Is he interested?

  • nick5792

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    Dec 26, 2017 2:15 AM GMT
    I'll try to keep this short!

    For a long time I have a had a crush on this guy, and we work in the Same building (not the same segment). I have seen him around the building but he's never actually said anything to me. In fact, I didnt even think he's noticed me before.

    Well a few months ago, we were at a work party where he was a speaker. At one point of the party, it looked like he was bee lining right for me (I was standing right in front of the food). My friend yanked me away to get a drink, and I turned to look back and my crush got to where we were standing and kind of awkwardly stood there. We then ended uo on the other side of the room during the speeches and my crush made it a point to cross the room and throw something away right in front of me and continue to stand. My friend I went to the party with kept getting annoyed she thought he was trying so hard. He then went up to give his speech and then left right after. So maybe I'm just hoping for the best?

    A few weeks ago, we both walk into work together and hold the open the door for each other. No one said anything to the other besides thank you. That was it.

    Now comes the point where I got a little confused. Last week we had a holiday party that my crush was at again. I noticed him in the back of the room and turned my back to him. About 45 seconds later, he runs up to the bar to lay some raffle tickets out as they were calling out raffle numbers. He was standing directly next to us. My roommate is acquantiences with him, and she claims he was looking at her the whole time to get her attention. She greets him and then turns back to us. My crush runs back to his spot (while numbers are still being called out oddly), but then returns about 2 mins later. He cuts into our group and tells my roommate so great to see her, and then immediately turns to me and says, "hi I'm ____ and I see you all the time". Doesn't really say bye and just leaves our group. He says goodbye to a few friends and then leaves a few moments later. The weird part is he completely ignored the other two in our group. And my roommate couldn't introduce anyone.

    I know I overthink, but could my crush be somewhat interested. I know I need to talk to him, but I'm not going to be desperate for it. I'm gonna play it cool the next time I see him. But do you think I might be reading the signs wrong? This guy is incredibly friendly to everyone, and wants to meet everyone. People that know him think it's very weird he totally ignored two others in our group who actually work with me and he sees all the time as well. Just wanted opinions.
  • mybud

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    Dec 26, 2017 2:47 AM GMT
    nick5792 saidI'll try to keep this short!

    For a long time I have a had a crush on this guy, and we work in the Same building (not the same segment). I have seen him around the building but he's never actually said anything to me. In fact, I didnt even think he's noticed me before.

    Well a few months ago, we were at a work party where he was a speaker. At one point of the party, it looked like he was bee lining right for me (I was standing right in front of the food). My friend yanked me away to get a drink, and I turned to look back and my crush got to where we were standing and kind of awkwardly stood there. We then ended uo on the other side of the room during the speeches and my crush made it a point to cross the room and throw something away right in front of me and continue to stand. My friend I went to the party with kept getting annoyed she thought he was trying so hard. He then went up to give his speech and then left right after. So maybe I'm just hoping for the best?

    A few weeks ago, we both walk into work together and hold the open the door for each other. No one said anything to the other besides thank you. That was it.

    Now comes the point where I got a little confused. Last week we had a holiday party that my crush was at again. I noticed him in the back of the room and turned my back to him. About 45 seconds later, he runs up to the bar to lay some raffle tickets out as they were calling out raffle numbers. He was standing directly next to us. My roommate is acquantiences with him, and she claims he was looking at her the whole time to get her attention. She greets him and then turns back to us. My crush runs back to his spot (while numbers are still being called out oddly), but then returns about 2 mins later. He cuts into our group and tells my roommate so great to see her, and then immediately turns to me and says, "hi I'm ____ and I see you all the time". Doesn't really say bye and just leaves our group. He says goodbye to a few friends and then leaves a few moments later. The weird part is he completely ignored the other two in our group. And my roommate couldn't introduce anyone.

    I know I overthink, but could my crush be somewhat interested. I know I need to talk to him, but I'm not going to be desperate for it. I'm gonna play it cool the next time I see him. But do you think I might be reading the signs wrong? This guy is incredibly friendly to everyone, and wants to meet everyone. People that know him think it's very weird he totally ignored two others in our group who actually work with me and he sees all the time as well. Just wanted opinions.
    Don't listen to your friends..sounds like they have their own agendas...Email him and state your trying to increase your friend base..Tell him you think he's pleasant and want to get to know him..Send..What for response..give it two weeks..If no response..??..move forward cause youre cute..That's all I got bro.
  • nick5792

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    Dec 26, 2017 3:21 AM GMT
    I think I need to casually talk to him when I see him again
  • mybud

