Refusal to Unlock Private Pic Yields Namecalling......

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 23, 2009 9:53 PM GMT
    Well, its a Monday. LOL

    I received a notice that an RJ member had unlocked his private pics (somebody I've never noticed before). I glanced at who it was and his private pics, none x rated. I sent him a note telling him "thanks for the view".
    Actually it didn't make any difference one way or another, I was trying to be nice.

    Soon.. a note comes back... "You didn't unlock"...

    I responded, "Nope I didn't unlock", whereby the guy calls me an arrogant ass.

    OK now.....icon_mad.gif
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    That's just rude ... and cause for blocking, in my opinion.
  • EricPrado

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    Feb 23, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    Just ignore the guy. I mean, you said thanks and all. That's more than what I say. Which is...nothing. I still don't get the point of people unlocking their privates for anyone... I could understand if we were talking or something but most of the times people just unlock their privates for the heck of it. idk. It's just weird not to mention annoying.
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    I don't remember reading any RJ rules that require someone to unlock their pics, just because someone ulocked theirs for you. I admit I usually do, but if I decide not to for whatever reason, than deal with it!
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:06 PM GMT
    Oh boy people *are* weird!
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:13 PM GMT
    icon_rolleyes.gif Some people. OY!
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
    Oh well, I've had my fair share of low-life weirdos I would love to pass heh
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:19 PM GMT
    Name calling when in regards to being denied or turned down is usually indicative of insecurities. I find this a lot on websites, usually when a guy tries to get me to hookup, and I say "thx but I don't hookup" then oh I'm the arrogant and presumptuous one. Guys, a little tact and decorum goes a long way. Just because a guy says "thx for the compliment," does not mean it translates into "wanna f#$k?"
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:21 PM GMT
    Your reply was all that was owed to him. you didn't ask to see his private pics. So why should he expect you to do the same. As for the name calling , his loss. Chris you are an awesome guy.
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    I find those "unlocked my private pics for you" emails annoying. I don't care about your pvt pics. I don't know you, nor have I ever talked to you before...so why would I want to see your faceless chest and cock shots. Actually, even if I have chatted with you before... I still don't want to see them. Sorry if I come off like an @ss. But damn, at least two a day. Stop the insanity!
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:30 PM GMT
    Some things never change.
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:37 PM GMT
    I guess it's the way some people try to get your attention.
    Projecting, at that, what they want.
    And thus explaining the temper tantrum at not getting it.

    Just another instance of putting the cart before the horse.
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:56 PM GMT
    A lot of these guys are 40 going on 12.
    Some of these guys are 20 going on 10.
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    Feb 23, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    Am I the only one who finds it obnoxious when someone randomly unlocks their photos for you--which there-by sends you a notification.

    Yet this person doesn't send a message, nor have you ever chatted/messaged/seen this person before. I typically don't bother looking, just on principal--do they assume I'll be blown away?

    OK, enough ranting
  • Rookz

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    Feb 23, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    Why don't people just start with an email conversation stating they like what they see, they'd like to view your pics by unlocking theirs in return. Why don't people simply communicate???

    I was in the position where someone emailed me asking if I'd like to chat. I simply replied,

    "Thank you, but no thanks."

    He replies back stating that was rude, inconsiderate and that I am not who I'm projecting in my profile. I simply stated most guys wouldn't respond back, most guys wouldn't even give you some sort of kind reply. What I've said is simply short for thank you for contacting me, but no thanks, I'm not interested.

    Some people have issues, even if you're nice to them in your rejection.
  • metta

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    Feb 23, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    lol...it just has to make you smile at the way people think sometimes....doesn't it? icon_biggrin.gif

    Try not to let it get to you.

    I don't have any photos that would qualify for private pics. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 23, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    Just one reason I don't have private pics.icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 23, 2009 11:11 PM GMT
    Unsolicited unlocking doesn't mandate a quid pro quo.
    Also, some people might actually have "edgier" photos in their private pics, and that would be a little unequal if his weren't.

    And like what others said, blocking is easy enough to keep the cretins away.
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    Feb 23, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    has happened to me as well his first message was all flattery and how hot i was and he unlocked as well. he asked me to unlock, but i politely told him i will when i choose to unlock.

    he then proceeded to call me an unattractive fag and a bitch.

    i was like bi-polar much?!
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    Feb 23, 2009 11:17 PM GMT
    I just keep my privates offline. It's the best way to keep out the drama.
  • NickoftheNort...

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    Feb 23, 2009 11:38 PM GMT
    I see "unsolicited unlocking" of private pics as a gift, and therefore as something that does not expect to be reciprocated. Any expectation of reciprocation by the gifter is disingenuous, and it ceases to be a gift and becomes a means for guilting another guy into sharing his private pictures. It goes from a no-strings-attached present to a guilt-based form of entrapment.

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    On a related vein, unlocking one's own private pictures for someone else to unlock his private pictures (after an agreement on it) is a trade. If the other part does not fulfill that agreement, the first part has reason to consider the other guy a [insert explitive].
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    Feb 23, 2009 11:44 PM GMT
    I just wanted to see your penis, hndsm...geez.


















    ass.




  • Posted by a hidden member.
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    Feb 24, 2009 12:11 AM GMT
    Well, I think it is great if someone unlocks their photos for me, but I don't have any to unlock. However, like nickofthenorth says, it is like a gift if someone does.
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    Feb 24, 2009 1:21 AM GMT
    Oh man. I think "arrogant ass" is a bit uncalled for. If you voluntarily unlock your private pics, you shouldn't expect the other person to reciprocate. Especially if there was no prior direct communication.
  • toybrian

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    Feb 24, 2009 4:06 AM GMT
    Kansas. I agree with you that where is it required that you have to show someone your pics because they do to you...that is one reason why I do not put any on here and tell them that that is one thing they will have to see in person and not on the internet...thanks guys..