Gym Crush Stare

  • Theshygymguy

    Posts: 4

    Feb 10, 2018 2:09 AM GMT
    Hello everyone I’m new to all of this, this is my first post on this forum. Anyways, getting right into the subject, I ve been going to the gym for almost 6 years now and I’ve notice this cute red/blonde headed, blue eyed guy that goes pretty much at the same time, same days as I do. He has tattoos on his arm and on his leg and is super good looking. Not to be conceited or anything but I consider myself to be good looking as well but am very shy when it comes to the social life and getting to know people. So let’s go back about four months when I first notice this guy, had him under my radar, as months passed now in 2018 I’ve grown emotions towards him without even knowing him, why? I’m about to explain......

    I’m not dumb and I know the difference between an innocent stare, friendly stare, or even a sensual stare. Now I can always be wrong I am human lol. So backtracking, first time I notice him staring at me and didn’t pay much attention, I didn’t stare back just kinda played it off looking somewhere else, days passed n I grew the balls to stare back at him and held the stare and he held his as well. Pretty much every time we are at the gym we stare at each other, no grin, no smile, no frowning, no nothing but only locking eyes. What does this mean? We stare at each other with pretty much no emotion!

    If I’m using a cardio machine he will get a machine that’s in front of me such as the treadmill n run as in he wants me to notice him badly, I know for a fact he’s shy, I feel that he gets nervous when I walk towards him..

    Few days ago, we both went to the gym, I went to the restroom and as I was coming out of the hall he was working out on the floor mat, he was staring at me n I kinda looked at him, he then saw me n I looked away quickly. I think he senses something just like I do. Furthermore, I was working on a cardio machine right next to him, we both didn’t look at each other for nothing, ignored each other, didn’t turn or anything, what should I do to break the ice, I don’t wanna come off as a creep. Btw: I wanted super bad to introduce myself to him and just be like “I’ve seen you pretty much everyday, my name is blank”

    In conclusion, every opportunity we have to look
    At each other we do. Please give me good advices, btw; I cannot tell for sure if he’s gay, bi, or str8. But I have a feeling he wants to at least befriend me? Idk I’m super lost, it’s driving me nuts! I think about him 24/7 and it’s not healthy for me or my brain! Help!!!!!

    What should I do?
    What kind of face should I make if he stares at me again?
    Should I smile, or will that give it away?
    Should I just grow some balls n go up to him and introduce myself next time that we get close?

    Some quick facts lol:

    We both wear headphones.
    We both have nice bodies.
    The reason why I’m shy and usually am not the person to go up to anyone is because I’ve been hurt plenty of times.


    Help me out guys, thank you! Will be posting how things turn out.........
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    Feb 10, 2018 2:15 AM GMT
    Try asking him to spot for you. That might break the ice.
  • metta

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    Feb 10, 2018 4:03 AM GMT
    I don't have an answer for you but I do wish both of you luck!
  • Element1313

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    Feb 10, 2018 5:00 PM GMT
    The problem is that you are both bottoms . A top would have made a move by now.



    uote][cite]Theshygymguy said[/cite]Hello everyone I’m new to all of this, this is my first post on this forum. Anyways, getting right into the subject, I ve been going to the gym for almost 6 years now and I’ve notice this cute red/blonde headed, blue eyed guy that goes pretty much at the same time, same days as I do. He has tattoos on his arm and on his leg and is super good looking. Not to be conceited or anything but I consider myself to be good looking as well but am very shy when it comes to the social life and getting to know people. So let’s go back about four months when I first notice this guy, had him under my radar, as months passed now in 2018 I’ve grown emotions towards him without even knowing him, why? I’m about to explain......

    I’m not dumb and I know the difference between an innocent stare, friendly stare, or even a sensual stare. Now I can always be wrong I am human lol. So backtracking, first time I notice him staring at me and didn’t pay much attention, I didn’t stare back just kinda played it off looking somewhere else, days passed n I grew the balls to stare back at him and held the stare and he held his as well. Pretty much every time we are at the gym we stare at each other, no grin, no smile, no frowning, no nothing but only locking eyes. What does this mean? We stare at each other with pretty much no emotion!

