Finally....I laid the pimp hand down....

  • vindog

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    Feb 24, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    First off....I do not go to a "gay gym"

    There is a middle age guy at my gym. Very nice (esp to all the good looking men), but one of the "sauna to shower, sauna to shower, never works out" guys. We do the "stop and chat" when we see each other, but he does that to everyone.


    Anyway I'm sitting in the sauna, he comes in, we are chatting. I am toweled, he is nude. We both leave and the sauna opens up into a large group shower room with about 12 shower heads and no one it. I pick the shower in the corner with one showerhead next to it. Then, I hear the shower directly next to me turn on...and I look over and he asks me if I've seen "Benjamin Button." I look at him, look behind at all the empty shower heads, look at him, look at all the shower heads again. Then I say....

    "you really think, with all these shower heads, you need to be showering right next to me? can i have some personal space?"

    "But how can you hear me? It'll be too loud with the water running" he replies.

    "Is it REALLY that important that it can't wait 1 minute, man?" I ask.


    he storms off....didn't see him for awhile....def a little weird, but I'm definitely a forgiver.

    Public service? or am i just a jerk and/or prude for not letting another homo shower next to me?


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    Feb 24, 2009 11:40 PM GMT
    He´s the jerk. You get a much better view from the other side of the shower

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  • FrontRowIn

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    Feb 24, 2009 11:47 PM GMT
    He's one of three things:

    1. Very friendly
    2. Into you
    3. Sociopathic
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    Feb 25, 2009 12:10 AM GMT
    I wish I had the balls you have, to say things like that. My life would be less full of nuisances. So, I'm trying to say that while it probably wasn't a nice comment, it was effective, especially since he made you somewhat uncomfortable. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 25, 2009 12:15 AM GMT
    More people should do what you did.
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    Feb 25, 2009 12:25 AM GMT

    Well done! The troll needed to get zapped for overstepping one of life's invisible boundaries. Your fellow gym-goers owe you one.
  • EricLA

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    Feb 25, 2009 12:26 AM GMT
    Good for you! We have a few of these at my "straight" gym (both are 24 Hour Fitness, but given the other one I go to is in West Hollywood, it's more gay than straight -- especially the shower, sauna, steam room, and jacuzzi). There is one guy in particular, a big African American guy who just comes in. The first thing he'll do -- clothed -- is stare into the sauna then walk into the shower and check whose there. I've only seen him in the workout area once, and he was just standing around. He, in particular, annoys the hell out of me, but there are others.
  • josephmovie

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    Feb 25, 2009 12:31 AM GMT
    Kudos to you. A creep is a creep, even if they are polite.
  • Rookz

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    Feb 25, 2009 12:32 AM GMT
    The sad thing is, I'm slowly developing to be assertive. Part of it being the Asian culture & environment, thrown in contributions of my family. I wish I could go back in time when I was 18 and tell myself,

    "You have balls damn it! USE EM!

    And speaking of balls, you'll learn to like licking and sucking them! Pussy equals BAD! Bad BAD PUSSY! The only good pussy is a cat! And cats are only good inside pork buns!"

    Yep...if I only had a time machine.
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    Feb 25, 2009 5:10 AM GMT
    I am glad you spoke up. I have a sauna stalker too. I need to just confront him, politely, but confront him nonetheless.
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    Feb 25, 2009 5:23 AM GMT
    withHonor saidThe sad thing is, I'm slowly developing to be assertive. Part of it being the Asian culture & environment, thrown in contributions of my family. I wish I could go back in time when I was 18 and tell myself,

    "You have balls damn it! USE EM!

    And speaking of balls, you'll learn to like licking and sucking them! Pussy equals BAD! Bad BAD PUSSY! The only good pussy is a cat! And cats are only good inside pork buns!"

    Yep...if I only had a time machine.
    You are becoming one of my new faves here. Let that diva out.
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    Feb 25, 2009 7:11 AM GMT
    I dunno. Maybe he's just overly friendly? Was he checking out your goods while in the shower?

  • JewcyDude

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    Feb 25, 2009 8:13 AM GMT
    I definitely go to the gayest gym possible in LA - West Hollywood. There are many guys who definitely haven't stepped foot into the floor to workout but rather go straight for the sauna/shower/jacuzzi etc.

    I have no problem with this, cause they paid for the gym, they can use it anyway they want (well not anyway) and I actually don't even care about hooking up in the steam rooms showers etc as long as its done discreet enough or when there aren't other guys there that perhaps don't want to see it. Doesn't really bother me. Shit, sometimes its hot. Hey, im pretty open icon_smile.gif

    What I do get annoyed with is the people that will shower directly across from me, STARE, and I mean STARE to a point where it becomes uncomfortable.