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    Dec 26, 2017 3:25 AM GMT
    nick5792 saidI think I need to casually talk to him when I see him again
    Dude..I had a female friend who found fault in all the guys I saw when we were out..Thats what I mean about agendas..
  • nick5792

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    Dec 26, 2017 5:26 AM GMT
    Hmmm honestly not sure what agendas anyone would have.
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    Dec 26, 2017 7:34 AM GMT
    You're acting like a shy teen-ager instead of a grown up gay guy. When he came up to you with your roommate and actually greeted you, you should have told him it was "nice to meet you" or some such, with A REALLY BIG SMILE and a strong handshake, looking him directly in the eye. Who knows if he is interested in you, or if he is even gay, but you certainly blew a big opportunity to find out. Next time you run into him, go out of your way to talk to him, and have a flirtatious smile. If he is interested in you, he's gonna lose that interest fast if you don't show some yourself. Carpe diem. You might not be blessed with another one.
  • nick5792

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    Dec 26, 2017 8:03 AM GMT
    Oh haha. He is gay. It was a gay function. But, I'm always super happy and nice. And because he forced it so hard in our group he made it incredibly awkward, which in turn made it look like I was playing it really cool. I shook his hand and was like nice to meet you before he bolted.
  • Antarktis

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    Dec 26, 2017 12:07 PM GMT
    Sounds like your problem is an uneducated fag hag. If I can get laid in Antarctica, you can get laid in an office.
    You know his specialization so find something out about his expertise that has something to do with yours that crosses party grounds, ask him to lunch and leave the eternal virgin gal at home
  • mybud

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    Dec 26, 2017 5:19 PM GMT
    nick5792 saidHmmm honestly not sure what agendas anyone would have.
    Dude... Some women...even straight..See you getting into a relationship as a possibly of losing your friendship and or present relationship ..If she doesn't have somebody to go out with..there's always you...This guy is awkward...This may mean he's shy and possibilty into YOU...Again..you're attractive..follow your instincts. .not others ..DUCES
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    Dec 27, 2017 2:26 AM GMT
    nick5792 saidI'll try to keep this short!

    For a long time I have a had a crush on this guy, and we work in the Same building (not the same segment). I have seen him around the building but he's never actually said anything to me. In fact, I didnt even think he's noticed me before.

    Well a few months ago, we were at a work party where he was a speaker. At one point of the party, it looked like he was bee lining right for me (I was standing right in front of the food). My friend yanked me away to get a drink, and I turned to look back and my crush got to where we were standing and kind of awkwardly stood there. We then ended uo on the other side of the room during the speeches and my crush made it a point to cross the room and throw something away right in front of me and continue to stand. My friend I went to the party with kept getting annoyed she thought he was trying so hard. He then went up to give his speech and then left right after. So maybe I'm just hoping for the best?

    A few weeks ago, we both walk into work together and hold the open the door for each other. No one said anything to the other besides thank you. That was it.

    Now comes the point where I got a little confused. Last week we had a holiday party that my crush was at again. I noticed him in the back of the room and turned my back to him. About 45 seconds later, he runs up to the bar to lay some raffle tickets out as they were calling out raffle numbers. He was standing directly next to us. My roommate is acquantiences with him, and she claims he was looking at her the whole time to get her attention. She greets him and then turns back to us. My crush runs back to his spot (while numbers are still being called out oddly), but then returns about 2 mins later. He cuts into our group and tells my roommate so great to see her, and then immediately turns to me and says, "hi I'm ____ and I see you all the time". Doesn't really say bye and just leaves our group. He says goodbye to a few friends and then leaves a few moments later. The weird part is he completely ignored the other two in our group. And my roommate couldn't introduce anyone.

    I know I overthink, but could my crush be somewhat interested. I know I need to talk to him, but I'm not going to be desperate for it. I'm gonna play it cool the next time I see him. But do you think I might be reading the signs wrong? This guy is incredibly friendly to everyone, and wants to meet everyone. People that know him think it's very weird he totally ignored two others in our group who actually work with me and he sees all the time as well. Just wanted opinions.




    #1 I think your friend is cock-blocking you. This is why I usually don't have female friends. It's just impossible to meet guys with them hanging around. They will give you the worst advice about men too. And you sound like you're starting to act like a girl by playing all these games.