    If I’m using a cardio machine he will get a machine that’s in front of me such as the treadmill n run as in he wants me to notice him badly, I know for a fact he’s shy, I feel that he gets nervous when I walk towards him..

    Few days ago, we both went to the gym, I went to the restroom and as I was coming out of the hall he was working out on the floor mat, he was staring at me n I kinda looked at him, he then saw me n I looked away quickly. I think he senses something just like I do. Furthermore, I was working on a cardio machine right next to him, we both didn’t look at each other for nothing, ignored each other, didn’t turn or anything, what should I do to break the ice, I don’t wanna come off as a creep. Btw: I wanted super bad to introduce myself to him and just be like “I’ve seen you pretty much everyday, my name is blank”

    In conclusion, every opportunity we have to look
    At each other we do. Please give me good advices, btw; I cannot tell for sure if he’s gay, bi, or str8. But I have a feeling he wants to at least befriend me? Idk I’m super lost, it’s driving me nuts! I think about him 24/7 and it’s not healthy for me or my brain! Help!!!!!

    What should I do?
    What kind of face should I make if he stares at me again?
    Should I smile, or will that give it away?
    Should I just grow some balls n go up to him and introduce myself next time that we get close?

    Some quick facts lol:

    We both wear headphones.
    We both have nice bodies.
    The reason why I’m shy and usually am not the person to go up to anyone is because I’ve been hurt plenty of times.


    Help me out guys, thank you! Will be posting how things turn out.........[/quote]
  • StevenKal

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    Feb 10, 2018 5:03 PM GMT
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    Even if your profile was verified, Theshygymguy, I find it hard to believe you're shy. You mentioned how, "supposedly" good-looking you are a couple of times. Anyway, there're so many ways you can handle this situation. It just depends on the type of person you are. Based on your quick facts if I was you I'd ignore him. Also, you might want to rethink your reasoning for not going up to people. I'm a rape survivor, but that doesn't stop me from meeting new people. When you verify your profile feel free to message me, otherwise good luck!
  • gayv

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    Feb 12, 2018 8:11 PM GMT
    Element1313 saidThe problem is that you are both bottoms . A top would have made a move by now.



    uote][cite]Theshygymguy said[/cite]Hello everyone I’m new to all of this, this is my first post on this forum. Anyways, getting right into the subject, I ve been going to the gym for almost 6 years now and I’ve notice this cute red/blonde headed, blue eyed guy that goes pretty much at the same time, same days as I do. He has tattoos on his arm and on his leg and is super good looking. Not to be conceited or anything but I consider myself to be good looking as well but am very shy when it comes to the social life and getting to know people. So let’s go back about four months when I first notice this guy, had him under my radar, as months passed now in 2018 I’ve grown emotions towards him without even knowing him, why? I’m about to explain......

    I’m not dumb and I know the difference between an innocent stare, friendly stare, or even a sensual stare. Now I can always be wrong I am human lol. So backtracking, first time I notice him staring at me and didn’t pay much attention, I didn’t stare back just kinda played it off looking somewhere else, days passed n I grew the balls to stare back at him and held the stare and he held his as well. Pretty much every time we are at the gym we stare at each other, no grin, no smile, no frowning, no nothing but only locking eyes. What does this mean? We stare at each other with pretty much no emotion!

    If I’m using a cardio machine he will get a machine that’s in front of me such as the treadmill n run as in he wants me to notice him badly, I know for a fact he’s shy, I feel that he gets nervous when I walk towards him..