    I have no problem with a guy checking me out, hell, it's a compliment! and I enjoy it, but there is a point where it turns into a creepy feeling. Ugh.

    I'm way to nice to say anything, I wish I was able to. Not in a mean way, but just to let them know that it's not cool.
  • jgymnast733

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    Feb 25, 2009 9:51 AM GMT
    I know what you mean, i hate it when someone invades me personal space and it's always some guy who looks like QUASIMOTO...
  • Sayrnas

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    Feb 25, 2009 10:01 AM GMT
    I turn on the "don't look at me, don't touche me, don't think about me" switch if that ever happenes...
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    Feb 25, 2009 10:32 AM GMT
    withHonor saidThe sad thing is, I'm slowly developing to be assertive. Part of it being the Asian culture & environment, thrown in contributions of my family. I wish I could go back in time when I was 18 and tell myself,

    "You have balls damn it! USE EM!

    And speaking of balls, you'll learn to like licking and sucking them! Pussy equals BAD! Bad BAD PUSSY! The only good pussy is a cat! And cats are only good inside pork buns!"

    Yep...if I only had a time machine.


    LOL. Same thing here. Even if I KNOW that another person is deliberately using me or taking advantage of me, as long as he is polite, something in me stops me from doing the right thing and simply telling him to fuck off.

    I still stay polite with the RJ cam trolls for instance when I tell them that no, I do not want to show them my nekkid butt... icon_redface.gif

    Still am. *sigh*
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    Feb 25, 2009 12:30 PM GMT
    OMG!!! I so know how you feel... I have posted almost the same scenario here before except the guy and I dont know each other or speak, but out of 20 shower heads that are all unoccupied this guy will come get by the one right next to me!!! SHIT!

    I mean hes hot and all but dam, can a brotha have some space? I dont know what he means by it and I dont even look at him, but it is so frickin annoying. I am proud of you for saying something dude....you got balls man and more power to ya dude, you did the right thing.

    these guys that just hang out in the "water" areas of the gym frickin annoy the livin crap out of me. I know they pay their membership, but I go to the frickin gym to work out and sometimes I go to the jacuzzi or steam room to relax!!! Not to get hit on and sucked off, DAM!!!

    I had a guy one time, while I was takin a shower just lean over and start sucking me off while I had my eyes shut washing my head!!!! I almost knocked that mf'r out.....
  • MikemikeMike

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    Feb 25, 2009 5:15 PM GMT
    I have been responding to forums for a few years and this almost identical story comes up alot?????icon_rolleyes.gif

    If true-

    another reason to go to the gym at night and shower when you get home.
    Solved.
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    Feb 25, 2009 5:52 PM GMT
    Just joined this site and am enjoying the comments.

    I agree with the importance of being assertive. The only thing I would add is make sure it's done with some degree of respect. Some people equate being assertive with being an asshole, and that's seldom productive. I've found treating people with respect more often leads to being respected.

    BTW, not saying you weren't respectful, just making a point. Glad you spoke up!
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    Feb 25, 2009 6:03 PM GMT
    What a bunch of pansies. Listen to you all whining and moaning. Being cruised is no big deal.

  • Rookz

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    Feb 25, 2009 6:04 PM GMT
    Thanks for speaking your mind redheadguy.

    We do appreciate the information that you have provided, for here in RealJock it's an open place to speak one's mind. But...Nobody cares!

    I'm being assertive, yeah! Or being a jerk.
  • Tiller66

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    Feb 25, 2009 6:11 PM GMT
    Well you did the right thing the only other thing to do was to say to him"what the hell are you doing talking don't you have something to take care of,Bitch"icon_twisted.gif
  • tas_515

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    Feb 25, 2009 6:57 PM GMT
    FrontRowIn saidHe's one of three things:

    1. Very friendly
    2. Into you
    3. Sociopathic


    Alternatively, he's all three of these. icon_eek.gif
  • vindog

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    Feb 25, 2009 11:44 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidWhat a bunch of pansies. Listen to you all whining and moaning. Being cruised is no big deal.



    Could be.....

    OR


    Perhaps we are moving forward as a people were having meaningful relationships with people is more fulfilling than being cruised by a creep in a gym.

    It's not a gay gym. I'm nice to everyone, and I'm still nice to him today. It was weird at first but I am not into grudges. Perhaps I did a small public service by doing this? He'll think next time about doing it to someone else.

    ESPECIALLY

    since its not a gay gym, someone could have taken a much meaner (and physical) approach to dealing with it