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    Apr 05, 2007 6:00 AM GMT
    so i live with two other guys. neither of them gay, bi or whatever... openly at least. i'm bi, closested. and i don't feel eithe rof them are..

    whatever.

    one of them, is a complete asshole. conversations about "the homos" come up every now and then, and its compared to "dealing with black people" how am i supposed to approach this situations without outing myself?

    while it may seem stupid to not just say"i'm gay, do you think, i'm a "problem"?" the other side of the story is, i go to a small school of 2000 people and gossi and stories travel faster than most STDs. i'd rather now out myself at the school at this time and wait to get back to a major city, which i'm from, before doing something like this.

    what do u guys think?
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    Apr 05, 2007 6:50 AM GMT
    quick typo... "rather NOT out myself" as opposed to rather NOW out myself.
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    Apr 05, 2007 10:54 PM GMT
    hey dude,
    i think it's cool you're even considering coming out under the circumstances. but you have to ask yourself: what are you trying to acomplish? If you're ready to open up to your friends and community about who you are, then great! But if you think your roommates are going to instantly show some enlightenment, just because you're gay, you might be overreaching.
    coming out is a personal matter and a process that YOU are in charge of. don't come out just to prove a point to others -- do it for you, on your own time. your plan about waiting till you're back in a major city souns good. i'd stick to it and find another way to deal with your neaderthal roommates. look, the semester is over in a few weeks anyway. good luck either way!
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    Apr 06, 2007 6:38 AM GMT
    i have to admit. i was pretty drunk, and super fuckin angry when i wrote that.

    the problem comes from him thinking that homosexuality is a mental disorder. and me and my other roomie, who's cool by the way, try to tell him otherwise. but he just doesnt get it.

    "it's not natural, sex is to make kids, being gay is like a retardation"

    so i just get super angry and tell him he needs to learn more than what our university ius teching him. i just don't get how someone, in this day and age, from a well off family, who's university educated, can be so ignorant.
  • cityguy39

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    Apr 07, 2007 2:33 AM GMT
    Ignorance knows no boundries, just look at Bush!
  • hotversguy

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    Apr 07, 2007 5:33 AM GMT
    it's always the one that raises the biggest ruckus about "homos" that....
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    Apr 07, 2007 2:58 PM GMT
    I think that coming out is not the best thing to do. This will only get him reason to hate gays more. Do you think Hitler would change his mind if one day after he started the nazi party a friend came up and said "what you are doing is wrong i am a jewish person and nothing is wrong with me." He did not. Also he could call you a perv for "all the times you looked at him sexuiay" and make up stories to tarnish your name. People who are racist are dumb. Just stay away from talking about gays and you should be fine. About him saying "it's not natural, sex is to make kids, being gay is like a retardation" just say so is the micowaave but you still use it. Just wait in like 6 years when he is alone working a meaningless job and laugh knowing his view pionts got him there.
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    Apr 14, 2007 2:40 PM GMT
    Disagree with Swiftjock..

    Coming out is a process mainly for yourself and the ones who love you.

    Coming out is not for the opinon of others. You don't come out so others will like you more or less, you don't come out so others will like gay men more or less...

    Being true to who you are should not depend on the validation of ignorant people...
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    Apr 15, 2007 8:38 PM GMT
    My roommates at college were a little leery at first, but I saw no reason either to hide it or to make a big deal. I'd already spent loads of "guy time" with them, bowling, watching football, playing volleyball or whatever. And then one day my boyfriend joined us for volleyball. They looked at me funny when I gave my guy more than just a friendly hug (and a quick peck on the cheek), and we soundly beat those two on the court. They've been cool ever since.
  • MikeW

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    Mar 21, 2014 11:44 PM GMT
    Hidden/Deleted MemberMy roommates at college were a little leery at first, but I saw no reason either to hide it or to make a big deal. I'd already spent loads of "guy time" with them, bowling, watching football, playing volleyball or whatever. And then one day my boyfriend joined us for volleyball. They looked at me funny when I gave my guy more than just a friendly hug (and a quick peck on the cheek), and we soundly beat those two on the court. They've been cool ever since.

    This is truly the best way to come out to your straight buds. No doubt about it. Don't 'come' out, just 'be' out and let them deal.
  • drfeelgood

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    Mar 21, 2014 11:46 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    Hidden/Deleted MemberMy roommates at college were a little leery at first, but I saw no reason either to hide it or to make a big deal. I'd already spent loads of "guy time" with them, bowling, watching football, playing volleyball or whatever. And then one day my boyfriend joined us for volleyball. They looked at me funny when I gave my guy more than just a friendly hug (and a quick peck on the cheek), and we soundly beat those two on the court. They've been cool ever since.

    This is truly the best way to come out to your straight buds. No doubt about it. Don't 'come' out, just 'be' out and let them deal.
    this was 7 years ago...
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    Mar 21, 2014 11:52 PM GMT
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    Mar 21, 2014 11:55 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    Hidden/Deleted MemberMy roommates at college were a little leery at first, but I saw no reason either to hide it or to make a big deal. I'd already spent loads of "guy time" with them, bowling, watching football, playing volleyball or whatever. And then one day my boyfriend joined us for volleyball. They looked at me funny when I gave my guy more than just a friendly hug (and a quick peck on the cheek), and we soundly beat those two on the court. They've been cool ever since.

    This is truly the best way to come out to your straight buds. No doubt about it. Don't 'come' out, just 'be' out and let them deal.

    I expect that things may have changed for the OP. It's been only seven years since he posted that. LOL
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 21, 2014 11:55 PM GMT
    I wonder how it all turned out
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    Mar 21, 2014 11:56 PM GMT
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    Mike
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    Mar 21, 2014 11:58 PM GMT
    LOL MikeW bumped a 2007 thread while searching for "assholes" icon_lol.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    btw Im confused by this guy and his username.
  • MikeW

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    Mar 22, 2014 12:30 AM GMT
    David3000 saidLOL MikeW bumped a 2007 thread while searching for "assholes" icon_lol.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    btw Im confused by this guy and his username.

    inorite… no one has posted about j.. uh, wats his name?????…. all day.
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    Mar 22, 2014 12:34 AM GMT
    MikeW said
    David3000 saidLOL MikeW bumped a 2007 thread while searching for "assholes" icon_lol.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    btw Im confused by this guy and his username.

    inorite… no one has posted about j.. uh, wats his name?????…. all day.

    and you had to bump this thread, didn't you?
  • MikeW

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    Mar 22, 2014 12:41 AM GMT
    David3000 said
    MikeW said
    David3000 saidLOL MikeW bumped a 2007 thread while searching for "assholes" icon_lol.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    btw Im confused by this guy and his username.

    inorite… no one has posted about j.. uh, wats his name?????…. all day.
    and you had to bump this thread, didn't you?
    i guess i didn't *have* to but, w/e, no point in letting a perfectly good thread title sink beyond the data storage event horizon when it could be given new life for another 7 years, right?
  • coolarmydude

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    Mar 22, 2014 12:43 AM GMT
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