Can anyone fall for me?

  • Roshan16

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    Feb 24, 2009 4:40 PM GMT
    hey people! Well my tragedy is tht i've loved 4 diff guys over the past four years and all turned out to be straight. And me ending up with a shattered heart each time. Isn't there anyone who'll fall for me. I mean y can't anyone see the ocean of love n romance filled within me? I wanna be held, loved.....alas!...it's no use!.............sigh!

    Talk to me....someone?
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    Feb 26, 2009 9:10 AM GMT
    Well... whose fault was it? icon_lol.gif

    The moral of the story is...
  • Roshan16

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    Feb 27, 2009 8:26 AM GMT
    Sedative saidWell... whose fault was it? icon_lol.gif

    The moral of the story is...


    What cud i do...maybe tht's y it's rightly said that LOVE IS BLIND.....
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    Feb 27, 2009 8:32 AM GMT
    Roshan16 saidhey people! Well my tragedy is tht i've loved 4 diff guys over the past four years and all turned out to be straight. And me ending up with a shattered heart each time. Isn't there anyone who'll fall for me. I mean y can't anyone see the ocean of love n romance filled within me? I wanna be held, loved.....alas!...it's no use!.............sigh!

    Talk to me....someone?


    This might sound pretty out there but maybe try a gay guy icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Roshan16

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    Mar 07, 2009 11:12 AM GMT
    Gosh!...i asked a simple question..... and wat do i get?....... more fingers on one hand than REPLIES for my query!......

    Sheesh! GUYS....do all u ppl think tht NO ONE wud ever fall for me....................... or have u guys just skipped the post?
  • GQjock

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    Mar 07, 2009 12:44 PM GMT
    Of course they'll be guys who fall for you ...
    but if you're hanging around and falling for str8 guys it ain't gonna happen

    You might wanna sit down and ask yourself why you keep running yourself up against that same brick wall
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    Mar 07, 2009 1:17 PM GMT
    People will tell you it's a waste of time to try to change a guy's orientation.

    Those people are not Katie Holmes.

    Seriously though, AMT87 pretty much summed it up.
    This time find a guy who likes shopping.
  • SFGeoNinja

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    Mar 07, 2009 1:36 PM GMT
    Trying to go after straight guys, regardless of how hot they/your fantasies of them may be, will only end in despair icon_rolleyes.gif.

    Plus if it goes wrong with one of them (i.e. if one of your straight friends is less than amused by the fact that you are making passes at them), then you have also lost a friend as well. Who needs that?
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    Mar 07, 2009 1:44 PM GMT
    Roshan16 saidGosh!...i asked a simple question..... and wat do i get?....... more fingers on one hand than REPLIES for my query!......

    Sheesh! GUYS....do all u ppl think tht NO ONE wud ever fall for me....................... or have u guys just skipped the post?


    er...

    Okay. Since you didn't get it, I'll spell it out:

    DON'T FALL FOR STRAIGHT GUYS, HMK?


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  • Roshan16

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    Mar 07, 2009 5:43 PM GMT
    Alright guys, i get the point. But the thing is tht whenever i'm attracted to a straight guy i tend to get all mushy over him (all these guys started as friends in the first place). Slowly, but it so happens that over time i tend to do things that a girlfriend wud do... like bringing him his fav breakfast, give him gifts, do special things, give him special attention, take care him like a bf. And the 4 guys i had my "so called affair" with didn't mind my this kind of behaviour and wud actually like it, thus giving me wrong signals tht they too had same feelings for me too......it's only after months whn it feels like they're fed up of me or sumthing, do things tend to end.....me left with a broken heart.

    Haven't slept with anyone yet.

    Why do straight guys give such signals which cud mean that they're falling for you...............

    has anyone else been in my place?


    PS. The current straight guy in my life just sms'ed me yesterday saying that he cudn't go on with me any longer, but won't break our friendship though. He works with me in the same office......i'll be meeting him tomorrow for the CONFRONTATION!
  • Roshan16

