How Do You Manage Your Sexual Identity At Work?

  • louisatloyola

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    Feb 04, 2018 10:59 PM GMT
    Hey there!

    I am conducting an academic study that examines how sexual identity is managed at work. I am looking for participants who are currently employed and identify as non-heterosexual (e.g., LGBQ, pansexual, fluid, etc.).

    For your participation, you may choose to enter a lottery at the end of the study to win a $25 Amazon Giftcard.

    For more details about the study or to access the survey, follow this link: https://surveys.luc.edu/opinio6/s?s=68342

    I appreciate your interest and time!
  • ftrcna

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    Feb 06, 2018 11:33 PM GMT
    Took the survey for you! icon_smile.gif
  • Apparition

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    Feb 07, 2018 12:32 AM GMT
    americans only
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Feb 07, 2018 12:55 AM GMT
    I gave up around question 55... way too many repeat questions phrased barely any differently
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    Feb 07, 2018 1:05 AM GMT
    How Do You Manage Your Sexual Identity At Work?
    No survey needed to tell you!

    1. I dress & groom for success.
    2. No tie-die, no colored wrist bands. Just classy clothes & accessories!
    3. I don't talk about my sexuality ever. The only brand I need is my personality.
    4. Judge me by my work ethics, work skills etc. That's all!
    5. Why do people like to "chill"? Because when I do talk about politics (outside of RJ, lol) I might be a
    little more snarky!
    6. The guessing game is far more fun and they can try to figure it out.
    7. I don't need to be a gay CEO 2be somebody. I know who I am.
    8. My social media accounts (business related) NEVER mention Politics, Religion, or Sexuality! EVER!

    Have a nice day!
  • bro4bro

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    Feb 07, 2018 1:54 AM GMT
    craycraydoesdoes saidI gave up around question 55...


    Wow, if there really are 55 questions (or more) I want nothing to do with it!

    Anyway, surveys like this usually frustrate me because they tend to do a poor job of anticipating the right questions to ask. And I can imagine that counts double for academic surveys about the non-academic workplace, which for them is a completely foreign environment (no it isn't like what you see on TV).

    But here's a short summary of how I managed my sexual identity in the aerospace industry for 21 years:

    I didn't talk about my sexual orientation.
    Nobody asked me about my sexual orientation.
    Nobody asked me if I was dating anybody.
    Nobody talked about their own sexual orientation.
    I had no idea whether most of my coworkers were single or married.
    The ones who I knew were single never talked about whether they were dating anybody.
    Basically, nobody talked about their personal lives at all.

    I used to think people were hesitant to divulge anything about their personal lives due to the overzealous security environment. Background checks were regular and thorough, coworkers are expected to inform on each other, and you could lose your security clearance as well as your job if the wrong thing popped up (like a DUI) or if they thought you were hiding something (like being gay, back in the day). But eventually I realized that isn't it. It's an engineering environment. If it doesn't have a microchip in it, those people just plain aren't interested.
  • Ubeaut

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    Feb 08, 2018 3:38 AM GMT
    I had a look and filled in the survey, only lie I had to tell was where I live as I'm not USA.

    The design of the survey is bad, they have no non-American group to compare contrast with, so the researchers won't know if these are peculiarly US results or have any sort of global significance.

    There were some very strange questions.
    Q13 asked about wearing a wedding ring to appear heterosexual. But same sex marriages are recognised in all US states. So how does a wedding ring make someone look like they are in a same sex solemnised relationship?
    Q19 asked about discussing sex in the workplace. That would be a disciplinary offence in my workplace, as we have strict policies about sexual harassment.
    Q31 asked about LGB friends calling at work, again we have workplace policies about taking private phone calls except in family emergencies. Nothing to do with the sexual identity of the caller.


    There were absolutely no questions about discrimination or violence in the workplace or support from management.

    It's a garbage survey it will have no truths to the interpretations the researchers try to spin on it.
  • JackNNJ

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    Feb 08, 2018 3:48 AM GMT
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  • Apparition

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    Feb 08, 2018 6:08 AM GMT
    most of the people i work with have big red rolling toolboxes with pictures of their families in them, like 8x10's. I usually comment on them. They ask if I have kids, I say no i live with my bf. Not really an issue.
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    Feb 08, 2018 6:26 AM GMT
    2bnaked saidHow Do You Manage Your Sexual Identity At Work?
    No survey needed to tell you!

    1. I dress & groom for success.
    2. No tie-die, no colored wrist bands. Just classy clothes & accessories!
    3. I don't talk about my sexuality ever. The only brand I need is my personality.
    4. Judge me by my work ethics, work skills etc. That's all!
    5. Why do people like to "chill"? Because when I do talk about politics (outside of RJ, lol) I might be a
    little more snarky!
    6. The guessing game is far more fun and they can try to figure it out.
    7. I don't need to be a gay CEO 2be somebody. I know who I am.
    8. My social media accounts (business related) NEVER mention Politics, Religion, or Sexuality! EVER!