    Few days ago, we both went to the gym, I went to the restroom and as I was coming out of the hall he was working out on the floor mat, he was staring at me n I kinda looked at him, he then saw me n I looked away quickly. I think he senses something just like I do. Furthermore, I was working on a cardio machine right next to him, we both didn’t look at each other for nothing, ignored each other, didn’t turn or anything, what should I do to break the ice, I don’t wanna come off as a creep. Btw: I wanted super bad to introduce myself to him and just be like “I’ve seen you pretty much everyday, my name is blank”

    In conclusion, every opportunity we have to look
    At each other we do. Please give me good advices, btw; I cannot tell for sure if he’s gay, bi, or str8. But I have a feeling he wants to at least befriend me? Idk I’m super lost, it’s driving me nuts! I think about him 24/7 and it’s not healthy for me or my brain! Help!!!!!

    What should I do?
    What kind of face should I make if he stares at me again?
    Should I smile, or will that give it away?
    Should I just grow some balls n go up to him and introduce myself next time that we get close?

    Some quick facts lol:

    We both wear headphones.
    We both have nice bodies.
    The reason why I’m shy and usually am not the person to go up to anyone is because I’ve been hurt plenty of times.


    Help me out guys, thank you! Will be posting how things turn out.........
    [/quote]

    I don´t think the fact of two of them being bottoms is a problem. A couple of bottoms or a couple of tops can be perfectly happy.
    I don´t know if he and the person who wrote the thread are bottoms. How can you suppose it?
    For me, the question is all about signals. If they are clear or not. I don´t know how to answer this question.
  • FRE0

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    Feb 12, 2018 8:23 PM GMT
    I do not understand this top and bottom stuff; to me it makes no sense.

    From advertisements in the personals section of "The Advocate" in the early 1970s, it was obvious that the vast majority of gay men at that time were not interested in anal sex so there was no "top vs. bottom" dichotomy. Why there is now is unclear.

    A survey here on real jock.com indicated that affection was more important to the majority of gay men than sex. So, it would appear that two gay men could ignore that "top or bottom" stuff and have a good relationship.

    As for the two guys at the gym, I don't feel qualified to give advise although the suggestion to ask to be spotted could be a start. Also, I suggest getting rid of the headphones. They make communication much more difficult, including asking if one could share weights, etc.
  • Theshygymguy

    Posts: 4

    Feb 13, 2018 12:43 AM GMT
    Just got back from the gym, saw him, he saw me, nothing was said but only stares. Now i think hes playing hard to get and so am i lol, or maybe not hard to get but rather hard to talk to. I can tell hes been hurt in the past because he puts on pretty much the same i put on, kind of serious, almost like with a shield.

    We both wear headphones, now he does seem like the pretty shy type, and he seems hes there to work out just like i am. I was using a machine right infront of him, him lookig forward at me n he kept staring, and so did i, then i looked somewhere else and so did he.

    Can someone please tell me what to do, like i need an expert at this point! This is driving me nuts. Should i go up to him? What should the conversation be about? Should i ask him about his tatts? Or should i just tell him “ hey i see you pretty much everyday, my name is blank”? Would this work?

    I dont know if this is healthy for me but im always rushing to go to the gym in order to see him there, not sure if he does the same. Only if the people we like had a button to press to let them know we got something for them lol

    Anyways guys help a young man out. I will appreciate it forever! icon_smile.gif
  • ChicagoSteve

    Posts: 1599

    Feb 13, 2018 1:18 AM GMT
    FRE0 saidI do not understand this top and bottom stuff; to me it makes no sense.

    From advertisements in the personals section of "The Advocate" in the early 1970s, it was obvious that the vast majority of gay men at that time were not interested in anal sex so there was no "top vs. bottom" dichotomy. Why there is now is unclear.

    A survey here on real jock.com indicated that affection was more important to the majority of gay men than sex. So, it would appear that two gay men could ignore that "top or bottom" stuff and have a good relationship.

    As for the two guys at the gym, I don't feel qualified to give advise although the suggestion to ask to be spotted could be a start. Also, I suggest getting rid of the headphones. They make communication much more difficult, including asking if one could share weights, etc.


