Dating or just friends?

  • derekels

    Posts: 2

    Dec 30, 2017 10:15 PM GMT
    So I recently started hanging with this dude. We both find each other attractive (I believe) but nothing happens... We have done some foreplay but nothing more. We basically just hang out, get drunk, and pass out on his bed.

    Both of us have fairly stressful jobs and are usually always exhausted but I'm starting to feel like we are just naturally moving towards just "friends." Which is fine! But I'm worried that he's just too shy to make any moves and I don't want to make any moves and ruin our new friendship.

    Any ideas dudes??

  • bro4bro

    Posts: 2106

    Dec 31, 2017 12:01 AM GMT
    Well, I'm afraid you'll have to talk to him about it.

    Are you interested in dating him? If so, you need to let him know. You don't have to "make a move" on him and it doesn't have to be some silly Hollywood scene of declaring your love for him either; just tell him you really like hanging out with him and would be interested in finding out if you'd be good together as more than friends.

    If he's not interested in dating, you can just tell him OK, it's no big deal (which seems to be true, based on your post), and you're fine with keeping things the way they are because you like hanging out with him.
  • mybud

    Posts: 14090

    Dec 31, 2017 12:36 AM GMT
    When your both sober, have a heart to heart conversation. If it's a friendship, either be fine for it, or move on.....
  • orome

    Posts: 47

    Dec 31, 2017 1:45 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidWell, I'm afraid you'll have to talk to him about it.

    Are you interested in dating him? If so, you need to let him know. You don't have to "make a move" on him and it doesn't have to be some silly Hollywood scene of declaring your love for him either; just tell him you really like hanging out with him and would be interested in finding out if you'd be good together as more than friends.

    If he's not interested in dating, you can just tell him OK, it's no big deal (which seems to be true, based on your post), and you're fine with keeping things the way they are because you like hanging out with him.


    +1. This Is The Best Way To Handle It.