    Have a nice day!




    Some of us are encouraged to be ourselves at work, a much different experience then yours, when you are out work, you certainly bring out the homophobes who disapprove, that is the only 'problem' I have had icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Feb 08, 2018 7:23 AM GMT
    I am what I am.
    A homo in a quarter of a century SSR.
    If anyone's had an issue with that, it's not been in my face.
  • jeep334

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    Feb 08, 2018 2:29 PM GMT
    I was in supervision for most of my life. My gaydar is also pretty accurate. While there is a fine line between management and employee, part of my job was to know what the mind set of the employee was (primarily to achieve better production). While this led to some trust-worthy relationships, I never acted on anything sexual. I never felt that there was anything sexual between co-workers either. I worked in a white-elephant industry where there were tremendous health benefits, a solid retirement plan and a steady (and very good) income. It also took 12 hours out of our lives every day. None of us with a half a mind ever entertained the thoughts of personal pleasures at work. That was for time off and away from the work environment. It's far better to never mix the two.
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    Feb 10, 2018 4:24 AM GMT
    Just finished. I've been 'out' at my current job since I started 5 years ago. I'm a certified and posted 'Safe Zone'. Anyone who might notice knows, but it's not the most important thing to know about me nor usually the first. And that's consistent with who I am.
  • argus

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    Feb 10, 2018 4:16 PM GMT
    I live in a city where it is common for gay people to live openly with total acceptance. All my colleagues have met my partner.

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    Feb 10, 2018 4:38 PM GMT
    argus saidI live in a city where it is common for gay people to live openly with total acceptance. All my colleague have met my partner.


    That would be in the kingdom of anonymous proxy? icon_smile.gif
  • argus

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    Feb 10, 2018 7:42 PM GMT
    Muskelprotz said
    argus saidI live in a city where it is common for gay people to live openly with total acceptance. All my colleagues have met my partner.


    That would be in the kingdom of anonymous proxy? icon_smile.gif


    It's not a kingdom. It's a socialist republic.

    What is it out you RWNJs stalking my profile to find out where I'm from?



    First it was that freak Plooje,
    now you.


  • mybud

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    Feb 10, 2018 8:14 PM GMT
    I personally believe that openly sharing one's sexually is unprofessional. If you think about it, most straight co-workers don't use their sexually as a topic of discussion. If a trusted co- worker asks about my perference. I'd tell them..but I won't be defined by my gayness.
  • highforthis

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    Feb 10, 2018 8:42 PM GMT
    ^^I find that some gay guys have these self-imposed restrictions as an excuse for staying totally closeted at work. It's impossible for your coworkers to not ever mention their girlfriends or wives or dates, so why should it be any different for you?
  • mybud

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    Feb 10, 2018 9:03 PM GMT
    highforthis said^^I find that some gay guys have these self-imposed restrictions as an excuse for staying totally closeted at work. It's impossible for your coworkers to not ever mention their girlfriends or wives or dates, so why should it be any different for you?
    I respect your opinion, but beg to differ...
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    Feb 11, 2018 7:57 AM GMT
    I work in a department full of mostly pretty young people (under 30) where we all yack about our personal lives and problems, but I'm still not out. I guess I'm just not particularly close enough with anyone to share stuff like that.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Feb 11, 2018 1:25 PM GMT
    I am not out at work because I dont think that it is anyones damn business. I keep to myself and do my mundane, mailroom job.
  • argus

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    Feb 11, 2018 2:34 PM GMT
    mybud saidI personally believe that openly sharing one's sexually is unprofessional. If you think about it, most straight co-workers don't use their sexually as a topic of discussion. If a trusted co- worker asks about my perference. I'd tell them..but I won't be defined by my gayness.

    I personally believe that straight people openly sharing that they have a spouse and using said spouse's name is unprofessional. If you think about it people constantly reference their sexuality as a topic of discussion by talking about their kids. My partner has been to parties with me. It is no secret that I am gay. It is public knowledge.

    One young shop assistant asked brightly "are you two brothers?" The other clerks smiled at us as I said "no he's my partner."



  • splooje

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    Feb 11, 2018 5:58 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidI am not out at work because I dont think that it is anyones damn business. I keep to myself and do my mundane, mailroom job.


    When your coworker talk about their wife and kids do you say "it's none of my damn business, I don't wanna hear it!"? icon_lol.gif
  • Apparition

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    Feb 12, 2018 12:25 AM GMT
    and if you have an xmas party for work...do you go stag...and expect everyone else to as well?
  • Offset

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    May 10, 2018 7:42 AM GMT
    I'm usually out at work. I get shit for it sometimes yes, but that's their problem sadly. It becomes sad to accept sometimes. But oh well.