    Yes, lose the headphones when you see him, it makes communication more difficult. A while back at the gym a younger guy and I were making eye contact. One day I was on one of the spin bikes on the exercise floor and he came up and took the one next to me. I wasn't wearing headphones and he was, so it's really pretty hard to start up a conversation. Recently I have seen another young guy at the gym, and we did these stare contests. Neither of us wear headphones, and at this age I am to the point of not giving a fuck anymore. I smiled at him, and over the course of a few weeks started saying hi. We never had any long conversations, just small talk. Then one day I noticed he was with another guy, and to me it was very clear that they were together. Another one bites the dust!
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    Feb 13, 2018 2:56 AM GMT
    IF he and you come to the gym at a regular time, next time come early, and wait across the street. When he approaches, enter at the same time, get adjacent lockers, and say something simple, like "how's it going today?"
  • Theshygymguy

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    Feb 13, 2018 3:54 AM GMT
    Thanks guys for the replys! U guys rock! Sometimes he comes early sometimes i come early just depends, sometimes he doesnt come at all. Lol (joke)

    Im going to grow some balls and talk to him next time atleast introduce myself. I mean worst case senario is that he ignores me and leaves me there standing like a dumbass. We live and learn right? I really like this guy, dont know any personal things about him wether he has a gf, is single, or lives alone.

    Should i leave him a note on his car saying you have a gym crush! Lol or wish him a happy vday? I dont wanna get caught tho lol is this risky?


  • Element1313

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    Feb 13, 2018 7:22 AM GMT
    This kind of coy behavior defines a bottom. A bottom will be crushing on a guy and purposely avoid him. They will go home after and cry but never make the first move. And a bottom wants a dick in his ass, not another guy who also wants a dick in his ass. As a total bottom once told me, “I just can’t give”.


    gayv said
    Element1313 saidThe problem is that you are both bottoms . A top would have made a move by now.



    uote][cite]Theshygymguy said[/cite]Hello everyone I’m new to all of this, this is my first post on this forum. Anyways, getting right into the subject, I ve been going to the gym for almost 6 years now and I’ve notice this cute red/blonde headed, blue eyed guy that goes pretty much at the same time, same days as I do. He has tattoos on his arm and on his leg and is super good looking. Not to be conceited or anything but I consider myself to be good looking as well but am very shy when it comes to the social life and getting to know people. So let’s go back about four months when I first notice this guy, had him under my radar, as months passed now in 2018 I’ve grown emotions towards him without even knowing him, why? I’m about to explain......

    I’m not dumb and I know the difference between an innocent stare, friendly stare, or even a sensual stare. Now I can always be wrong I am human lol. So backtracking, first time I notice him staring at me and didn’t pay much attention, I didn’t stare back just kinda played it off looking somewhere else, days passed n I grew the balls to stare back at him and held the stare and he held his as well. Pretty much every time we are at the gym we stare at each other, no grin, no smile, no frowning, no nothing but only locking eyes. What does this mean? We stare at each other with pretty much no emotion!

    If I’m using a cardio machine he will get a machine that’s in front of me such as the treadmill n run as in he wants me to notice him badly, I know for a fact he’s shy, I feel that he gets nervous when I walk towards him..

    Few days ago, we both went to the gym, I went to the restroom and as I was coming out of the hall he was working out on the floor mat, he was staring at me n I kinda looked at him, he then saw me n I looked away quickly. I think he senses something just like I do. Furthermore, I was working on a cardio machine right next to him, we both didn’t look at each other for nothing, ignored each other, didn’t turn or anything, what should I do to break the ice, I don’t wanna come off as a creep. Btw: I wanted super bad to introduce myself to him and just be like “I’ve seen you pretty much everyday, my name is blank”

    In conclusion, every opportunity we have to look
    At each other we do. Please give me good advices, btw; I cannot tell for sure if he’s gay, bi, or str8. But I have a feeling he wants to at least befriend me? Idk I’m super lost, it’s driving me nuts! I think about him 24/7 and it’s not healthy for me or my brain! Help!!!!!

    What should I do?
    What kind of face should I make if he stares at me again?
    Should I smile, or will that give it away?
    Should I just grow some balls n go up to him and introduce myself next time that we get close?

