Miasma saidBathhouses are disgusting and for disgusting people. A very ugly and depraved aspect of the gay world.
I assume you have been to a lot of them then? Otherwise you are passing judgment on people and places you know nothing about.
Bathhouses vary considerably in terms of the clientele, the atmosphere and the cleanliness. They are there to provide a sexual outlet to gay men. They often have fitness facilities, as well as the saunas and showers. But their primary purpose is for men who want casual sex to meet each other.
They have a couple of advantage over bars or internet hook-up.
1. Men are there to have sex, so you don't have to worry about mind games.
2. You are not going to take home a psycho for a one night stand. Once the sex is over that is it.
They also have some potential disadvantages. Some of the men that go there are frequent visitors and have probably had a lot of sexual partners. Therefore, the odds of them having a STI are probably higher than someone you meet at a bar or on the internet. You should practice safer sex like you would with guys that you meet at a bar or through the internet.
Also if you are not that attractive or older you may get rejected by other men that you want to have sex with. It can be a harsh environment. But like I said there are no mind games, this is reality at its most basic.
I live beside a gay bathhouse in Toronto. When I workout I can see men of all ages entering and exiting. It does seem to attract an older clientele though. Some bathhouses attract a much younger crowd, it really depends on the establishment.
Bathhouses seem to have made a comeback over the years. In Toronto there are at least 5 I believe, including one outside the gay neighbourhood located in Little Italy. I am pretty sure closeted married men frequent them since they are safer than going to a park and are pretty anonymous.
Frankly to me bathhouses are no better or worse then hooking up with a guy over the internet or at a dance club. Just a different venue. It is still casual sex, and the rules of safer sex still apply.