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    Mar 07, 2009 5:47 PM GMT
    Oh ya one more thing...........I live in Dubai and it's next to impossible to meet/find another gay guy........ even if i did meet one (which i repeat is impossible).....there's no guarantee he's gonna be the type i wud like to have a relationship with..................I'm so lost here guys!......pls help!
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    Mar 08, 2009 9:31 PM GMT
    Zimster lives in Dubayy. Why don't you contact him. He might be able to introduce you to the gay community. The only problem is that he has not posted recently...so it may be hard to reach him...
    You need to stay away from the st8 guys...you can't convert one...Even a bi guy would be reluctant to show his gay side in a Muslim country.
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    Mar 08, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    Maybe not being so dramatic would help with future relationships. A sea of love is great, but not when one is being drowned. No emtion is good when uncontrolled.
    I'm sure you'll find someone someday, for I do believe even those who are grumpy and lonely have someone out there for them. For they say that special someone will love all of your faults, because they don't see them as such but what makes you you. And yeah maybe finding someone who isn't str8 just looking for an easy fuck would be nice.
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    Mar 08, 2009 9:44 PM GMT
    There is someone out there for everyone - yes, someone can fall for you! But don't spend the energy on someone that wont because you're not his type! You cant expect somebody to fall for you while you're chasing and going crazy over guys that never will! If your home country is an issue, then leave. That, or expect that you may never be able to actively search for or associate with guys that will be able to fall for you. Otherwise, you're wasting your time...
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    Mar 08, 2009 10:13 PM GMT
    Roshan16 saidAlright guys, i get the point. But the thing is tht whenever i'm attracted to a straight guy i tend to get all mushy over him (all these guys started as friends in the first place). Slowly, but it so happens that over time i tend to do things that a girlfriend wud do... like bringing him his fav breakfast, give him gifts, do special things, give him special attention, take care him like a bf. And the 4 guys i had my "so called affair" with didn't mind my this kind of behaviour and wud actually like it, thus giving me wrong signals tht they too had same feelings for me too......it's only after months whn it feels like they're fed up of me or sumthing, do things tend to end.....me left with a broken heart.

    Haven't slept with anyone yet.

    Why do straight guys give such signals which cud mean that they're falling for you...............

    has anyone else been in my place?


    PS. The current straight guy in my life just sms'ed me yesterday saying that he cudn't go on with me any longer, but won't break our friendship though. He works with me in the same office......i'll be meeting him tomorrow for the CONFRONTATION!


    uhhh are you deluding yourself into thinking these guys are "sending" signals? being nice to you and/or accepting gifts or special attention does not mean anything, I think your are assigning meaning to things that they probably never have a second thought on, women do this all the time, and it creates huge expectations that will lead to resentment and situations like this, if they are str8 they will never date you/love you/want to be with you. Drama is, as Drama does.
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    Mar 08, 2009 10:31 PM GMT
    kneedraggen saidZimster lives in Dubayy. Why don't you contact him. He might be able to introduce you to the gay community. The only problem is that he has not posted recently...so it may be hard to reach him...
    You need to stay away from the st8 guys...you can't convert one...Even a bi guy would be reluctant to show his gay side in a Muslim country.


    And there you go. Do a search for your area and contact guys. It doesn't even have to be on this site. Your not ugly. You shouldn't have any problem finding a guy. Just consider straight guys like girls. Off limits.
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    Mar 08, 2009 10:46 PM GMT
    Try not to confuse the affections accepted by and returned to you as romantic expressions when you are spending time with straight men.

    Something I absolutely love about men today, at least here in the states and the places I've traveled, is their capacity to be loving and affectionate with other men regardless of sexuality and romantic inclination. I'm seeing some beautiful relationships between men: gay couples that are really in love with each other; and straight men or straight and gay combinations of men where there is a profound camaraderie and affection. It's really wonderful to see.

    Some of these straight men can get confused as well when they start having feelings for other men like this. Especially younger men where everything is fairly new. They may question their sexuality and experiment a little. It can all be nebulous for everyone.

    They're not giving the wrong signals. You may be interpreting their signals with a hopeful attitude because you are lonely and really want to share your life with someone special. No?

    It sounds like you are getting a crash course in all of this. And you'll get through it just fine. It's not easy to find a mate, regardless where you are. With all of our myriad personality traits and conditions, finding that special compatible someone can take a long time. Don't be in a hurry. And definitely discriminate when it comes to your feelings developing for a man you know to be straight.

    I think kneedraggen's advice is right on. Get in touch with the men in your city on here and perhaps any other sites that are available to you. Start networking. Maybe try dropping your primary motivation of finding a man and simply get to know some of the men in your community there and just see...

    Your last entry does suggest that you're a little into dramatizing all of this. Get the drama in check now before it takes you for a ride and your entire romantic life totally shits the bed.
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    Apr 06, 2009 5:14 AM GMT
    hmm stright guys here in dubai if they love males they would love only for sex cuz duba now have 70% of girld what dou expect from that lol also there is some people around here like to play around people thats y im starting to hate my own country LOL sometimes i wish from the god to erase this fantastic country -.-

    as a local from dubai take advice never be in love with stright guys and there is no grantee if they love u they would not stay long enugh wih u in dubai but if u fly to another country that perhapsicon_neutral.gif as the people said here try gay guys -.- also u canask the person wht his sexaul before u fell i love with him ;d,felling stright ahead is wrong idea lol


    im searching for true love too but cant find here....still i dontcareicon_twisted.gif