    Some quick facts lol:

    We both wear headphones.
    We both have nice bodies.
    The reason why I’m shy and usually am not the person to go up to anyone is because I’ve been hurt plenty of times.


    Help me out guys, thank you! Will be posting how things turn out.........


    I don´t think the fact of two of them being bottoms is a problem. A couple of bottoms or a couple of tops can be perfectly happy.
    I don´t know if he and the person who wrote the thread are bottoms. How can you suppose it?
    For me, the question is all about signals. If they are clear or not. I don´t know how to answer this question.[/quote]
  • gayv

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    Feb 13, 2018 8:56 PM GMT
    Well, you think what you want. I know bottoms and also tops who have this same behavior. So, according to my experience, definitely it´s not a standardized behavior of bottoms. In my opinion, each one is different and acts as wants or can.
    Element1313 saidThis kind of coy behavior defines a bottom. A bottom will be crushing on a guy and purposely avoid him. They will go home after and cry but never make the first move. And a bottom wants a dick in his ass, not another guy who also wants a dick in his ass. As a total bottom once told me, “I just can’t give”.


    gayv said
    Element1313 saidThe problem is that you are both bottoms . A top would have made a move by now.



    uote][cite]Theshygymguy said[/cite]Hello everyone I’m new to all of this, this is my first post on this forum. Anyways, getting right into the subject, I ve been going to the gym for almost 6 years now and I’ve notice this cute red/blonde headed, blue eyed guy that goes pretty much at the same time, same days as I do. He has tattoos on his arm and on his leg and is super good looking. Not to be conceited or anything but I consider myself to be good looking as well but am very shy when it comes to the social life and getting to know people. So let’s go back about four months when I first notice this guy, had him under my radar, as months passed now in 2018 I’ve grown emotions towards him without even knowing him, why? I’m about to explain......

    I’m not dumb and I know the difference between an innocent stare, friendly stare, or even a sensual stare. Now I can always be wrong I am human lol. So backtracking, first time I notice him staring at me and didn’t pay much attention, I didn’t stare back just kinda played it off looking somewhere else, days passed n I grew the balls to stare back at him and held the stare and he held his as well. Pretty much every time we are at the gym we stare at each other, no grin, no smile, no frowning, no nothing but only locking eyes. What does this mean? We stare at each other with pretty much no emotion!

    If I’m using a cardio machine he will get a machine that’s in front of me such as the treadmill n run as in he wants me to notice him badly, I know for a fact he’s shy, I feel that he gets nervous when I walk towards him..

    Few days ago, we both went to the gym, I went to the restroom and as I was coming out of the hall he was working out on the floor mat, he was staring at me n I kinda looked at him, he then saw me n I looked away quickly. I think he senses something just like I do. Furthermore, I was working on a cardio machine right next to him, we both didn’t look at each other for nothing, ignored each other, didn’t turn or anything, what should I do to break the ice, I don’t wanna come off as a creep. Btw: I wanted super bad to introduce myself to him and just be like “I’ve seen you pretty much everyday, my name is blank”

    In conclusion, every opportunity we have to look
    At each other we do. Please give me good advices, btw; I cannot tell for sure if he’s gay, bi, or str8. But I have a feeling he wants to at least befriend me? Idk I’m super lost, it’s driving me nuts! I think about him 24/7 and it’s not healthy for me or my brain! Help!!!!!

    What should I do?
    What kind of face should I make if he stares at me again?
    Should I smile, or will that give it away?
    Should I just grow some balls n go up to him and introduce myself next time that we get close?

    Some quick facts lol:

    We both wear headphones.
    We both have nice bodies.
    The reason why I’m shy and usually am not the person to go up to anyone is because I’ve been hurt plenty of times.


    Help me out guys, thank you! Will be posting how things turn out.........