    #2 You're acting like a prepubescent girl who has a crush on the kid in biology. Stop acting so friggin weird and just talk to him. The guy holds the door open for you and you can't even say "thank you, uh by the way, what's your name?" Geezzz
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    Dec 27, 2017 4:47 AM GMT
    let me guess, he knows you're gay too right? I think he's at the beginning stage of interested but for some reasons,
    he's just not that good in social big gathering with tons of people. I do this too, I am hesitant to express an interest in someone
    if he keeps hanging around his hag or other gay dudes. Find a way to talk to him, go grab brunch or whatever, more like a one on one
    setting. And just some fyi, it's unpleasant to get advices from straight women on gay men. Lol what do they know
  • nick5792

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    Dec 27, 2017 4:55 AM GMT
    Thanks for the advice! I think I might have given the wrong impression of what was happening. My friend who yanked me away wasn't paying attention to him coming over.

    Basically all these people have told me he's interested to go out of his way in our group for him to only meet me and not care about others in our group. One of our mutual friends thought that very unusual for him, because he's so friendly and wants to meet everyone. My friends are all very supportive of it. Not cock blocking me at all.

    But I am socially stupid and can't accept this beautiful man being interested in me. EVERYONE is in love with him. I guess the next time I see him I wasn't going to go way out of my way, but when I see him I'll say "hi ____" so he knows I remembered his name.

    But of course I don't want my dreams crushed if he isn't interested. Trying to keep my expectations in check. I very much know I am acting like a 12 year old girl.
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    Dec 27, 2017 5:28 PM GMT
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    nick5792 saidI'll try to keep this short!

    For a long time I have a had a crush on this guy, and we work in the Same building (not the same segment). I have seen him around the building but he's never actually said anything to me. In fact, I didnt even think he's noticed me before.

    Well a few months ago, we were at a work party where he was a speaker. At one point of the party, it looked like he was bee lining right for me (I was standing right in front of the food). My friend yanked me away to get a drink, and I turned to look back and my crush got to where we were standing and kind of awkwardly stood there. We then ended uo on the other side of the room during the speeches and my crush made it a point to cross the room and throw something away right in front of me and continue to stand. My friend I went to the party with kept getting annoyed she thought he was trying so hard. He then went up to give his speech and then left right after. So maybe I'm just hoping for the best?

    A few weeks ago, we both walk into work together and hold the open the door for each other. No one said anything to the other besides thank you. That was it.

    Now comes the point where I got a little confused. Last week we had a holiday party that my crush was at again. I noticed him in the back of the room and turned my back to him. About 45 seconds later, he runs up to the bar to lay some raffle tickets out as they were calling out raffle numbers. He was standing directly next to us. My roommate is acquantiences with him, and she claims he was looking at her the whole time to get her attention. She greets him and then turns back to us. My crush runs back to his spot (while numbers are still being called out oddly), but then returns about 2 mins later. He cuts into our group and tells my roommate so great to see her, and then immediately turns to me and says, "hi I'm ____ and I see you all the time". Doesn't really say bye and just leaves our group. He says goodbye to a few friends and then leaves a few moments later. The weird part is he completely ignored the other two in our group. And my roommate couldn't introduce anyone.

    I know I overthink, but could my crush be somewhat interested. I know I need to talk to him, but I'm not going to be desperate for it. I'm gonna play it cool the next time I see him. But do you think I might be reading the signs wrong? This guy is incredibly friendly to everyone, and wants to meet everyone. People that know him think it's very weird he totally ignored two others in our group who actually work with me and he sees all the time as well. Just wanted opinions.
    Don't listen to your friends..sounds like they have their own agendas...Email him and state your trying to increase your friend base..Tell him you think he's pleasant and want to get to know him..Send..What for response..give it two weeks..If no response..??..move forward cause youre cute..That's all I got bro.


    I agree with what mybud is trying to say. Email him with a simple greeting and see where it goes! Or tell him what you thought about his speech, etc. There's nothing wrong with a nice compliment to get the conversation going. And if he doesn't seem like he's interested just let it go. I mean, why do you think I'm still single! Haha.
  • bro4bro

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    Dec 27, 2017 6:14 PM GMT
    Yes, he wants to meet you. It sounds to me like he's a bit socially awkward - and you sure aren't making it any easier for him.

    Is your plan to just keep on ignoring him until he loses interest?
  • Element1313

    Posts: 152

    Dec 27, 2017 11:06 PM GMT
    Guys like you make it frikin impossible to date men. You will probably pretend to ignore him next time in order to be "cool". Are all bottoms this way?



    nick5792 saidI'll try to keep this short!

    For a long time I have a had a crush on this guy, and we work in the Same building (not the same segment). I have seen him around the building but he's never actually said anything to me. In fact, I didnt even think he's noticed me before.

