I might be dating a rice queen?

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    Jan 31, 2018 1:59 AM GMT
    I've been talking to this guy for a couple months - he's been wanting to meet since before Christmas, and I finally found time to start seeing him a few weeks ago. I usually prefer other Asians (he's white), but we really hit it off and he's basically hotter than any model. But most recently, on our 5th date, I met his friends, and most of them are Asian. One of them half-jokingly called him a rice queen, which he insisted is not true. He said his last two exes were Arab and black. While walking down the street together, we bumped into another Asian friend of his, who greeted him like an old lover. He's also 6 years younger, and a lot of those twink/jock types r fickle. I'd hate to be part of some rice queen's erm, pokemon collection, and there seems to be no way to really find out where I stand, without seeming paranoid and insecure! Any suggestions?
  • mybud

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    Jan 31, 2018 8:13 AM GMT
    I don't understand how your friends could use the term " rice queen " and you not being offended.
  • NOLAman13

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    Jan 31, 2018 8:31 AM GMT
    Pokémon collection?! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • mystery905

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    Jan 31, 2018 12:06 PM GMT
    If you like him too I don't see the problem. You are his type. I hate how gays always like to label things to make them bad.
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    Jan 31, 2018 9:18 PM GMT
    mystery905 saidIf you like him too I don't see the problem. You are his type. I hate how gays always like to label things to make them bad.


    Then you, sir, don't know what it's like to be fetishized. It's the ultimate form of racism, masquerading as love.
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    Jan 31, 2018 9:25 PM GMT
    OP, have you checked his fb friends? I bet you have. If most are Asian (or other persons of colour), then you have your answer.

    My asian bro, beware of the white man who mostly dates coloured guys (asians, browns, blacks, etc).

    My advice: don't act Asian around him. Think of all the stupid Asian stereotypes (submissive, bottom, indecisive, easy-going, lacking backbone, being a house-bitch/slave to the white man, etc, etc), and act the OPPOSITE around him. See how quickly he turns.

    Better yet, just use him for sex, then dump his ass for a better catch: another Asian dude, who actually sees you as a person and not by racist stereotypes.
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    Jan 31, 2018 10:53 PM GMT
    Lesbian_Lover said
    mystery905 saidIf you like him too I don't see the problem. You are his type. I hate how gays always like to label things to make them bad.


    Then you, sir, don't know what it's like to be fetishized. It's the ultimate form of racism, masquerading as love.


    I wouldn't listen to the crap coming from the hidden profile. If you're dating the guy, and you two like each other, just see where it goes. It's hard enough to find a partner these days without worrying whether a guy might have an ulterior motive for liking you. If it doesn't work out - well, it just doesn't.
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    Jan 31, 2018 11:32 PM GMT
    Puppenjunge said
    Lesbian_Lover said
    mystery905 saidIf you like him too I don't see the problem. You are his type. I hate how gays always like to label things to make them bad.


    Then you, sir, don't know what it's like to be fetishized. It's the ultimate form of racism, masquerading as love.


    I wouldn't listen to the crap coming from the hidden profile. If you're dating the guy, and you two like each other, just see where it goes. It's hard enough to find a partner these days without worrying whether a guy might have an ulterior motive for liking you. If it doesn't work out - well, it just doesn't.



    Bwahaha. This coming from a white guy with only a private pic. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 01, 2018 5:09 PM GMT
    Labels , labels , labels , why do we need to label people ? icon_eek.gificon_confused.gif
  • smegnificient

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    Feb 02, 2018 3:07 AM GMT
    Someone as effing gorgeous as the OP would surely be wasted on a rice queen.

    Though the more important part is what his guy chooses to do with his preferences. I dated a guy who was really into black guys, bu he was loyal to me for 2 years until I lost interest. It would've been a different story if he was the kind of person who cashed in on the racist advantage he has in the gay community and went through tons of black guys just because he can.
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    Feb 06, 2018 1:53 AM GMT
    Puppenjunge said
    Lesbian_Lover said
    mystery905 saidIf you like him too I don't see the problem. You are his type. I hate how gays always like to label things to make them bad.


    Then you, sir, don't know what it's like to be fetishized. It's the ultimate form of racism, masquerading as love.


    I wouldn't listen to the crap coming from the hidden profile. If you're dating the guy, and you two like each other, just see where it goes. It's hard enough to find a partner these days without worrying whether a guy might have an ulterior motive for liking you. If it doesn't work out - well, it just doesn't.


    Well it's not like I don't have options haha. Also wasn't born yesterday... got no time to waste on a guy only to be made a fool of...


    Lesbian_Lover saidOP, have you checked his fb friends? I bet you have. If most are Asian (or other persons of colour), then you have your answer.

    My asian bro, beware of the white man who mostly dates coloured guys (asians, browns, blacks, etc).

    My advice: don't act Asian around him. Think of all the stupid Asian stereotypes (submissive, bottom, indecisive, easy-going, lacking backbone, being a house-bitch/slave to the white man, etc, etc), and act the OPPOSITE around him. See how quickly he turns.

    Better yet, just use him for sex, then dump his ass for a better catch: another Asian dude, who actually sees you as a person and not by racist stereotypes.


    Well it was obvious from day 1 that I was the masc top and he was the fem btm, so it wasn't one of those pairings. I'll probably just let him take most of the initiative until I know more about him and whether he is going down the stereotypical rice queen path.
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    Feb 09, 2018 6:50 AM GMT
    Lol I see, well I think you should follow your gut. But from the sound of it, you don't like this guy much lol.
    If that's the case, leave him and let him find someone else that actually likes him. If not, then hang around
    and see where it goes. From my experiences, guys who have a *very specific taste, they tend to be closed minded
    and it'll never going to work out.