everyone else shouldn't?



    Where in the world did you get that interpretation?? LOL

    What I was talking about was the tone of a profile. In this case, the guy spent almost his entire profile warning the reader against hitting on him.
    Nice pics overall, I went from a favorable view to an unfavorable one based on the tone of his profile.
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    Feb 23, 2009 2:24 PM GMT
    I agree that sometimes the tone of a profile can come across as defensive. I have changed my profile wording at times because it either sounded too negative or too defensive.

    I think the reason why I have reacted badly to camming in the past is that it shows a certain amount of disrespect for my status of being in a monogamous relationship. I think respect between people is important, and if some guy wants to IM me that is great, but don't start camming me hoping I will reciprocate with revealing pictures of myself.