    Well a few months ago, we were at a work party where he was a speaker. At one point of the party, it looked like he was bee lining right for me (I was standing right in front of the food). My friend yanked me away to get a drink, and I turned to look back and my crush got to where we were standing and kind of awkwardly stood there. We then ended uo on the other side of the room during the speeches and my crush made it a point to cross the room and throw something away right in front of me and continue to stand. My friend I went to the party with kept getting annoyed she thought he was trying so hard. He then went up to give his speech and then left right after. So maybe I'm just hoping for the best?

    A few weeks ago, we both walk into work together and hold the open the door for each other. No one said anything to the other besides thank you. That was it.

    Now comes the point where I got a little confused. Last week we had a holiday party that my crush was at again. I noticed him in the back of the room and turned my back to him. About 45 seconds later, he runs up to the bar to lay some raffle tickets out as they were calling out raffle numbers. He was standing directly next to us. My roommate is acquantiences with him, and she claims he was looking at her the whole time to get her attention. She greets him and then turns back to us. My crush runs back to his spot (while numbers are still being called out oddly), but then returns about 2 mins later. He cuts into our group and tells my roommate so great to see her, and then immediately turns to me and says, "hi I'm ____ and I see you all the time". Doesn't really say bye and just leaves our group. He says goodbye to a few friends and then leaves a few moments later. The weird part is he completely ignored the other two in our group. And my roommate couldn't introduce anyone.

    I know I overthink, but could my crush be somewhat interested. I know I need to talk to him, but I'm not going to be desperate for it. I'm gonna play it cool the next time I see him. But do you think I might be reading the signs wrong? This guy is incredibly friendly to everyone, and wants to meet everyone. People that know him think it's very weird he totally ignored two others in our group who actually work with me and he sees all the time as well. Just wanted opinions.
  • Element1313

    Posts: 152

    Dec 27, 2017 11:09 PM GMT
    Guys like you make it frikin impossible to date men. You will probably pretend to ignore him next time in order to be "cool". Are all bottoms this way?



    nick5792 saidI'll try to keep this short!

    For a long time I have a had a crush on this guy, and we work in the Same building (not the same segment). I have seen him around the building but he's never actually said anything to me. In fact, I didnt even think he's noticed me before.

    Well a few months ago, we were at a work party where he was a speaker. At one point of the party, it looked like he was bee lining right for me (I was standing right in front of the food). My friend yanked me away to get a drink, and I turned to look back and my crush got to where we were standing and kind of awkwardly stood there. We then ended uo on the other side of the room during the speeches and my crush made it a point to cross the room and throw something away right in front of me and continue to stand. My friend I went to the party with kept getting annoyed she thought he was trying so hard. He then went up to give his speech and then left right after. So maybe I'm just hoping for the best?

    A few weeks ago, we both walk into work together and hold the open the door for each other. No one said anything to the other besides thank you. That was it.

    Now comes the point where I got a little confused. Last week we had a holiday party that my crush was at again. I noticed him in the back of the room and turned my back to him. About 45 seconds later, he runs up to the bar to lay some raffle tickets out as they were calling out raffle numbers. He was standing directly next to us. My roommate is acquantiences with him, and she claims he was looking at her the whole time to get her attention. She greets him and then turns back to us. My crush runs back to his spot (while numbers are still being called out oddly), but then returns about 2 mins later. He cuts into our group and tells my roommate so great to see her, and then immediately turns to me and says, "hi I'm ____ and I see you all the time". Doesn't really say bye and just leaves our group. He says goodbye to a few friends and then leaves a few moments later. The weird part is he completely ignored the other two in our group. And my roommate couldn't introduce anyone.

    I know I overthink, but could my crush be somewhat interested. I know I need to talk to him, but I'm not going to be desperate for it. I'm gonna play it cool the next time I see him. But do you think I might be reading the signs wrong? This guy is incredibly friendly to everyone, and wants to meet everyone. People that know him think it's very weird he totally ignored two others in our group who actually work with me and he sees all the time as well. Just wanted opinions.
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    Dec 28, 2017 3:13 AM GMT
    Writer22 said
    mybud said
    nick5792 saidI'll try to keep this short!



    .


    I mean, why do you think I'm still single! Haha.


    Perhaps living in the far north in Michigan has something to do with it?
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    Dec 28, 2017 3:16 AM GMT
    Antarktis saidSounds like your problem is an uneducated fag hag. If I can get laid in Antarctica . . .


    Very horny flexible straight dudes working there? (I guess they would be - very horny, at least.)