    I don´t think the fact of two of them being bottoms is a problem. A couple of bottoms or a couple of tops can be perfectly happy.
    I don´t know if he and the person who wrote the thread are bottoms. How can you suppose it?
    For me, the question is all about signals. If they are clear or not. I don´t know how to answer this question.
    [/quote]
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    Feb 13, 2018 11:02 PM GMT
    Theshygymguy said

    Should i leave him a note on his car saying you have a gym crush! Lol or wish him a happy vday? I dont wanna get caught tho lol is this risky?


    No. Not if you really want to meet.
  • Theshygymguy

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    Feb 14, 2018 12:36 AM GMT
    Just got back from the gym once again and i can officially say that i GIVE UP! As i walked in i spot him on the treadmill running so thats basicaly what i do once i get to the gym, i run. So i hope on the machine next to him. Nothing happens i finish running and i get off and go do biceps. He finishes and hops on another cardio machine so then i join him n hop on the machine next to him and what does he do? He quickly gets off, as soon as i hop on the machine 5 exact seconds pass and he gets off like if i stink, like if he he dislikes me! icon_sad.gif i dont know, now is he playing hard to get, is he being a bitch to me just like i am to him? Does he want my attention, does he dislike me? Does he hate me? I dont know but im giving up, he is too hard to persue. Im just going to do me, life sucks.... icon_sad.gif
  • metta

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    Feb 14, 2018 7:32 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear it didn't work out.
  • mybud

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    Feb 14, 2018 9:23 AM GMT
    Theshygymguy saidJust got back from the gym, saw him, he saw me, nothing was said but only stares. Now i think hes playing hard to get and so am i lol, or maybe not hard to get but rather hard to talk to. I can tell hes been hurt in the past because he puts on pretty much the same i put on, kind of serious, almost like with a shield.

    We both wear headphones, now he does seem like the pretty shy type, and he seems hes there to work out just like i am. I was using a machine right infront of him, him lookig forward at me n he kept staring, and so did i, then i looked somewhere else and so did he.

    Can someone please tell me what to do, like i need an expert at this point! This is driving me nuts. Should i go up to him? What should the conversation be about? Should i ask him about his tatts? Or should i just tell him “ hey i see you pretty much everyday, my name is blank”? Would this work?

    I dont know if this is healthy for me but im always rushing to go to the gym in order to see him there, not sure if he does the same. Only if the people we like had a button to press to let them know we got something for them lol

    Anyways guys help a young man out. I will appreciate it forever! icon_smile.gif
    You're delusional...He's staring at you cause you're constantly staring at him...You said,"I know he's been hurt". YOU'VE NEVER TALKED TO HIM..Really?... You're bat shit crazy. That guy should switch gyms....
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    Feb 15, 2018 11:20 AM GMT
    Theshygymguy saidJust got back from the gym once again and i can officially say that i GIVE UP! As i walked in i spot him on the treadmill running so thats basicaly what i do once i get to the gym, i run. So i hope on the machine next to him. Nothing happens i finish running and i get off and go do biceps. He finishes and hops on another cardio machine so then i join him n hop on the machine next to him and what does he do? He quickly gets off, as soon as i hop on the machine 5 exact seconds pass and he gets off like if i stink, like if he he dislikes me! icon_sad.gif i dont know, now is he playing hard to get, is he being a bitch to me just like i am to him? Does he want my attention, does he dislike me? Does he hate me? I dont know but im giving up, he is too hard to persue. Im just going to do me, life sucks.... icon_sad.gif


    Stop being a fucking pussy and talk to him before you run off with your tail between your legs... percentage wise there are not a lot of gay men out there. If your not comfortable putting yourself out there and expect everybody to come to you then your going to be lonely as fuck.
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    Feb 15, 2018 11:49 AM GMT
    Maybe you can try initiating the conversation by asking what time it is or something similar to that and just by trying to be positive and smiling. But i think that staring into someone may make them feel uncomfortable, so a little sight here and there would be better. : ) The best kind of relationships grow from friendship so maybe try to look at all of it from that aspect. Maybe it will happen but maybe not. Whatever happens, just know that when God closes one door for us, the other gets opened. And when we least expect, the best thing might happen. : ) ^-^